ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

To Asian Honey: I just have a question. Why should you encourage Black men to date Asian women, when you know that all of them will have to deal with Racist parents, just as in your situation? Is there any Black man here who dated an Asian woman who didn't deal with Racist parents? It's really unavoidable and I really don't see what quality these women have that is worth dealing with such an ignorant family for the rest of your lives. You're better off dating a White girl, even White parents are likely to be somewhat less Racist than Asian parents. I have really never seen Racist people like Asians. They have really perfected this sick behavior. Just my 2Cents. Thanks!
JustMY2Cents    Friday, October 19, 2001 at 07:03:58 (PDT)
TERRY 1978


I dont agree with your two reasons for interracial dating.

I think there are three.

#1 The person runs into someone they find very attractive.
#2 The person has dated many people of their own race and it gets boring or
#3 The person HAS HAD NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES WITH PEOPLE IN THEIR OWN RACE and feel they could easily leave their dating pool and find someone better outside of it. A person whom they dont personally identify with.
JJW    Thursday, October 18, 2001 at 18:16:24 (PDT)
In response to "Think brothers":

I wasn't brought up to be racist or prejudice either, and, yes, I too see women as women; however, also realize the cultural baggage that may come with dating someone form another race, and thus, realize that to be a reason why some people have preferences.

There's nothing wrong with having a preference to whom you choose to date, marry, or whatever, for there are many different reasons why: Some, for superficial reasons (i.e. Physical attraction), others may involve deeper, personal reasons (i.e. cultural beliefs & practices), but whatever the case, people do have their right to choose...and, no, they're not ridiculous or pathetic for having done so.

As for "mail order brides", I see nothing wrong with hiring a service to help you find what you are looking for. Sure there may be some people who use them in desperation; however, I'm willing to bet, to some, it's just another way to go about finding what they want. I see nothing wrong with it. By the way, I'm not among the crowd of people who has use that type of service, FYI (for your info.).

What makes you think 'white men are "DESPERATE" for Asian women'? I mean, yeah, I do see them with Asian women quite a bit, but I don't think they're dating them because they're going out of style either. Can you please elaborate on your statement? By the way, I'm African-American (and male).
Casual Dreamer    Thursday, October 18, 2001 at 01:19:13 (PDT)
As an Asian female, I have found that some white people are narrow-minded, boring, uncultured and not very clean! The only time I find a white man attractive is when he is fit, tanned and educated! I love all my Asian, Black and Hispanic brothers but most of all I love my man who is beautiful physically, mentally and spiritually... Guess what.... he is of Caribbean descent... To all my Asian sista with class, live your life no matter what people say!!!!!
Asian Torontonian    Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 19:37:15 (PDT)
"Asian honey/Los Angles":
For those of us Black men who like/love
Asian women, you make it all worthwhile.
"It's so good lovin somebody, when
somebody loves you back"
My wife slaps you five !!!
Black/Asian couple    Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 15:05:19 (PDT)
Thaihorse:
It almost sounds like you're trying to convince yourself, not others on this board. There are men here who like myself are married/attached to an Asian woman....so let's talk about what you want to discuss. Overlook the haters bro
carry on soldier !

SlipperySlope    Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 15:00:09 (PDT)
To "thinkbrothers":
check the dosage on your medication !
They are brothas here interested in Asian women for their own reasons , most of which I'm sure are perfectly acceptable. I don't see any wholesale dogging of Asian women on this board.
What's the problem with mail-order brides ? Or is your mind not open enough to understand that all things in the universe are possible ? My wife is what you would refer to as a "mail order bride". Tell me my friend, what question may I address for you. Is a mail order bride the equivalent evil of let say...
uh Polio ?
Just a friend    Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 14:55:07 (PDT)
You are more than welcome "Curious"
it a pleasure to see an open mind that's wide open. You're already on your way!
Peace
Big Brother (the hard way)    Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 14:47:38 (PDT)
Asian honey/ Los Angeles ,

"I am an asian female that is very open minded, and even though my current boyfriend happens to be asian, that does not mean that I wouldn't go out with a african american male because I have in the past, and it was quite a pleasant experience,the primary reason I discontinued the relationship was due to my parents, but that's a long story,"

"Stay stong guys, I know you have 2 deal with sh*ts like them all the time,and to my asian sisters out there, find at least one black guy out there that you find attractive, befriend him and really get to know him, you never know what might happen, and trust me the rumors (in bed) are oooooh so very very true."

You have to to be one of the silliest Asian women to ever post here. On the one hand you're encouraging your Asian siters to find a decent Black man and they never know what will happen. But you apparently had a decent Black man and let him go because of parental pressure. Now like a good little Asian girl, you've got yourself an Asian man, just like mommy and daddy said to do. You've got a lot of nerve talking about other people. You talk a lot of crap on the board but you couldn't even stand up to your parents and folded like a deck of cards. Now you encourage other Asian women to seek out Black men. What a stereotype you are.

And what's the crap about the rumors (in bed) are true. Is that all Black men are good for in your eyes? Are you suggesting your Asian sisters get a Black man and get some mandingo lovin and then go get themselves an Asian man like you did. Please don't stand up for Black men, stand up for yourself. You sound like the racist here!


Black men don't need hand-me-downs    Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 14:45:36 (PDT)

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