ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

Seriously, there are two types of people who choose to date interracially...those who run into someone they like, and have a connection with them, regardless of them being the same race or not, and those who choose to date someone of another race because they feel their status among others will be lifted, they have issues with males or females of their own race, or they've heard about the myths or benefits of dating someone of a particular race(this group constitutes the superficial reasons, more or less). I'm black, and my girlfiend is Korean/Corean. There are gonna be people, and there already are people, who think both of us are either in the former group, and those that think we're in the latter group. To me, the most sincere interracial relationships come out of meetings where you never set out looking for someone of a different race...it just happens. Not everyone will agree with that, but that's how it happened with us.
Terry_`1978    Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 10:16:38 (PDT)
To STEFFI and GET REAL, You guys are both 2 of the most ignorant people to have ever walked the face of the earth, and comments like yours are not welcome here, I am an asian female that is very open minded, and even though my current boyfriend happens to be asian, that does not mean that I wouldn't go out with a african american male because I have in the past, and it was quite a pleasant experience,the primary reason I discontinued the relationship was due to my parents, but that's a long story, I know so many strong, intelligent, attractive, black men that are dogged by racist a**holes like STEFFI and GET REAL, so get off your racist soap box and preach your hate elsewhere. Stay stong guys, I know you have 2 deal with sh*ts like them all the time,and to my asian sisters out there, find at least one black guy out there that you find attractive, befriend him and really get to know him, you never know what might happen, and trust me the rumors (in bed) are oooooh so very very true.
Asian honey/ Los Angeles    Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 01:11:54 (PDT)
To: SydneyAsianfemale

I am an african american male and I will be visiting sydney for the first time in a week's time. Drop me a line and maybe we could have dinner or just chat. I think I am a good looking fella with a bit of brains and certainly not as negative as some of the gentlemen making comments on this site!!.
Drop me a line at davidtgo777@hotmail.com
davidtgo davidtgo777@hotmail.com    Tuesday, October 16, 2001 at 19:29:44 (PDT)
I've been away for a little while and I see the "madness" has flared up again!

We can go on and on for eternity over who has a fetish and who hates themselves and who deserves to be with who....and so on and so on.

People, life is too short to spend it arguing over things that don't matter at all in the end. Be true to yourselves, if you want to be with your own race, that's fine, if you want to be with someone of another race (whether by accident of "on purpose") that's fine too.

I know that I have had an interest in Asian women and Asian culture for most of my life. When I was younger I felt that this was "wrong" and I decided to forget it. I'm older now and I now understand that I've done nothing wrong and what I wanted as a young man wasn't wrong.

I hope to go to Japan in the next couple of years and if possible I intend to spend several years there and I hope to marry while I am there. I know that I will experience the same problems in a relationship with an Asian woman that I would with ANY woman, that just comes with any relationship. There will be cultural factors to contend with as well. But you know what? That's fine with me. I just want to live my life as I see fit and love whom I want to love.

I'm not rejecting black women, I'm not rejecting anyone. People here are trying to tell everyone else what they should do and how they should feel and that's not right, we are all responsible for living our own lives and dealing with the rewards and consequences of our actions.

I keep coming back here because I am hoping to find other people to talk to about Asian culture and being in a realationship with an Asian person. Fortunately for me I am taking steps on my own in the "real world" to meet and interact with asians and I am learning the language and culture and slowly finding my "path". It's not always easy and I may not end up where I intend to go but I want to take the journey anyway.

I'm not going to stoop to the level of some people on this forum and insult and ridicule people who don't agree with me, you have the right to feel the way you want to feel, AND SO DO I.

Remember, we are not promised tomorrow. Live your lives, do your best to be happy, if it's with someone of another race, so be it. You may be wasting precious time trying to explain it to others who will never agree with you anyway.
Thaihorse Thaihorse5@hotmail.com    Tuesday, October 16, 2001 at 14:41:15 (PDT)
Whatever, speak to the hand, cause face ain't listening!! this are the types of brothas in this forum, apart from a few exceptions!

First of all, I like women, all types of women, either yellow , black, white or even pink.

I wasn't brought up to be racist or prejudice, so its more easy for me to see women as women and not Asian or Black or White.

of course you cannot possibly deny that racism does not exist, we know it does, but hey, life goes on, or rather the struggle goes on.

Secondly, most of the posts here are derogatory to women and even more insulting to them. You guys sounds as if you are desperate for Asian Women.

