ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

Hello to you,

My name is David and I wanted to touch base with you in reference to a couple of issues that concern me.

I am a male Black whose family is originally from the West Indies, and I have dated Asian women quite frequently in my past. I have noticed since the age of 12 that Asian women are the only kind of women that I am attracted to.

I know that the typical stereotype of the Black male has been perpetuated and abused via the media so to speak, and quite honestly I feel that it represents many false truths.

I have been told by Asian women that this is the major problem with the dating issues in accordance to Black Men, being the perceptions (fear) which come across the TV screen, thus, having been accepted as truths by many Asian women.

The reason why I am writing is because of this, I am 37; a professional, single, and I completely respect and adore Asian women. I do want to marry an Asian woman because this is where my mind-body-soul attractions are rooted; although, I do not want to be fooled into thinking that I am completely wasting my time awaiting an Asian soul mate.

At this point in time I live in Los Angeles, but I am seriously considering trying to relocate in order to live and work in the Far East so that I can meet that very soul mate.

I know that God made people of various personalities, and for some odd reason he created me to really be attracted to Asian women of various Nationalities.

Could you please lead or guide me into the truth of the matter? Am I wasting my time thinking that God will one day send me an Asian soul mate, or should I completely abolish this dream?

If Asian women have no desire for black men in general, please let me know this. I am really suffering emotionally because that mate has not arrived yet and I want to be true to my purpose in life.

I love Asian women not just physically but for their way of thinking and living as well, and I desire a special one for my wife.

This has been going on within my spirit for quite some time, and I really want to get my life in a direction that will provide true happiness, God willing for my future mate and myself.

This turmoil of waiting is really damaging my spirit of living, and the impatience is simply getting the best of me.

Please let me know if I should wait, make a move to the Far East, or wake up from this dream; what would be in my best interest?

God made us all, and I know he had to make a few Asian women who adore Black men as well because he did create me, and I pray that he made an equal for myself.

My perspective is this, if God is infinite; therefore, he can create anything, anyone, or any situation, even an Asian Woman and Black Man in love. Could you please guide me, I would greatly appreciate your assistance and opinion.

I simply want to say that America has really damaged the Black Man's image, but nothing on Television is real at all, its simply Hollywood. By living in L.A. I can see truths that the remainder of the world cannot see (especially being involved in the entertainment business), and that is the proliferation of false images be it Black, White, Yellow, Pink, or Blue.

All people are not bad, as they say 80% of society is naturally good and the remaining 20% are against societal progression.

I am a good individual, very respected, and a genuinely nice person from a very close knit and loving family who accepts nothing but the best in life, in addition to people of all Nationalities; its what good that counts not the color.

I know this has been quite a long letter, but my heart is in the deepest pain awaiting my soul mate, yet not knowing whether I am playing games with my heart & mind.

I know that my soul mate is Asian, I truly know it...can you please help.

Yours truly,

David Randolph
310-527-5181 ph/fax
Los Angeles, CA

club728 davidrandolph@mediaone.net    Friday, March 01, 2002 at 01:20:40 (PST)

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