ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

Black girls are so fine!!! I really love their dark smooth skin, full lips, exotic looking eyes, and their curvy figure. And I'm really not into the half black/white girls like Halle Berry or Alicia Keyes. I like a "black" "black" girl. I mean black girls are at a different level than white,asian, or hispanic girls. Black girls are the most sexiest and exotic women on this earth. It really bothers me how some of my Asian and white friends say they're not into black girls. Like how can you not find black women attractive??!! There is nothing wrong with a big plump booty.

And there is this one fine black girl in my class. She's short but she has one of the biggest ass I've ever seen on a girl. And she has this lil' short and thick body. And damn, I would love to tap that ass!!! Everytime she walks past me, I begin to get an erection.I just wanna lick every inch of her body.
AM who loves thick black girls    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 10:50:12 (PST)
JTHM,

I am so OVER IT (and you)! Just deal with your reality and stop getting mad at me for telling it.

TODDLES!
Disturbed Black woman vanellavixen@yahoo.com    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 09:59:05 (PST)
To: King Looking for Beautiful Black Queen,

Thank you for the lovly compliment about us BW. I think that was really sweet of you to think of us in such a beautiful way!
Jas    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 09:58:28 (PST)
THIRD EYE wrote:
2. Disturbed, chill with the long ass rants. You have been heard and you made your point in the first lecture you posted. Geez can someone else get a word in?

ME:
Uhm. I do not stop anyone from making thier point. We are not in a physical discussion where I can cut anyone off, so what is your point? Just because you really have nothing to say and feel "lectured" doesn't mean I need to shorten my posts. DId I hit home with some of you or something? Many of you seem to be taking my comments personal. maybe you need to look, reflect and change YOURSELF instead of whyning about what I write or post. You can post, I aint stopping you. You may not have anyhting to say since alot of what I say may be true for you? hmmmm. Either way you have one of two choices: Read my posts and feel "lectured" or bypass them and lose insight (lol). In the end, the choice is yours!
Disturbed Black woman vanellavixen@yahoo.com    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 09:56:25 (PST)
THIRD EYE wrote:
3. What I don't understand is why are we posting all this very personal information about our sex lives? Who cares what you do behind closed doors.
The subject of sex is personal and sacred. Please have some respect for yourselves

Me:
THANK YOU! FOr those of you who have a problem doing this, then expect people like me to drop my two cents in on how I feel about you and your actions.


Disturbed Black woman vanellavixen@yahoo.com    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 09:50:21 (PST)
PB,

THANK YOU! You get a ^5 too!


Disturbed Black woman vanellavixen@yahoo.com    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 09:48:45 (PST)
SANCHI,

THANK YOU! You get a ^5!


Disturbed Black woman vanellavixen@yahoo.com    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 09:47:52 (PST)
DA WANG,

Its good to know that there are Asian men out there who do respect Black women. Like I said earlier, despite my views, i still feel Asian men are more a compatible match for Black women because many know what its like to be a minority and subjected to harsh stereotypes. I do see this racial combination growing steadily in the near future.


Disturbed Black woman vanellavixen@yahoo.com    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 09:46:46 (PST)
TAKSHEDA (I figured you were a male who would support the actions of Just wanting to know's hoeish BLACK freind),

Look you can get mad at my views and posts all you want. But the fact remains is its obvious that what she did was not THAT private to her since her dumb azz told her friend what she did and her so called friend came onto a Asian website and told all her buisness to the world. Not only that, her friend made sure and very CLEAR that we all knew her dumb hoeish friend was a Black "woman" and that she screwed TWO Asian men at once. SO you have two things working here. Race and sex. I responded accordingly.

She put the post out there and asked people's views and I responded. She also specifically asked BLACK WOMENS VIEWS as well as Asian males views. its not my fault you didn't respond to her posts and only mine. i was not the one who started posts saying that Black women who did stuff like that were weak hoes. I have been reading the site for a while and never posted anything until I read that sorry pathetic post from "Just wanting to know".

So whatever, i responded and you obviously have a problem with it because you probably date or want Black women to be hoes and do all kinds of freaky things with you that her pahetic Black friend did with her b/f and his friend.

Would you be so inclined to tell an Asian woman that its okay for her to let two Black men bone her at one time? I think not! You probably would not like the idea. But you are defending a Black woman who let two Asian men bone her at once, and then acting like I am the one with the problem because I object to it and think its piggish behavior on her part? The real question i have for you is: Would your views hold true if it were an Asian woman and two White men or an Asian woman and Two Black men? Prolly not. LOL.

