ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

If you're Asian or Black the best place to go is Toronto, Canada! The moment you walk into this beautiful city, you will realise that there is a huge number of interracial relationships (any variation, no big deal!). No one gets into your business about who you date, it is consider ignorant to do so (also a bloody waste of time and intelligence). ALL cultures receive the utmost respect, period!

Last year I attended the wedding of one of my American cousins in Florida. I did not grow up with them, so I tried to get to know them... I was terrible disappointed! The majority of Asian females, my age, looked down to all minorities and worship people who show them no respect at all, white people!
When they found out I had been dating an Englishman (of Jamaican decent) they automatically judged me as being low.

Even though people say that Americans have everything, I beg to differ! Canadians have everything you will ever need: respect, culture and class. When I read all these problems Americans have between races it just makes me laugh...
Proud Asian Canadian    Sunday, May 19, 2002 at 08:14:09 (PDT)
Darryl M.

How do you even know shes the one? It may seem like she is the one. But she seems to be taking your feelings for granted. I hope this is not hurting your feelings. But it is the truth. I hope your heart heals from this. I hate when someone steps all over someones heart. Its terrible. My heart goes out to you Darryl.
tea roses    Friday, May 17, 2002 at 22:47:29 (PDT)
Daryyl M,

Your story sounds exactly like a friend of mine. He's Chinese and had a blonde girlfriend for almost two years. He gave her an allowance (1,000 month), paid all her credit card bills, and even gave her his car. Which she crashed by the way. I told him that she was just using him, but he didn't believe me. He even got mad. I was just telling him the truth. Anyhow, he was so in love with her and all he could talk about was how blonde she was, how pretty she was and all. But after almost two years, she left him. It was very sad.
Gina    Friday, May 17, 2002 at 22:43:08 (PDT)
"Moving along to the point. My forty-two years on planet earth cause me to conclude that Asians ARE one of the most RACIST races of people on the planet."

Racists only marry within their races. Asians are racist towards blacks but not towards whites. In fact, as you would note from the gender divide board about 25% of the Asian women marry outside their race...mostly to whites. As far as many Asian American women are concerned, if the choice is between Asian men and white men, the latter is usually preferred. Asians are selectively racist, not wholly racist as many white Americans are.
Asian    Friday, May 17, 2002 at 11:05:17 (PDT)
To Darryl M., I'm sorry to hear about your relationship. I'm wondering why did you two originally break up? Was it her idea or was she pressured by family and friends?

I won't presume to tell you if you are right or wrong to still want to hold on to her. I do believe that if you are with "the one" then you will get several signals, the main one being that you two will compliment and balance each other. I think you both will feel this need and desire to be with each other and your comfort and ease with each other will be apparent to everyone else around you.

It's always difficult and painful to let go of someone you care about if their feelings have changed. I believe that you care for her very much.

I don't know how old you are or how many relationships you've been in to this point. I just want to tell you one thing I've learned over the years about love that I believe is true: "If you love someone, set them free, if they return to you then they are yours, if they don't then they never were" This is very hard to do sometimes but I find it to be true. We sometimes drive those we care about away by holding on to them too tightly.

I hope things will work out for you.
Thaihorse    Friday, May 17, 2002 at 06:52:05 (PDT)

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