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ASIAN AMERICAN ISSUES
AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
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Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:38:55 AM)
sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests. Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
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"The media doesn’t make a person a sellout; the person chooses at his or her own free will whether or not to be a sellout."
There will always be a possibility that someone will be [i don't want to use the term sell-out, it's kinda negative] in IR. But.. the degree of that possibility is determinded by society, advertisment, media, etc. These do encourage the IR relationship in greater amount.
"I wouldn't blame the media for everything. You assume that without its influence, everyone would automatically stick with their own race."
If you take phylosophy, nothing can be use for everyone, nothing is 100% in this world. i.e A line can never be perfectly straight. Like i said there will always be a possibility that someone will married out of their race.
This doesn't have anything to do with media. It could just be b/c of love. But that IR marriage can be in greater amount if it was promote and encourage by others or the media.
"Without the media, there would be no sell-outs.
We'd be dating within our own races."
Not always true, read what i have on top. I do agree with you that it does affect IR to a certain level.
Azn-Pride
Sunday, September 01, 2002 at 07:47:37 (PDT)
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Repost,
Ok, the reason you might be drinking diet coke is b/c, you right, it is "your choosing". And off course advertisment doesn't effect everyone. It will be silly to think that it does. Nothing can effect every soul on this planet. But advertisment does affect a good amount of people.
you didn't drink Gratorade is b/c;
1- Your either not mike's fan (if he was on the ace of Gatorade).
2- Or your too old to believe that if your drink Gatorade, you'll be like mike.
3- Or you might be use to drinking Diet Coke, and that is why you decided to choose coke over Gatorade.
But...Advertisment for Gatorade does have it's advantage. If someone was to go to the store and see Gatorade at the counter. They will more likly buy it b/c it's advertise on t.v. They want to see how it taste, is it great as what it is said on t.v.? People will defintly buy it for this reason. Anyway I did just that. When I go to the store after a basketball game and see Gatorade, what comes to my mind is that I had see it on t.v commercial and decided to try it and see how it is for myself. If it wasn't on t.v my chance of trying it will be much more slim.
I was only using the term, commercial advertising as an example that t.v does affect people choice and thought on how they see life. Off course t.v is not to spread the message that if you're not white, you're not attractive. That is not what t.v is doing, it is not their intention to purposely do it. But they do send message. Some of these message are being absorb by the younger generation. For example, Model on t.v and magazine are defintly sending message that if your not slend, sexy, beautiful face, your not the perfect girl [not intentionally though]. And you know how many young girls are affect by this, "millions". One reason why you have young girls with eating disorder. They starve themselve loosing weight to look like models.
Advertisment doesn't necessarily have to be on t.v. It could be anywhere, even people from your own peers that you hang-out with. And again it does not affect everyone. But let's say for example if you were with your buddies. Now, you want to look kool infront of them showing them that you fit in and all. How are you going to do that? Well if they all had something kool on, nice kits. i.e., NBA shorts, jersey,and Jordan sneaker. [off course for people who don't value these product will not be effected, but.. they can gradually change and start valuing what their friend value. Not always true but usually] Now if all your friend has it, wouldn't you want it too b/c you want to fit in with them. I bet you would, i mean off course, again not all people can be affected by these advertisment. But most will, that is why you see trends. What is in, out, new, old, play-out, etc. Another example, girls with high heel, think they are sexy and cool. It makes them feel more like a women. It's a trend that girls follow from seeing other girls.
Correct me if i'm wrong but you mean the reason there are more white people on t.v is b/c there are more viewer from them [more of them]. And that the producer wants to generate revenue and would only target them by having them on [is that why they are on?]. So what if society changes and now every race is equeal in numbers, would they [producer] then have an equal amount of blacks, asain, spanish and whites on t.v? ans "Yes", according to you. And according to you, white out-number all minority so it is why they are on t.v most. And the reason why [base on your theory] asain aren't on is b/c there isn't enough market for them, they are the least populated. Now if that is all true then isn't is safe to say that t.v producer are also losing the 20% of [asain] minority viewer b/c they are not targeting them by having them on.