Things done behind closed doors need to STAY behind closed doors. If they don't then its open season and free target for anyone who wishes to put thier business or someone else's business out before the world. If her stupid friend couldn't keep her business private and if her friend couldn't keep what her friend told her personal and brought it to a website to make Black women look bad, then I have a RIGHT to respond as a Black woman just like you would probably respond to any Asian woman or man making her/himself look bad for men/women of other races.

Have a good day!
Disturbed Black woman vanellavixen@yahoo.com    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 09:43:45 (PST)
NEW ASIAN MAN wrote:

"You seriously have some major issues. You probably have been hurt many times over by black men, but here’s the funny part. You still defend them despite all their flaws. "

Me:
Where did I defend Black men?! All i said was if Black women are going to be HOES then they need to stay with Black men and stay out of the interracial dating game because it makes our problems worse as a group. Its bad enough our own men stereotype and degarde us, we do not need more men of other races adding onto this due to the fact that there are stupid weak Black women out there that will do anything to get and pleasse a man. If its easy for Black men to negativly stereotype Black women and use Black women for sex and exploit us, then it would be much easier for a man of another race to do the same thing. Its obvious it would benefit men like you and Taksheda to say its okay for a Black woman to be a hoe so you can get the dumb broad to do all kinds of freaky things with you.

You said:
You have posted lengthy comments, but I will be brief in my view of what you are trying to say. I think you are telling your fellow sisters not to out-date or out-marry with other white or Asian men because of their misconception of the black woman, right?

Me:
That is why you need to READ my posts in length if you are going to try to dissect them and come to a conclusion on what I said. Instead of me sitting here telling you how WRONG and off base you are. I am going to suggest you get some coffee and go back and READ my posts in their entirety before making those assumptions you did above. If you are not up for reading EVERYTHING I wrote in my posts (as to avoid making errors in assuming what I said) then please do not even bother to reply since you are making up things and putting words into my mouth.

You said:
I think you are doing you and black women a disservice by telling them to just be with black men.

Me:
Uhm. Well since I date interracially, I would guess you are WRONG again! I am curioous as to whose posts you are reading because you surely didn't read any of mine where I said such a thing.

You said:
What you should do is encourage black women to find men of other races to make your brothers (black men) jealous.

Me:
I do not encourage ANYONE to date anyone of another race to make their own race jealous. That is immature, childish and shows a great deal of insecurity and lack of respect for your partner who may think you really like them for them. You date people becasue you LIKE THEM as a person, and are sincerely ATTARCTED to them and not to make others mad or jealous. Unfortunatley, Black men do this to Black women when they date interracially and try to say and do things to make Black women mad and jelaous of their Non black women and its obvious to anyone with a brain that people who do this are insecure and miserable becaue they are just with a person for show. It also really says that you REALLY want to be with the person you are trying to make jealous, but can't so you try your hardest to make them upset. The other person is just being used as a pawn and not a person and that is wrong.

If you truly believe that its okay for people to date others to make others jealous, then I stand corrected that Black women have to be careful because we can easily be used by Non Black men trying to fulfill some alterioir needs or motives outside of just liking her for who she is. The same holds true for Black men. This is why I judge all men by their individual characteristics and not race since as a Black woman I cannot depend on one group of males to put us on a pedestal. but i know i can find one man that will.

You:
This way, black men will learn not take advantage of black women in fear of losing their sisters to other races.

Me:
I agree here. i do believe Black women need to stop being loyal to Black men. but not at the cost of running into the same problems. I strongly believe Black women have alot of internal fixng up to do since many Black women do not know their worth as women. Therefore I get mad when I see Black women acting weak an acting like hoes for men of other races because it only makes our problems worse as a group. Many Black women have allowed Black males to tear down their self esteem and being loyal to people who are not being loyal back is silly. I also agree more Black women could use a break from Black men and start venturing out to test watres with men of others races. You have to understand to that because Black women have been devalued and demeaned by Black men that its easy for her to be naive when a Non Black man comes around acting like he really likes her and is really using her for his own gain or benefits.

You:
When you refer to those rap songs and videos degrading black women, you should notice that black guys are perpetuating the stereotype, not men of other races. When was the last time you see an Asian or white guy degrade a black woman on t.v.?

