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ASIAN AMERICAN ISSUES
AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
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sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests.
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Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
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I feel that it is okay to find people in your own culture attractive, even if you are in an interracial relationship. I am in an interracial relationship. My boyfriend is Asian. He still finds Asian women attractive, and that is very okay with me. We completely respect each other. I still find Black men attractive, and that is alright with him too. This is because it is healthy to have a deep appreciation of the men and women in your own culture. That is very healthy and normal self esteem. If you are truly in love with the person your with, it should not bother you that they find people in their own culture attractive. Self hatred is the REAL problem. When you are Asian and you say,"I just don't like Asian men/or women" or are a Black person saying,"I just don't like Black men/or women"
It is important to never forget where you genuinely came from. And to find beauty in yourself. Then if you are in an interracial relationship, you learn from each other and grow together without forgetting who you are. You can be in love with someone of a different ethnicity. Just don't ever forget who you really are. That is the key factor.
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Tuesday, September 10, 2002 at 08:00:31 (PDT)
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justanother AF,
I think do have to agree with you. I mean, what is so cool about Pocahontas? Shes not so great looking. Although, I do think that Truth Hurts is ignorant to think that white women are better than all women. I think his brain is fried.
Wudan Goddess
Tuesday, September 10, 2002 at 07:26:01 (PDT)
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justanother AF,
"only about 25% af go for whites, as shown in statistics."
I had a chance to review some of those statistics myself after that incredibly long and drawn out battle with that dumbass Matt Richardson on the gender divide forum. The statistics only show the AF that are married to WM. However AC Dropout made the very good point that Asians in general do not typically fill out statistics forms. Be it language limitations or what not. That in itself would make the data inconclusive. The fact that so many Asians don't fill out these forms would completely inflate any numbers towards IR marriages. Be it AM/non-Asian Female or AF/non-Asian Male.
AF (21),
"Usually these types of AM have some hidden, deep rooted racial inferiority complexes with themselves."
I couldn't of said it better myself. Bravo! Nothing wrong with IR dating but hating is unnecessary and just goes to show how pathetic some people are. I hang around a predominately Asian group of friends. I can account for any of them with this type of attitude thank god. So please don't think that all AMs think this way.
Proud 2 b Azn
Monday, September 09, 2002 at 21:53:33 (PDT)
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AF(21):
"Don't waste your time listening to it. Usually these types of AM have some hidden, deep rooted racial inferiority complexes with themselves
You know a little about what it's like to be an Asian Man in the US. It's kind of funny how you see it this way. Usually it's the AF making the AM feel that way and are actually proud of it..flaunting their fat, ugly WM around like a trophy, etc.
You seem like you care, and certainly wouldn't be one of those AF who we wish to put down. It's just too bad that your lesser sisters have put you in this predicament. Why I blame the AF? Well, lets say this. The AM would never have to leave the AF to seek greener pasteurs if the AF didn't choose to abandon the AM in the first place. Think about it. Read over these posts closely. Even the AM with non-AF girlfriends who really let the AF have it, actually give a . Otherwise they wouldn't be here in the first place. It's just a sad state of being, to be Asian. Hopefully things will improve. These forums serve to deliver the message and force people to think. Such I think is good.
NYC Asian Man
Monday, September 09, 2002 at 21:41:18 (PDT)
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"are you in strong hopes of erasing cultural Asian-ess if the child looks too asian?":
I'm definitely not sexually attracted to my mother or grandmother.
I actually find hapa women attractive so I don't anticipate a problem. Also, being aware of the importance of self-esteem in children, I would probably just lie if necessary. Most likely, I'd be able to truthfully say, "Your mom's hot and you inherited her good looks." I'm pretty sure most Asian guys would be all over my daughter(s) should I have one.
Also, I don't speak for all Asian guys. I was simply stating what I'm innately attracted to, not a blanket statement that all WF are better.
S.U.A.G.
Monday, September 09, 2002 at 15:19:36 (PDT)
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Hey JustanotherAF,
Lucky lady did not say AFs are unattractive. I read the post and she was actually defending for AFs'. She was saying that the AM "Truth Hurts" who said that BFs' are unattractive, and that WFs are better...(he was implying that he thinks White females are better than ALL women basically. Even better than his own) she was saying that AM like him is why AFs' don't want anything to do with guys like him. Because he feels even that his own women, AFs...are not good enough, and that WFs are better than them. Do you see now? All of the insulting you did was very unecessary. Not everyone here is against AFs'. Some of us have plenty of AF friends, and really get along very well with AFs and would even defend them. I think you may be a bit on the defensive side. I am not sure if maybe you have had some unpleasant experiences with BFs' or WFs or whatever. But not everyone is against AFs'.
Xeres
Monday, September 09, 2002 at 13:41:14 (PDT)
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From all these forums, it appears that one conclusion can readily be drawn: "That AA women are the most racist group, without precedence. Worse the AF is painted as being categorily PREJUDICED AGAINST THEIR OWN. I don't even think there's a term for something like that.
Honestly, the AM is just being smart by seeking greener pasteurs in my humble opinion.
Reality Sinks in For the AM
Monday, September 09, 2002 at 09:48:26 (PDT)
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Truth Hurts is probably some racist white dude. Or a sick asian dude. Either one is pretty disgusting.
Dae
Monday, September 09, 2002 at 09:12:54 (PDT)
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it really doesn't matter the color of the women you date, just find a woman. for some unknown reason i had much better luck dating white women(mostly from europe etc) than asian women i know i am better off marrying a korean woman since im korean but things happen for a reason so if i end up marrying a white woman and have biracial babies so be it.
Long Dong
Sunday, September 08, 2002 at 21:41:53 (PDT)
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lucky lady:
only about 25% af go for whites, as shown in statistics.
you may find af as being less attractive than other ethnic women but i don't give a rat's ass. that's just your view and you hapa bf's. i'm proud of the way i look.
though you said it was his words but it's quite clear you're satisfied w/ his comments being that AF are less attractive. you look like Pocahontas... duhhh...nothing to brag about.
justanother AF
Sunday, September 08, 2002 at 20:40:02 (PDT)
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S.U.A.G,
Is your mother and grandmother ugly? If you have a babygirl by a White lady, and this baby takes more after her Asian blood. Are you going to let the baby know that you think shes ugly? And when she becomes a woman, are you going to make sure to instill in her that no Asian man will really want her because she is ugly? And it is ugly to have Asian looks? That her beauty could never compare to White ladies? And if you also have another child that appears more White, will you go out of your ridiculous way to make that child feel its better than the sibling? And make the child feel it is more worthy of your love than the other?
are you in strong hopes of erasing cultural Asian-ess if the child looks too asian?
Sunday, September 08, 2002 at 14:49:11 (PDT)
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racism and hatred,
Don't feel alone about that. Some of these AMs do it all the time to AFs'. Bashing us down at every given opportunity, and telling us how WFs' are better than us and more attractive and brighter. Just look at it. Its all over the forum boards. "AFs are snobby and this way and that kind" and "I have a hot WF on my arm and all the AFs must obviously feel jealous!"
Don't waste your time listening to it. Usually these types of AM have some hidden, deep rooted racial inferiority complexes with themselves.
AF (21)
Sunday, September 08, 2002 at 12:05:48 (PDT)
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