ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

I Think all kinds of women are beautiful, black, asian, white, etc. But I never talk to any other race of women except mostly black women, sometimes white women (they either come up to me first, or we start talking and might end up in a nice conversation), sometimes latino (I live around alot of them), but hardly ever asian. It feels awkward to approach them the most cause I never know if they are into my race or anything, o I don't even bother. Skin is not supposed to matter, but I've had alot of bad experiences approaching different races other than my own. I've seen alot of beautiful asian women, but I never would approach them because They are not common where I grew up or where I live(ed), So I can't ever tell if they are interested or not.
Aquarius. Whoa_world@hotmail.com    Friday, May 03, 2002 at 23:23:17 (PDT)
Confused in SF

Girl go for it don't worry about what others think. Your attracted to him and he is attracted to you. Take a chance and get to know him, who knows it may be the beginning of something great. As for those bitter male friends, they will survive, trust me.

Let me know what's up
farah    Friday, May 03, 2002 at 12:41:05 (PDT)
Asian women are in my opinion the most attractive women. However they seem to have
absolutely no interests in African American men what so ever. My observation has proven to me that they would sooner be left alone by men of color as if there is such a strong stigma that shadow the black male or when compared to nationality male the black male is the least attractive. I hope I am wrong but I don’t think that is likely because of all of the empirical evidence a strong repulsion towards the black male.
Sherwin Grant 33 year old black male sherwin.grant@sympatico.ca    Thursday, May 02, 2002 at 20:55:24 (PDT)
Well, he may be a more traditional sort of guy. He obviously likes you otherwise he wouldnt be with you. But if you are talking about sex being the next level, ask him outright what his views are about sex before marriage. He might be abstaining.
Just ask him.
Six-Ten Black Male elronin@insight.rr.com    Thursday, May 02, 2002 at 17:09:13 (PDT)
To Confused in SF:

It's very hard to give any reliable advice from the outside. I wanted to know if you are Asian, (if you are that may explain why your male friends are upset about this possible relationship).

Your friend may be trying to take things slow, to not appear too posessive with you. I keep hearing that Asians prefer to go slow with relationships and to be friends for a while before getting serious.

Maybe your mutual friends can give you more insight (maybe he has said something to them about his feelings for you) or you both can sit down and you ask him how does he feel about the two of you.

I can imagine this can be scary and you would hate to end things before they got a proper chance. But being in limbo is no fun either. In the end, it's your call.

I'm sorry I can't be of more help but I honestly hope things will work out for you two.
Thaihorse    Thursday, May 02, 2002 at 14:59:05 (PDT)
Hi everyone, I'm looking to get some feedback. I've been seeing a Black/Asian mixed guy here in SF for a few months (he looks south american). We've been on a few dates but he seems so slow to make any moves with me. Sometimes other men make a move on me when he is around and he doesn't get mad or anything. I don't know what to think. We are attracted to each other and both professionals but the most we have ever done is heavy kissing. It's almost frustrating because we know so many of the same people and most are starting to figure out we have spent time together but then keep asking "where is _____ at?" My girlfriends seem to be accepting but some of my guy friends (who I thought were mutual) seem bitter. Should I take this to the next level or let him go?
confused in SF    Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 16:33:46 (PDT)

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