ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

I hear you SlipperySlope. I will get down off of my soapbox and talk about other things. I'm getting ready for a Japanese exam this week so I won't get to talk more until later.

I just got back from Nashville, Tennessee. I like that town! Lots of great music (besides just country), very friendly people, lots of schools and cultural events. I was very pleased to find several Japanese/Chinese restaurants as well as grocery stores. The few asians I met were friendly. I'm considering relocating to a place where I can pursue my musical goals and still achieve my personal/cultural ones as well.
Thaihorse    Sunday, October 21, 2001 at 10:34:35 (PDT)
Ayo Whatever... I'm in Okinawa.

Any Sexy Asian Women want to chat with this single attractive african american man, then email me at sly_dadddy@excite.com
me. sly_daddy@excite.com    Saturday, October 20, 2001 at 13:23:29 (PDT)
JustMY2Cents,

When you fall in love with someone, you are willing to put up with their family, no matter how ignorant they may be. Every relationship has problems, but should you give up just because you don't feel like dealing with it? You would honestly give up someone who is the love of your life just because her family won't accept you? I am an Asian American female and my boyfriend is black. My mother doesn't accept him, but he told me it doesn't matter. He said he would never break up with me just because of my mother. I know if we stay together, sooner or later my mother will come around and realize I am happy with him and there is NOTHING she can do about it. It's OUR lives, not hers. You wonder what quality we women have to make it worth dealing with our ignorant families? How about the fact that you love the person and are happy with them? Is that not enough for you?
azn sweetie    Saturday, October 20, 2001 at 11:09:47 (PDT)
To: Just my2cents
I have dated Japanese women and their parents had no problem with me. If they were racist or prejudiced, they would never have allowed me to stay in their homes. White parents, in my experience, have shown the most reservations about interracial unions.
SEA JUSTO    Saturday, October 20, 2001 at 04:50:03 (PDT)
To: Black men don't need hand-me-downs

It's I, the Casual Dreamer again. Another thing I'd like to point out, but, specifically to you is that she never said her current boyfriend is going to be her last boyfriend; therefore, it's fair to assume that Asian Honey/Los Angeles may date even more before she gets hitched. Who knows what othr races she may date or who she may choose in the end. So as for your "Are you suggesting your Asian sisters get a Black man and get some mandingo lovin and then go get themselves an Asian man like you did" question..."Can IT BUDDY!!"
Casual Dreamer    Friday, October 19, 2001 at 22:39:48 (PDT)
NOTE: I'm writing this in response of...assuming 'Asian honey/Los Angeles' hasn't replied to these two antagonist yet.

"Why should you encourage Black men to date Asian women, when you know that all of them will have to deal with Racist parents, just as in your situation?" [excerpt from 'Just my 2 cents']

"On the one hand you're encouraging your Asian sisters to find a decent Black man and they never know what will happen. But you apparently had a decent Black man and let him go because of parental pressure. Now like a good little Asian girl, you've got yourself an Asian man, just like mommy and daddy said to do" [excerpt from 'Black men don't need hand-me-downs']

"PEOPLE IN GLASS HOUSES SHOULDN'T THROW STONES!"
The arguments that "Asian honey/ Los Angeles' gave up her African-American boyfriend, because her parents didn't like him due to he fact he was black..and therefore, she should keep her mouth shut and not encourage relationships between Blacks and Asians" is unfounded. People, I may be a "Causal Dreamer," but I'm not asleep. If you look at the her statement closely (or even from afar) you will notice that there is nothing in it that mentions "WHY" her parents didn't want them to date. You guys are purely acting on assumption; therefore, your arguments has no merit. I mean, yeah, It's POSSIBLE she could have meant that...but then, again, POSSIBLE DOESN'T MAKE IT TRUE! ...does it? Her exact statement was
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"the primary reason I discontinued the relationship was due to my parents, but that's a long story"
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People, that could mean anything, really --- I mean, they may have not liked him for any number of reasons, not necessarily because he was black. I could go on and on about it, but the "FACT" she never actually said what happened between her, her parents, and her boyfriend...did she? For all we know, they may not have wanted her to date at all. Think about it, she never said how old she was at the time of the relationship: She could have been a teenager at the time. And as for the statement about her "talking a lot of crap on the board but then couldn't even stand up to her parents and then folded like a deck of cards": when you think about it, if she was a teen at the time, it's fair to say "Any of us who has had a disagreement with our parents, when we were young, knows how difficult it is to stand your ground". If that was the case fair to say it's basically understandable.

And what's this statement about
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"...you apparently had a decent Black man and let him go because of parental pressure. Now like a good little Asian girl, you've got yourself an Asian man, just like mommy and daddy said to do".
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People her statement was
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"even though my current boyfriend happens to be asian, that does not mean that I wouldn't go out with a african american male because I have in the past, and it was quite a pleasant experience"
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She never said she was dating the guy to please her parents, not did she infer it in any short of way. She also never mentioned if her parents was please with this guy either; for all we know that might not be pleased with him either. And what about his ethnicity? --- Yeah, he's Asian, but is he the same nationality of Asian as she; If not, then were back to the old interracial dating scenario again. Another thing is, we don't know is, if her parents approve of any of the guys she dates, regardless of their race. --- Becasue nothing ever told why her parents apposed to her boyfriend, anything is possible.

Look, I can go on and on, but the reason I'm pointing this out to you people on this poll, is to keep people from making pointless arguments. Without facts of the situation, the apposer has no grounds to walk on. So before you try to make an argument, LOOK AT THE FACTS FIRST!
Casual Dreamer    Friday, October 19, 2001 at 22:12:07 (PDT)
Just my 2cents,

As an Asian male, I have to agree with you. Asians can be disgustingly racist. I know from experience with my White & Mexican girlfriends.
Some Dude    Friday, October 19, 2001 at 21:48:57 (PDT)
Black Men don't need hand me downs,

Why are you making such negative accusations towards an Asian female who chose to marry an Asian male. "Like a good little Asian girl....made parents happy". Sorry dude but you are one twisted MoFo. Why can't she have chosen him with the same desires in her heart as a non-Asian guy. I assume then any same race couple is just a front then to please society. On one hand people who like dating a race other then thier own just have "preferences" while people who date their own race are doing it to "please society".Your reasoning is so flawed i can't even begin to comment. Your a joke and a crackpot......
Marduk    Friday, October 19, 2001 at 17:47:15 (PDT)
Why are all the comments on this post so negative and accusatory ? I thought this site was designed for Asian Women and Black men who wanted to discuss issues at a higher level,and maybe find friendship or love, as the case may be. All you negative types get LOST !! I mean VAMOS !! Bye Bye !! L-E-A-V-E and close the door behind you !!


Jah Caribbean Man    Friday, October 19, 2001 at 17:27:09 (PDT)

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