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ASIAN AMERICAN ISSUES
AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
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sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests.
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Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
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justanother AF,
I read over the comment made by Lucky Lady. I see what you are talking about. When she was saying that her boyfriend is not attracted to Asian females. That is insulting. I don't know why people have to make it so clear to others that their boyfriends and girlfriends are not attracted to people in their own race. Its very insulting and doesn't prove anything. I did get her comment mixed up with the other "Truth Hurts" poster who said "Maybe Asian females don't go after Asian men because they don't find THEM attractive." I believe the person meant the same thing as "@" did about the self hate thing. Sorry for the mixup. I do see why you felt insulted from an empathy point of view. I have been there. There is alot of bashing that does go on. It mainly comes from the men who are Asian,White and Black toward their women. Some women do it too, but it seems to be a majority of men doing it to the women. And then this makes women who are non-whatever feel free to do the same thing for ex./ An orange man says he prefers green women over orange women because they are better. Then the green women get the big head and begin to join in saying,"Yes, orange women suck. They really ARE ugly."
sorry for the mixup
Thursday, September 12, 2002 at 07:44:23 (PDT)
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lucky lady:
not that i said you bragged.
i just think Pocahontas is lovely on screen, but any person in real life with the features like an animated character, look kind of weird, and i think she looks ordinary,nothing gorgeaous or outstanding(just my opiinion so don't take my words for it).And even if she looks asian, it sure wouldn't be a beautiful asian woman, just ok looking asian lady anyway. I didn't say she looks ugly either. you can't accuse me of being 'white wahsed' for having said that. if i said Bai ling is plain looking, does that mean i hate my asianness and am a whitewashed? if you don't think venus williams is beautiful for a black woman(well just an example i'm not sure if you do), does that mean you are a sellout?
I'm sorry if you feel offended by my last post.
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excuses won't help. face it.
great point. one can be in an IR and still appreciate his own culture and the women of his same race. just because a few baad apples are whitewahsed sellouts doesn't mean you have to lose respect for AFs as a whole. That attitude is reflective of a weak, bitter mind. the sad thing is people have the tendency to notice the bad more than the good. actually there are a lot of good afs out there. i've never been in an IR so i don't know how it feels to have a bf w/ self hate complex. but i guess he would go down several notches in my book.
btw, I have nothing agianst ir anyway. one can choose to be w/ whom they want to be, although i think i'd be more comfortable to date within my race. Live and let live..
even if a number of ams choose to date outside their race, there would still be a ton of hot looking,smart and confident AMS who love and respect Asian women for me to choose.:)
justanother AF
Thursday, September 12, 2002 at 01:45:44 (PDT)
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Curious 1,
Just checked this board and saw your post to me. I want to thank you for understanding and wished all the girls are like you. i'm glad your still writing and talking to me =-). You and girls like you, are the one I truly appreciate in this world.
Azn-Pride
Wednesday, September 11, 2002 at 20:51:03 (PDT)
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Why is it Asian men always complain about White women overlooking them. In fact, Asian men are the most discriminative race of men when it comes to dating women that are non-Asian and non-white. Are their only White and Asian girls on this planet? Maybe if you would open your narrow or racist mind a bit or two, you might be surprised there are many non-Asian and non-white women that may be interested in you.
I think Asian men concentrate too much on White women, it gets harder in the dating arena when you deliberately narrow you choices to one race of women.
PhD
Wednesday, September 11, 2002 at 20:49:50 (PDT)
[65.113.108.167]
Lucky Lady,
I don’t think MANY asian women are sellouts and brainwashed as you claim. There are sellouts in every group, in blacks as well. There are black female who dye their hair and bleech their skin
Only 25 % do marry outside (the exact number i think is lower and probably much lower. We also have to exclude quite a lot of csses because not all asians in IR do sell out. People are engaged in IR not for the sole purpose of getting a white trophy. There’s also love, understanding,.etc. You youself in an IR, i guess.you should understand this and have a more profound insight into this matter. What would you feel if some black accuse you as a sellout for going out w/ a man of asin ancestry? I’m not going to deny there are asian sellouts out there, but to say MANY AF are brainwashed is certainly wrong. The statement seem to single out AF while ignoring the sellout phenomenon in other races. Please don’t be prejudiced against us Afs.
justanother AF
Wednesday, September 11, 2002 at 17:28:23 (PDT)
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Tooth Fairy:
It's hard to evaluate relatives' appearance since one tends not to be attracted to relatives. Even if all my female relatives were hot, I don't think I'd be attracted to them. But no, my mother and grandmother are not ugly. I have no problem looking at them.
Most children are cute. They don't get ugly or beautiful until they get older.
It's nothing supernatural, attractive parents tend to have attractive kids. I did not say that the kids would be attractive because their mom is white but because she's attractive. Please separate race and attractiveness. If their mother was an ugly WF what would be the result? Obviously, simply being white or half-white isn't enough. Duh.
I only mentioned hapas because you went off on a wild tangent assuming that I would think my children would be ugly not only to me but all Asian men.
You obviously have a lot of issues and I'm not giving you the ammunition you need to go on another rant against Asian guys who date white women.
S.U.A.G.
Wednesday, September 11, 2002 at 17:20:46 (PDT)
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"Maybe to you, and Wudan Goddess, Pocahontas is nothing to brag about since she doesn't have blonde hair, blue eyes, and White skin...yet another symptom you just might be brainwashed!!"
hell no! lucky lady,she's not that great looking anyway. we are not brainwashed doeasn't mean you we have to have to compliment every somewhatasian-looking face we see. the animated features areanot that great lookin anyway, be it cinderlla or jasmine or whatever. NEVER EVER did i imply I like blonde hair, blue eyestype. so if I only bash gyneth paltrow, you 'd say i hate bolonde girls? If i say Lucy Liu is an unaatrractive asian woman, then i harbor self hatred. Weak and stupid argument. What you brought up is plain ridiculous and childish. But no, i'm not gonna complain about this w/ you because your argument is pointless and without foundation.
haha you can say watever you want on the net, just give me a pic of youself. who knows what you looks like.
