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Fathering a Son with Married Woman

I don't even know where to begin with this. I have a son. Unfortunately, to this day, I can never call him my son. I had an affair with a woman from Seoul. I never liked her, but a guy at my age at that time couldn't have resisted the opportunity. I never knew Inhee was a married woman until she told me she was pregnant with my child 5 years ago. We met in an evening computer and accounting class in a junior college. I was working full time back then, and college at night provided some relief from the stress and alienation of work. I needed the class to further my career. She was the only one of 3 other Asians in our class. I sat in the back of the room most of the times, and she often got a seat near mines. We talked a lot for one month in that back of the room. First it was from academics to personal life. Every night after class, I had more of a chance to chat with this lady over coffee and fast food. Sometimes, I saw hints of her being unhappy for whatever reason. During midterm, we knew we a tough exam coming. The 2 weeks prior to the exam, our professor canceled classes for us to study. I knew I needed help on this exam and so did she. I had to juggle work and school at the same time. Inhee offered to meet at the school's Carl's Jr. for review together between me and Inhee. I accepted thinking she knew more than I did. Well, on the 2nd day, I said we needed a more quiet place to study and review and she agreed because the library at that time was crammed and quite loud. I told her she can come to my apartment if she didn't mind. OK, one thing led to another and we had non-stop love for 2 weeks. She initiated it. I fell for it. I really thought this was the girl I was going to be with. For the rest of the semester, we made love on the weekends every week up until December. We took the finals, and I ended with high grades in that class. I felt happy it was over with and that I had a lovely girlfriend. Later that day after final exams, she took me out to our cars in the lot and told me she was 1 month pregnant. I didn't know how to react. I wasn't ready for this news. Then, she had tears running down her eyes and started crying. She said her husband would be coming from Seoul in couple weeks for Christmas. I was shocked. I asked her why she never told me she was married? It was too late. She cut off contact with me and I did not want to speak with her again. Yes, she is still living with her husband here in the USA. Her husband never found out the paternity of the child, because she did not have a large stomach to show it by the time he arrived from Seoul. She called me to say it was a boy. She cried again and said she will always only love me and no other until her last day to the grave. I hung up and wanted to cry too. And, all these years later I have never heard from her again. Why? Why this had to happen? I can never trust Korean women again. In fact, I can't trust any other women again. I still have feelings for all this. What should I do years down the line?
A pis.s.ed off Chinese man in S.F. Monday, October 08, 2001 at 18:13:26 (PDT)

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READER COMMENTS

Yeah, women suck. My wife and I aren't asian, but it doesn't matter. She pulled the same crap on me. I have been putting her through medical school and commuting 80 miles each way only to find out "she has strong feelings for a fellow med student." at this point i can't go on.
crushed mark in austin markallen1983@hotmail.com Friday, September 27, 2002 at 20:08:27 (PDT) [24.206.95.143]