Me:
It may not be Asian or White men perpetuating and doing the exploiting but you do contribute to it when you buy the music and support the Black male artists who do it. And sad to say 70% of the degarding rap music today is bought by NON Black males. Mainly White but you have alot of Hispanic and Asian males who listen and buy the music as well. I will give Asian men credit because I notice alot of Asian men are into underground hip hop which does not degrade Black women. But Asian American males today are subjected to the same images that young black and White men are as well and its easy for you as a group to develop stereotypes about Blackwomen and vice versa.

Also, just because you may not do it doesn't mean you will not seek out a Black woman thinking or hoping she will act or be like the hoeish Black women in the videos that you see.

You:
I think your views really make you a disturbed black woman

Me:
Whatever. But I know I am not being a "USED" Black woman.


Disturbed Black woman vanellavixen@yahoo.com    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 09:28:22 (PST)
You're funny Asian Sensation and I do agree with one of your points. To me, Asians look so very different from White people as do Blacks. Yet, Asians want to be White, more than Hispanics and Indians. Seems logical that a race that more physically resembles the White race would try to be like them. But, Hispanics and Indians seem pretty proud of who and what they are. Why not Asians?

Anyway,this part, I don't agree with:

"I want to see some sisters doing kung-fu and some asian brothers doing some rapping and break dancing..."

I just think it would be nice if Asians and Blacks could come to some middle ground. We do seem to be on opposite ends of the spectrum as far as personality is concerned. For example, I think a Black Americans can actually relate to a White Americans far easier than they can relate to an Asian, with typical Asian culture characteristics. It's going to take Asians being here, for more generations before they will be able to truly connect with Blacks, I think.

At this point, I just don't think that either race, admires the other's stereotypical personality characteristics very much. Asians should be more assertive and stop being so timid and Blacks could stand to be a little less aggressive and quieter in public.


That's it :)

Narkis    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 08:55:13 (PST)
To: New AM

"They just care about having sex be it with black, white, or yellow women. I think you are doing you and black women a disservice by telling them to just be with black men. What you should do is encourage black women to find men of other races to make your brothers (black men) jealous. This way, black men will learn not take advantage of black women in fear of losing their sisters to other races.
When you refer to those rap songs and videos degrading black women, you should notice that black guys are perpetuating the stereotype, not men of other races. When was the last time you see an Asian or white guy degrade a black woman on t.v.? I think your views really make you a disturbed black woman".

I have to say, you do have a point, a very big point about that. When you think about it, what you are saying is true. My oldest sister said the same thing.

Are you in a relationship with a BW or are you persuing one with a BW?
Jas    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 08:06:27 (PST)
Girl X,
You live in the east bay.......then, hell yeah!, I'm hitting on you.
I live in the city; russian hill to be exact. I don't know what made me think you lived in the bay..... oh yea, all those former boyfriends.
My last gf, kicked me to the curb, fugking cut me. I'm not willing to go there again just yet. Guess I'm a little wounded still.

......my kung fu is broke!
Racer X    Monday, January 14, 2002 at 00:50:34 (PST)
"I myself date an Italian White guy. Most of my Black girlfriends do find Italian men attractive but do question why i would date a blonde blue eyed one"

Disturbed Black Woman. I see you've copied and pasted your messages from BV's to here. I guess too many people over there have finally put your ass on ignore. And didn't you just say over there that you were dating a hispanic? If you're going to be a liar, you need to get those lies in order!
dropping dimes    Sunday, January 13, 2002 at 20:14:56 (PST)
I'm so happy that I have a profession. :-)

A paying Job. :-)

A fulfilling career. :-)

An Education. :-)

A Man. :-)

That way I don't have to come here ALL DAY and post long drawn out redundant messages like Vanilla Vixen.

I would be DISTURBED too if I was not fit for employment and had to socialize only through webtv!

Some women (I won't say black women because the "black" is very questionable in this case) here need to get a life and get a man.
Ms. Working Girl    Sunday, January 13, 2002 at 20:08:29 (PST)
To New AM,

In defense of Black men,I have seen White men degrade Black women in movies many times and you think you know so much about Black men,well F.Y.I.there are a hell of alot of BMs who are very loyal to us BFs and aren't just thinking with their penises. You need to realize that just like Black men, Asian and White men are no angels.
Shabree    Sunday, January 13, 2002 at 17:10:36 (PST)

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