ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

UK Expat, S.A. Expat, Elba & Asian female.


You guys must all live in some place other then the United States because if you lived in the U.S. you would see that there is a lot of cross cultural marriage between Indians and non-Indians. In the 60's and 70's a rash of Indian engineers and doctors came to the States and many of them married white women and some Phillipinas mainly because most of these women were nurses and the doctors unattached. Since then the trend for Indians to marry outside thier sub-culture is growing steadily. At first it was mostly Indian guys marrying white women but now you have Indian girls marrying white guys as well. I know 12 mixed couples personally. And the bounderies between Indian and Pakistani have also become blurred due to the fact that in the U.S. they still have more in common with each other then other nationalities. I realize that many Indians that live abroad still marry within thier own groups but that is less evident in the U.S. In U.K. you still have a white majority that looks down on Indians and all former non-white colonials and in South Africa...well the whites there are notoriously ignorant so what Indian would want to marry them and visa versa. In the States people don't have as many hang-ups as the old world cultures. You don't see as many Indians mixing with East Asains and Black people but I think East Asians and Blacks both mix with whites more then each other anyway (i.e. Asian women/white man and black man/white women). But this multi-racial trend among Indians is changing as well. And as far as the Caribbean is concerned Indians, blacks and East Asians mix together a great deal. Maybe you guys should come to the western hemisphere sometime before you make generalizations.
Cork    Friday, October 05, 2001 at 10:24:13 (PDT)
its all good..... just as long as your in it for the love and not the token..... there are some brothas out there that look for asain woman because they believe their push overs,,, talkin about " i need an asain woman, cause they dont talk back" thats BS... some asain woman woman do appear more quiet than others, but really a womans a woman... so if your in it for the love, right on, if your in it for something else STEP OFF!!!!!!!

EVERYTHING-SISTA    Wednesday, October 03, 2001 at 19:42:22 (PDT)
UK Expat, SA Expat, and everyone else:

Actually, it is more complicated than that. Indians do not mix with Pakistanis. In fact, most Indians have their marriages arranged or do not marry at all. If the marriages are arranged, it is usually within the caste.

Outside of the US, whites do not like to mix within themselves either. Most Dutch people marry Dutch, even the well educated Germans marry Germans (most believe in blood purity) and most English marry English. The whites mixed in America because they had American Indians and black population to deal with. They had a common "enemy" and had to stick together. Hence, we have the American whites, especially in the South where old world traditions have been replaced by the confederate flag.


Asian Female    Wednesday, October 03, 2001 at 16:00:52 (PDT)

Who cares if Indians don't mix. So what if most don't want to marry outside of thier own culture. So what its thier choice. That goes for anyone who sticks to his or her own race. I have no problem with interracial dating but when you start criticizing people for stickin together you sound like an idiot.
Elba    Tuesday, October 02, 2001 at 15:06:56 (PDT)
vincentlopez:
Those freaking Northeast or South Philly punks huh? It has died down so what since then. I understand what you're describing. I was very interested in a Chinese young lady in high school never went anywhere because of timing. She would actually ask me for help with work and just stare at me. And to make matters worse she was very, very shapely (36-24-36)and wanted me to come by her place. So it depends on the person. But never give up on a women because of her parents. Anything good worth having, doesn't come easy.

More excuses huh:
Those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it. That was not an "blame Whitey" fact, it was a history fact. Sorry you got offended that this points the finger at White atrocities, but could you give up soooo easily if some Asian and Afro-centric men beat the hell out of you?????

Asian women who knows:
Good lookin out!!!!! I learned something.

NeoKat    Tuesday, October 02, 2001 at 12:50:31 (PDT)
To "more excuses huh"
Greetings, I am trying to figure out
why your even here. For your edification, (that's 5 syllables) no one
on this particular board gives any
significance to your rather boring opinion. You see what you fail to realize my friend is that this particular board is accessed by Black men who are interested in Asian women.
Equally it attracts Asian women who are
interested, curious, or willing to discuss issues of common affinity with Black men. So where does your opinion fit in ? Quite frankly right down the shit hole ! Oh....I get it knucklehead,
you are the GREAT SAVIOUR of Asian women. You are here to rescue them from the evil clutches of the black bastards.
Well if an Asian women is attracted to
Black men, my mind tells me that there is not a damn thing you will be able to
do to change her mind. If if your asshole mentality leads you to believe
that you will be able to persuade other
Asian women from Black men, think again.
Asian women are getting more not less of
a chance to know Black men for a number of reasons which you have no control of.
By the mere presence of many educated,
successful black men on this board alone
blows apart your asshole theroies.
I always avoid long post, but felt strongly that a racist asshole such as yourself needed to be handed his ass on
his plate. Take care my friend and just
please illuminate us,
WHY ARE YOU HERE ???
the mulla    Monday, October 01, 2001 at 07:52:31 (PDT)
I've been with my wife(Chinese Lady) now for about 12 years (I am Black), but I really do feel sorry for some guys who can't meet their woman's family or feels that the lady is ashamed of them.

The only problems that I encountered was that at first when we started going out, we were young, very young, once we reached 18yrs ( been going out then for about 3 yrs) I started going to the family house for dinners.

I am probably lucky in that sense or maybe her parents accepted me because my family are wealthy( in order words..their daughter will be well taken care off!) we now have two children and I have never encountered any sort of prejudice except obviously occasional stares from other Asian people!

I really don't know what's the big deal about this relationship between Black & Asian because I've always believe that ladies, in fact any ladies are in their perfect right to go out with whomever pleases them! afterall it's their life and bodies, no one's.

Just because you are Chinese you have to stick to that race, I believe we are living in a free (democratic) world.

We are bound to interact, simple as that, especially in a multi cultural society.


if you don't like it ..leave the country!
Jordan, United Kingdom    Monday, October 01, 2001 at 04:56:23 (PDT)
S.A EXPAT

Bulls eye! on what you said about Indian
people!

The point is THEY NEVER MIX! PERIOD. Look at them all over the world where they are migrants. They (Indians, Pakistanis and so on)always stays with their own.
U.K Expat    Monday, October 01, 2001 at 04:24:10 (PDT)

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