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ASIAN AMERICAN ISSUES
AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
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sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests.
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Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
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Curious girl,
I think there are a combination of factors at work here. I'm sure that some AM's do seek out non-AF's just to get back at AF's while others have given up on AF's completely. I do know a few of these. There is also a category of AM's that like both A and non-AFs but prefer non-AFs and the other way around as well. I think what really counts is not what's on the outside but the inside that counts. If the person has a good heart and attitude it shouldn't matter whether she's Asian or non-Asian.
I've actually been out with 2 ex-models previously (both non-AFs) and believe me they were actually the worst experiences in my dating history. They were just so into themselves all the time. (Mind you, I'm not saying all models are like this - but it just happened that both of these were; funny thing was they were the ones that initiated the contact and one even travelled here (Calif.) from Canada to meet me.)
I myself have dated primarily non-AFs after high school; not out of preference but because I find that they seem to be more open, out-going, and easier to approach. They seem to want to do more things and take chances. But, I see that starting to change now as more AFs are getting themselves out there. Two of my best friends are actually non-AFs and the majority of my female friends are non-A.
However, back to the subject at hand. Even AFs who date AM prefer AM who are tall which is not the majority of the AM population. So the shorter AM feels slighted (I myself am 5'6" which is average for an AM). It seems to me that AMs and BFs have the most difficult time finding mates because they are both partially shunned by their own kind. Now, that's just an observation.
I also believe the media (TV and movies) in particular influence our decisions a lot and potray not the masses but the minority and that is what people perceive as 'perfect'. For example the new 'Lucy Liu' movie being released will probably potray her with non-Asian males and suddenly all non-AMs will fall for AFs and AFs will likewise wish for a WM. Rarely do we see romantic interests between AM and WF actors and they are not publicized as readily as a AF/WM pairing. Even the with the Jet Li movies where there is a 'romantic' relationship with AM/nonAF we don't see them kissing/hugging or having any true romantic scenes as we do with AF/WM.
May I ask how to get to the Gender Divide board - I'd like to take a look at the comments on that board.
- Just commenting
Just commenting
Friday, September 06, 2002 at 05:54:53 (PDT)
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Yes, there are lots of AM who are just likely to be attracted to Latinas, Middle Eastern and East Indian girls as they are to white Anglo women. It depends on whom you meet and where they live.
It happens
Friday, September 06, 2002 at 00:42:59 (PDT)
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My input probably won't get posted because I'm admittedly a middle-aged white fella who has never been attracted to oriental women. However, in this day and age I have no problem with asian/caucasian relationships as this has become a part of american life. I agree with the young fellers who believe Hollywood has influence on the public. A few years ago I went to see the X-mas movie with Jodie Foster and Chow Yun-Fat and was amazed to see several WF/AM couples in attendance. But it's true you hardly see this combination because this is an anglo-saxon dominated population. --Milton
middle aged white guy tommeesam@aol.com
Thursday, September 05, 2002 at 23:45:56 (PDT)
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"I think many of us Asian men are seeking out women of other cultures because we feel slighted by the Asian women." --- Just commenting.
I truly hope that's not the reason. If so, you're trying to tell me that AM's who date non-AF's are similar to WM's who date AF's because WF's don't give them play. Don't think so. If I get slighted by one AF, I'll move on to the next one, and so on, and so on. And in between, toss in a few non-AF's for variety.
NotConfusedAsianDude
Thursday, September 05, 2002 at 21:17:28 (PDT)
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"...Do you think that some AMs seek out non-AFs just to get back at AFs? Or do you think that some AMs have given up on AFs and prefer to date non-AF's? And is there another category of AMs that like both AFs and non-AFs but prefer non-AFs?" --- curious girl
I date non-AF's because I like them. I date AF's because I like them. There's no retribution towards AF's when I am with a non-AF. As for giving up on AF's. Personally, I haven't given them up. I am just on a hiatus. Naturally, I'd lean towards AF's. But, a non-AF could also do the trick. Depends which gal I meet first.
NotConfusedAsianDude
Thursday, September 05, 2002 at 21:07:49 (PDT)
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Not Wanting To Be Left Out,
I'm going to let you know one thing before you make an ass of yourself... Asian me just aren't attracted to Black woman. Latina women, maybe. Black women just aren't as pretty or smart as White women.
Gotta face the facts sometimes.
Truth Hurts
Thursday, September 05, 2002 at 20:48:38 (PDT)
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Asian men are just hooking up with White girls to get back at Asian females. You think I'm kidding? I was at lunch with a White man. Not only is he my friend, but he's gay on top of that. In strolls this totally hot Asian guy with this blonde (what else?) girl. This guy sits directly across from me. He kept looking at me so I thought that he and the blonde were just friends. But OMG,he starts laughing loud, kissing/feeling on the girl, and sneaking glances at me all the while. What was up with that? I guess he was trying to make me jealous. Better luck next time.
Just Rats But I Still Love Ya
Thursday, September 05, 2002 at 20:42:46 (PDT)
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Courious 1,
I want to let you know that I don't have anything against you. And I hope you don't have it on me either. I guess I was wrong about what I said in the other post [hope you know which one i'm talking about]. I take it back. Anytime if you want to share and talk, your always welcome.
Azn-Pride
Thursday, September 05, 2002 at 17:55:32 (PDT)
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Kathleen, I'm kicking myself for responding to you, but oh well. My family loves my boyfriend, I've stated this many times. I've never stated that I thought I was better than you. I never mentioned that I am overweight; I am not. Yes I'm a brunette but that doesn't mean I'm not attractive; one doesn't have to be blonde to be attractive.
amtra- You said that non-Asian girls are way cooler these days than 5 or 10 years ago, how so?
Amused Guy, thanks for making that distinction. I can understand that some IR couples can be on the defensive in public because they expect to be stared at. There is nothing wrong with holding your head up high, no matter who you're dating.
curious girl
Thursday, September 05, 2002 at 10:42:40 (PDT)
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