Look, there are brainwashed AF just as there are brainwashed BFs and LFs.
I have a fair share of BFs friends and so far they've always been really sweet friends they get along great with me. None have the attitude you expose.
say watever you will to prove you come up w/ a good intention blah blah but deep deep inside I HAVE AN IDEA what you reaaly mean. I'm very sure what your intention is . me is pretty good at that. i actually didn't intend to reply you cos i kknow you will retort saying i'm hostile, or overreacting blah blah... but let me remind i never call your names or insult you anyway. if that's too harsh for you, i'll stoop by now, you oversensitive. i'm sorry i had to go of topic but that's my last rambling with you.
Peace!
justanother AF
Wednesday, September 11, 2002 at 16:12:43 (PDT)
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SUAG:
"Also, I don't speak for all Asian guys. I was simply stating what I'm innately attracted to, not a blanket statement that all WF are better."
Damn! You're as bad as the AF's that we all can't stand. And damn right, you don't speak for all AM. Hey people AM like this guy are extremely rare. Most people depicting his negative sentiments towards Asians are usually AF, from my experiences. I have a white girlfriend too, but I certainly don't think that way. SUAG, you need to get some help!!!! You're just like the sellout AFs everyone hates on these forums. God help us Asians!
NYC Asian Man
Wednesday, September 11, 2002 at 15:51:44 (PDT)
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Wudan Goddess:
I sure agree w/ you.
Hey Xeres:
HEY READ lucky lady's post carefully agian and you'll know what I mean . I hope luckylady and the others don't have the feeling i insult her because i don't thinh i did, nor do i have that intention. My defensive by no means bordered on insulting.May be i was a bit on the defensive, but the fact is Even if anyone thinks illy about AFs, i don't give an ape's shit , really. what people think is their buisness, and one 's not gonna change that. No matter what they think the fact is still there. what counts is what you see yourself. anyway, I can garantee you that Anyone who is willing to be friends with AF get my vote. no way in hell i'm gonna bash a bf or wf for sticking up for AF, unless it's quite the opposite.
anyway, that's too much for going a bit of topic.
IR is cool. but anyone engaged in an IR feel the need to bash asians, be it asian or non-asian just make a mockery of themselvs. nothing was revealed more clearly than insecurities.i wouldn't want to have a black or white boyfriend who bash or mock their own women. I don't think any woman would appreciate that.
just another AF
Wednesday, September 11, 2002 at 01:46:42 (PDT)
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Kathleen...
From your comment to me: "Are you jealous or something? Whats your problem? Men can be attracted to whomever they like. Why should they have to change their views to please everyone? Especially you? I think you are envious and have problems."
I'm not jealous. As a matter of fact, I am very secure. I'm simply pointing out that if this board is strictly for AM Seeking WFs then I'm in the wrong board and is there another one for AM Seeking Non-AFs, not just WFs? I did see your post apologizing for lashing out and I appreciate it. But I'm sure you can see from so many of the comments from AM here, that it appears the majority are simply referring to WFs when they speak of Non-AFs which is why I said (being mixed myself) that I feel left out...that's all.
Not Wanting to be Left Out!! :-)
Wednesday, September 11, 2002 at 00:47:36 (PDT)
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Azn Pride:
Hey! Just saw your post. Sure I'm still talking to you. Why wouldn't I? Everyone's entitled to their opinion and I don't see anything wrong w/what you've said. :-)
Curious 1
Wednesday, September 11, 2002 at 00:42:03 (PDT)
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"Im definitely not sexually attracted to my mother or my grandmother"
Who said anything about you being sexually attracted to them? I certainly never implied that. I asked you if they were both ugly women? (mom and grandmother) If you found them ugly? Please. Do not dance around the real issue that you have. You claim to love hapa children's looks. Do you think Asian children are cute? You are an Asian Man. You are not White and you are not a Hapa. You try to dance around the real issue by going on and on about how your children will somehow have some supernatural forces of nature and be so beautiful. Well. I doubt if you will think they are beautiful if they appear too ASIAN. Somehow, if they are a reflection of you. I noticed how you stated you would say to them,"You have your mom's hot looks" if they appear more White like her.
What about dad? Won't they be beautiful if they look like dad as well? Do you see? Your children will be still be beautiful, even if they turn out to have more Asian physical traits.
excuses won't help. face it.
Tuesday, September 10, 2002 at 13:17:45 (PDT)
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Thank you Xeres,
I did not imply that I think AF are unattractive. I don't know where Just Another AF's hositility is stemming from. I did not agree with my man that AF are unattractive, just that many of them might be brainwashed.
I also was NOT bragging that I look like Pocahontas, just trying to give a description of features that ONE AM finds attractive, and if you take a good look at her, she looks quite ASIAN anyway. Maybe to you, and Wudan Goddess, Pocahontas is nothing to brag about since she doesn't have blonde hair, blue eyes, and White skin...yet another symptom you just might be brainwashed!!
I get enough attention from men of all races that let's me know my looks ARE worth bragging about, even though I WAS NOT bragging. And by the way, I DO have AF friends, and they are very sweet and kind, not hostile like you. thanks!
LuckyLady
Tuesday, September 10, 2002 at 13:00:18 (PDT)
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