I think women should be viewed as women and not...I like asian women, i prefer asian women, i only date asian women and so on.

Do you guys know how ridiculous you sounds? pathetic!

My main points of this post is that brothas are now getting desperate like White men for Asian Women. soon brothas will be purchasing mail order bride in an act of desperation.

Common guys we can do better than this!
if you want to post some comment here please THINK! THINK! THINK!


thinkbrothers    Tuesday, October 16, 2001 at 04:51:21 (PDT)
To: Steffi (REAL NIGGA 2001)

Ignorance just radiates form your message
...ha-ha! What race are you anyway? I'm not even going to ask your age, 'cause you sound like you're about 5 y.o..

To: "Brotha with Asian wife" I hear where you're coming from. Thanks!

To: "SydneyAsianFemale"

MORE POWER TO YA!
Curious African-American male    Tuesday, October 16, 2001 at 00:39:35 (PDT)
"since get real did not know who reginald(don't forget the "d") lewis was- we can safely assume get real doesn't know everything."

To: "get real: read all the article b4"

Wow, you'll have to tell me what it feels like to know everything. It's incredible to me that such a person exists. PLEASE, enlighten me! Hey Einstein! I think you can SAFELY ASSUME the same thing about EVERYONE! And DON'T tell me what I should and shouldn't do before responding to ignorant posts!

You know, this is a really sad forum here: I sense an incredible amount of negative self-images, low-self esteem and the general idea that "p*ssy is p*ssy and I don't care where it comes from." And most of all an overwhelming belief that "i'm a lowly black, but please please accept me, i just want to be with any asian or non-black chick who will take me because i know i am at the bottom of the totem pole, but i refuse to a black woman, i hate them so much because they look like me and my mom. i know all you asian girls prefer the best, which is white, but please, give me a chance or i cannot go on with my life. i hate myself soooo much!"

Half of you idiots don't even have the ability to write correct English! There is an assumption about White men who date Asian women, that they are, in general, "society rejects". Well, judging from what I've seen here, the same goes for you black guys! go ahead, attack me, but please do spell check first!
GetReal!!    Monday, October 15, 2001 at 08:39:04 (PDT)
Curious:
you have have been freeze dried, my brotha. You mention that you lived in a multi, and then pred white comm. Well... you should be able to answer the question you pose by examining your own experience. Have you not heard of conditioning to believe that "white" is superior ? Have you not studied the impact of brainwashing and mind control? on your own peeps. It sounds like you are painfully ignorant of your history and it's impact on the black community to this very day. Forget your trite question as it relates to Asian women just for the moment, and learn about your history and and how conditioning has contributed to the of self-hatred and self loathing of Blacks. In doing so
you will then be easily able to understand the conditioning, and brainwashing of the Asian woman. The results are one and the same though manifested in a slightly manner. Take it from the old man, when you do find the Asian woman that you desire it is imperative that you first help her understand the Black experience. She will need to understand that any children that you may have with an Asian woman will not be considered part Asian, mixed, or any of those other bullshit lables. They will be considered "Black" and your Asian wife will be a vital part of their development. Self knowledge my brotha.
Big brother with Asian wife    Monday, October 15, 2001 at 08:10:25 (PDT)

Curious African-American male,

I'm a 20 year old Asian female and I am definately not just attracted to white males as you mentioned in your post. I am attracted to African American males as well as men of all races, however because of where I'm living I haven't been with a Black man because there's none here. So, don't think that all Asian females are fascinated with white men ... because I'm not!
I just love the way African Americans look, their physique and their facial features as well :)
SydneyAsianFemale    Monday, October 15, 2001 at 00:00:04 (PDT)
REALNIGGGA2001,

Get a life. You perpetuate dumb stereotypes of "black Gorillas" with no intelligence and an over-actives sex-drive. You probably couldn't provide to keep a woman anyway. This is one woman who wouldn't even have fucked you in highschool, when I was boycrazy. Dumb, ignorant, horny men (a large number of them happen to be black) turn me off to no end. In case you haven't noticed, East Asia is a region of the world known for cultures based on strict ettiquette and values. African American men, especially the young ones, aren't "house-trained" very well at all, on the whole. They are sex-crazed, rude, and barbaric. The one way that "mandingo" crap is going to work is if you try to seduce a horny Asian teenager or if you try awhite teen with jungle fever.
Steffi    Sunday, October 14, 2001 at 14:16:02 (PDT)

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