ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

Very recently I sumitted my opinions regarding my personal life experiences as they related directly to the developing relationship plane between Asian ladies and Black men. This was done simply with the hopes of sharing with other readers of this site in an open, intelligent, and objective forum. I also provided my e-mail address to any Asian ladies out there in cyberland, or anyone else for that matter to both express & share their points of view regarding this rather interesting topic for discussion. I received quite a few responses from both Asian ladies and black men alike, both "favorable" and "unfavorable".
Most responses that orginated from Black men attacked me with great vigor for my stated preference for dating Asian ladies over that of Black ladies. I was also referred to as ...well let me see there was "someone's uncle", "sellout", "not black enough", "acting too white", ahh..then there was the one eluding to something that I could do with my mother, and heading the list of other questionable remarks was the relating to my general intelligence level. However, the I'm very happy to inform the general readership that the elements of "stupidity" and ignorance failed in their quest to undermind the many "intelligent" individuals out there that color or cultural differences even though they can and do play a major part in one's decision(s) to date or not to date someone different it still nevertheless comes down to the "individual" not the group dynamics. Personally, I was sadden with the many negative comments from Black men regarding this topic, and surprisely elated with the many favorable comments made by Asian ladies! Many Black men gave this reader the impression that "someone" out there seemed to "owe" them something and should for a better choice of words compensate them for their blackness. And, that this compensation should take on various forms of "privilege", or "empathy", or even "handouts". I can only tell you that as a Black man myself here in this great country of ours the only way to succeed is to continually work hard, strive to be the best at whatever you undertake, and "never" believe that you can't determine your own destiny. I recall my father telling me many moons ago that you get nothing free in this world, except "trouble". Perhaps, my brothers and I wouldn't be faced with bleak futures, if in fact we took the time to study our past. Funny isn't it how many Black Americans perfer to be called "African Americans", but desire to have "absolutely nothing" to do with africa. Makes one ponder about those who mindlessly fling accusations about "being too white"at others who simply want to be themselves. This was the the central theme expressed by many of the Asian ladies who took the time to share their feelings/concerns with me. And, we must remember that they didn't have to repond at all! This general lack of cultural awareness is a major issue of concern to many, as they retain their cultural roots they find it very difficult to fully understand why Black men don't, or can't. True, just for the record let's say that it's an historical fact that Africans were brought here as slaves...that occurred over 400 years ago. And yes it was a terrible, dehumanizing process this I hope we all can agree with. But, this is 2002 so why aren't we as Black men stepping up to the plate of life and learning about these historical facts in depth with the purpose of teaching our children (many that "we make", but fail to provide for) about who we really are as a people? It appears that we still have a long way to go, but please don't attack me for your lack of accepting personal respnsibility, not just as a man, but also that of a father. To you Asian ladies that responded I thank you for your time, and your courage. To all others who viewed my opinons, but didn't respond that's okay, but please remember that I know there are Black men in this world that are intelligent, good humans beings, and don't "fit" that flase precived mold of blackness that only continues to hinder our growth as a people....and as men. Hope that I didn't take up too much time here..please forgive.
Eric jon3742son@aol.com    Monday, June 10, 2002 at 14:40:09 (PDT)
Very interesting topic for discussion. As a man who is half black / Puerto Rican I really find that I have always been attracted to asian ladies, and for several reasons. One: Yes, asian ladies are very beautiful. Two: I really appreciate the strong cultural / educational values that they have. I personally have dated many asian ladies and have had both wonderful and positive experiences! In fact I consider asian ladies to be my first preference when it comes to dating. They much more receptive to differnt kinds of activities, and far more objective. I believe that there are quite a few asian ladies that would date more men of color, but many black men must first confront the "image problem" that many (not all) black men have. Hence, I would recommend for all asian ladies to simply be more selective in this process as there are black men who are well educated, well mannered, hard working, and extremely loyal. The media is largely responsible for this negative perception, but we too as black men contribute adversely by not accepting the personal responsibility for this situation. If any asian ladies out there that perhaps may be interested in corresponding simply just for purposes of establishing a friendship, or perhaps to just exchange cultural viewpoints please contact me. Thanks for allowing me to submit my view on this most interesting topic.
Eric jon3742son@aol.com    Saturday, June 08, 2002 at 11:01:27 (PDT)
seven,
Who are you talking about? I know you aren't talking about asian women? My hawaiian chinese wife has the absolute worst temper I have ever seen! In my whole entire life!!! My goodness! If things don't go her way, then it is the highway!!! She is sweet as can be. But her temper is horrible!
married w 1kid    Thursday, June 06, 2002 at 14:37:55 (PDT)
I enjoy the attitude and affection that asian american women have. I enjoy that they know how to enjoy themselves and when faced with conflict, they try to be patient and solve the problem instead of becoming instantly upset.
seven    Wednesday, June 05, 2002 at 19:54:07 (PDT)
Peterson is my name, i'm a black male, 26 year old. I was so happy to discover this web. good to know how much the blacks love asians. You know what i love all races but my wish is to get marry to asian woman. i.....can't really explain how much i love them. my friend marry to japanese woman, she's a very good woman. I live in italy. the asians that are here are not that close to black but i'm doing my best possible to make them understand how much i love them. I prefer to remain single till i found asian woman for marriage. even if she live in asia i'm ready to move to asia to live all my life there. things that really interest me about them are their face and culture. I have some friends in korea i may travel there this summer. my advise for black male and female, we should be close to asian, they are hardworking people their women are good for a wife also their men for a husband. for me i will keep seaching for. If they is any single asian woman out there, please you can e-mail me so that we can know each others and help make a great changes in our world. here is my e-mail peterinnehson@yahoo.co.uk
peterson peterinnehson@yahoo.co.uk    Tuesday, June 04, 2002 at 16:19:34 (PDT)

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