Azn-Pride
Saturday, August 31, 2002 at 21:01:55 (PDT)
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I really need someones opinion on something. I have not been able to find a forum that would fit my category. I am in a relationship with a black girl. We have a really good relationship. She lives in the same apartment complex as her mother, and 4 doors down. Everytime my girlfriend gets a paycheck, her mother constantly asks her for money. She asks her almost every single day for money. One time I came over to visit and my girlfriend was in tears because her mother had taken almost her complete paycheck, and left her broke for that whole week. At first I was blaming my girlfriend and saying that she should not give anymore money, and to just simply say no. I saw one time she told her no when she called my girlfriend at 5am one morning. Her mother was screaming and yelling to the top of her lungs that my girlfriend is selfish and mean, and does not love her. I could not believe what I was hearing! I had to comfort her and tell her not to listen to the mother's mean words. What can I do to help? My girlfriend and I want to get married, but the mother is making this whole thing difficult. My mother is no longer around, and I understand how important it is to have a mother in your life. But her mother seems to be verbally abusing her or something. Sometimes I hear the mother on the other end of the phone shouting at her things like,"You selfish Bitch!" I can't take this anymore.
Robert
Saturday, August 31, 2002 at 08:43:59 (PDT)
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I don't know about you guys, but the experience I get is that the sellout women always try to "rub in my face."
Yes, when they see a young and active looking Asian male, they want to show it off to them the most.
They make an effort to walk up to me when I try not to look at them. Usually I suspect it is the sellout Asian woman more than the white man with a fetish who's doing this to show the young Asian man his place.
I am Chinese-American and no way a meek nerdy guy. I talked with my best friend (who is Japanese-American) and he tells me he gets the same experiences. You see, those sellout Asian women would not rub it off on the weaker or more nerdy-looking Asian guys. They do it to the more tough or good looking ones.
It is as if they are making a statement more than they are in love with the white man.
Today, it just so f***in pisses me off. I was at the supermarket and this Asian woman (I suspect Filipina, Chinese or Japanese) was walking with her 2 mixed children (either white or Mexican as the father). Her man wasn't around. But, she also kept trying to follow me around. Everyone at the market smiled at her and her kids. Heck, when an Mexican woman walks around with her mixed-Asian kids, those same shoppers (who are mostly Hispanic) would not give them the smiles. There is always a double standard.
Anyways, I was lining up to pay for the groceries, when that same Asian sellout woman quickly came to follow me in the same line.
I want the Asian brothers to know that Asian women who sellout hate the Asian man more than she loves her white, black or Mexican man.
It is high time we pay them and this whole society BACK!!! We do the same and rub it back to their faces!!!
Don't ask me why, I don't know???
Friday, August 30, 2002 at 18:47:04 (PDT)
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"But do you really think advertisers blindly want to insult Asians? Of course not."
Where were you when the whole Abercrombie and Fitch episode took place?
Thoughts...
Friday, August 30, 2002 at 13:54:58 (PDT)
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Shout outs to Azn-Pride and sci-fi wasabi....whatz up?!
Repost, regarding your question...let me re-phrase what I said earlier, "Please re-read my post. I said that it is considered safe in the media to portray Asian female/Non-Asian male relationships." Repetition can work wonders.
Bro, you don't have any jurisdiction on telling me what is or isn't considered an answer. The same way that I don't have jurisdiction on telling you the same thing. Respect that.
It was a figure from a statistical survey. Surveys are given to willing volunteers, man. Their arms weren't wrung to put pen to paper.
The majority of brunettes that do dye their hair are influenced by the media that blonds have more fun. Haven't you heard that one? Or are you a FOB? Any other women (including Asians) that do that are influenced. I don't deny it.
You made my point yet again. Because America has more Whites than non-Asians, they are more likely to cater to Whites. This is the sector that they appeal to for more profit. As a result, we are brainwashed sub/consciously in thinking that if it's White, it's Right.
I never said people didn't have a choice. I say that advertant and subliminal media messages exist that shape our lives...for better, and sometimes for worse.
Sell outs likely don't want to change their attitude.
Thoughts...
Friday, August 30, 2002 at 11:22:00 (PDT)
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sc-fi wasabi, I think you're being overly harsh. Some Asian men are very grounded in their identities, but just find that their temperaments are better suited to WFs or other non-AFs. That doesn't mean they are selling out. A lot of Asian men are 2nd, 3rd, or even 4th generation American, and they have assimilated more into American culture, and maybe were raised in a more American way. This isn't to say that they reject their cultural heritage, just that their mindsets are different than a recent immigrant or a 1st generationer.
Joy, I'm glad you're back! We missed you. Don't let Kathleen get to you. How's life in Japan?
SUAG
"Even if a WF has never seen a AM/WF couple, if she's attracted to an AM, nothing can change that. Not the media, her parents, her friends or anyone else that might object."
Exactly. I can't remember ever seeing an AM/WF couple on tv or in a magazine, (can you?) and I very rarely see them on the street. Yet I am attracted to Asian men. Obviously this is not due to the media's influence. It's just a simple fact of who I'm attracted to.
curious girl
Friday, August 30, 2002 at 11:00:04 (PDT)
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