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ASIAN AMERICAN ISSUES
AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
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sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests. Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
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To: Thoughts….
Comments inline again:
“And I have 2 answers for you:
1. I was flipping through one of my sister's magazines the other day. We were on a flight to visit family, and I was bored and wanted to check out some babes. There was a percentage of that nature listed.
2. They are brainwashed that being blond gives them more advantages (socially, economically, you name it). Therefore, they dye.”
No, these are not answers. These are your assumptions. In #1, you’re saying it was what you saw in a magazine while on the airplane that proves, as you stated earlier, majority (60%) of brunettes dye their hair because they’re brainwashed. It’s not proof of this society; it’s simply what you saw on a magazine for a few hours. In #2, you’re assuming that brunettes are brainwashed, and then you conclude they dye their hair based on your own assumption. Dude, it’s a far stretch to claim that one person is brainwashed, and you’re claiming quantitatively 60% of brunettes are brainwashed. What about Asians who dye their hair?
”Please re-read my post. I said that it is considered safe in the media to portray Asian female/Non-Asian male relationships.”
What part of the entertainment income comes from white Americans? What part of it comes from Asian Americans? So, by appealing to which sector will the entertainment industry profit the most?
”It doesn't have to be pictures, per se. You see it in commercials, sitcoms, soap operas, the whole shebang.
Yes, it is very good that they did not alter much with the storyline. My whole point was that Hollywood couldn't BECAUSE they were auto/biographical. Capisce?
You gave an either-or argument regarding the media. I think there is a middle ground between the 2 axis.”
I’m not saying it’s either or; I’m saying it’s a choice for people to be spoon fed, and you’re saying people have no choice and we are all utterly at the mercy of the media.
”Sell outs don't know that they're sell outs, until a third party steps in and shoves that reality in front of his/her face.”
Some do, and some don’t. But whatever action they take, it’s their choice. Sellout is an attitude, and it’s a person’s choice to keep or change the attitude.
And you still didn’t answer me. What films portray lead Asian women with non-Asian men? And since you don’t find Elizabeth Hurley beautiful, mind if you send her my way if you find her naked in your bed? Thanks in afvance.
Repost
Thursday, August 29, 2002 at 20:42:57 (PDT)
To: Azn-Pride
Ok, Brother, I trust you. I never contested that advertisements affect us. I drink Diet Coke. I can finish two Double Gulps (64oz) of Diet Coke a day no problem. Without advertising, soft drinks that can corrode a metal spoon will never be as popular.
But I don’t drink Gatorade. It’s got nothing to do with wanting to be like Mike or not (isn’t it Mike who’s the face of Gatorade?). It’s full of garbage carbs from fructose. See, it’s my choice.
Commercial advertising is a cost to generate revenue, not to spread the message that if you’re not white, you’re not attractive. The bulk of the revenue generated in America is from white people. Why? They outnumber us by many times. So why wouldn’t advertisers cater to the white people?
But do you really think advertisers blindly want to insult Asians? Of course not. That’s bad for business. That’s why there’s target marketing. Even the ads my company runs is different here in the SF Bay Area than in, say, Tulsa, Oklahoma. Same ad, same slogan, but different faces. You’ll almost always find an Asian face here, but you’ll never find one in Tulsa, Memphis, etc.
And when you get into the web technologies, you start using applications like WebTrends to analyze user patterns. Then the sites target the users because sites are incented by the profile of users shown as well as click-through. So if your site is dumb enough to blindly show Tampax tampon ads, you’ll only get women and a bunch of perverted men to click through.
But the general mass media doesn’t have the data that a web site can get. So they use the shotgun approach – hit the 80% and forget the rest. And we, as minorities, are usually the rest.
Repost
Thursday, August 29, 2002 at 20:42:17 (PDT)
CG:
I think a lot of AM only go after AF because they think that WF and others aren't interested in them. But this is changing and AF get bent out of shape because they enjoy the monopoly they have on AM.
This is also why AM tend to get upset as well at the all the AF/WM couples because they feel that all they have are the AF. If they realize that non-AF are indeed interested in them then they won't care as much. Personally, I don't care how many AF/WM couples I see because it leaves more WF to me.
SUAG,
"Yes, it's terrible but AM are finding that WF do find them attractive and WF are discovering that AM will date them. Others may not like it but they won't be able to stop it and will just have to deal with it."
Too true! Especially girls like Thoughts (aka Backlash), and MLK; Asian women that come on here to try to re-convert Asian men back to Asian women, and insinuate that only they can understand Asian men.
Elizabeth Hurley is beautiful, ask anyone on the street (one of my boyfriend's cousins is absolutely in love with her!). ALL models and actresses spend money on their looks, and so do the rest of us non-Hollywood people.
I agree with Repost that the media has some effect on your thinking, but only if you let it. Noone is forcing you to read that magazine, turn on the TV, and blindly believe everything that they say. I don't let the media make me feel unattractive because I'm not 5'10, 120 lbs and model-perfect. There is this thing called free choice, and many AMs do indeed use it to date non-AFs.
Regarding the media, I think its influence is limited to changing what one group thinks another group thinks of them but doesn't actually change what the 2nd group really thinks.
For example, Asian guys incorrectly think that WF aren't interested in them because they don't see AM/WF in the media.
Women think that the ideal woman has a very skinny body but in reality the vast majority of men are dismayed by abundance of overly skinny women on TV, etc.
There were famous studies where tribes isolated from civilization were shown silhouettes of various female forms and they picked the same shape (a fairly shapely one) as men around the world. The media can change what women think men think is attractive but it can't reprogram men.
Even if a WF has never seen a AM/WF couple, if she's attracted to an AM, nothing can change that. Not the media, her parents, her friends or anyone else that might object.
A third example is the emergence of body image disorders among men since the media is moving onto males. Men feel inadequate compared to media representations and feel they have to be huge at any price. A lot of women don't like huge guys (gay men do, however), preferring men who are lean/cut/defined.
S.U.A.G.
Thursday, August 29, 2002 at 20:19:37 (PDT)
Kathleen,
Do you mean to tell me that my skin tone predispositions me to bitchiness? I guess my pals are telling me lies when they say I'm kinda mellow.
I don't think black and Asian women are the only ones to cry racism. Do you read the Wall Street Journal? There are tons of articles printed every year about the problems with "reverse racism" against white men. It's been my experience that people who make accusations like yours have absolutely no idea about what has or does happen to non-whites in this country.
It's funny. I live in Japan and the same kind of people who complained about non-whites crying racism in the US turn around and use it to their advantage here when something doesn't go their way.
Joy
Thursday, August 29, 2002 at 19:33:13 (PDT)
THoughts,
I agree with you 100% about sellouts not realizing they are even sellouts. A perfect example of that is the poster "not to be rude to anyone"-
He says he can relate so much easier to non-Asian Women. Yet, he cannot even relate to Asian Women. And he is an Asian Man. Perhaps he can't even relate to his own mother? It is sad because it reveals that he has a problem, and he cannot see it. It really sounds dangerously close to him having really messed up identity issues. And the way he speaks of other women being more beautiful than his own. I have nothing against interracial relationship. I do think it is important to love who you are, and appreciate where you truly come from ....before you can truly love someone else. If he cannot even love himself first, what sort of man is he?He then becomes a Useless Worthless Waste Of Flesh.
sci-fi wasabi
Thursday, August 29, 2002 at 16:23:20 (PDT)
Not to be rude to anyone...
Its getting old bro. Move on buddy. Okay then? its boring.
give it a rest! try obsessive compulsive disorders! GEEEZE!
Thursday, August 29, 2002 at 15:19:16 (PDT)
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