ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

To Joy,

"There are lots of guys from Africa who pretend to be Black American so they can pick up these women"

I'm a 34 years old japanese woman. Associating with many Black people bacause of my job, I noticed that many Africans try to speak Japanese and work very hard. I really really proud them.
However I noticed that many american people (blacks or white) don't try to speak Japanese here. They don't change life style wherever they go and
stay. They proud themselves.

You know I already dated African men and no one pretended he was american.
If you critcize african people pretending there are american just get a look to the plenty of "japanese women freaks" african american who "forget" to specify they are blacks in dating polls before meeting "caucasian men freaks" japanese women.

Ms Japan    Sunday, June 30, 2002 at 12:30:30 (PDT)
I am a black man...I will be in Tokyo in late July. My first visit. I can't wait!!
KB bostike@yahoo.com    Saturday, June 29, 2002 at 12:09:14 (PDT)
Japan is still cool. There was a lot of recent hype about "Beckham", but brothers that go to "Kansai" area can meet nice ladies. Osaka women are wak, but Kobe, Kyoto, Nara and Mie women are nice, usually smart too.
KamenHanya koguma@toys.co.jp    Thursday, June 27, 2002 at 00:38:30 (PDT)
Joy,

I think I will be in the Tokyo area, that is where my company has business offices and is setting up manufacturing.

In the long run I hope to get a position within my compnay that will allow me to travel to our facilities in Taiwan, Singapore and Korea as well.

If I meet someone I'll be happy to take her wherever she wants to go but as for seafood, I can only eat fish, I'm allergic to anything with a shell!!!
Thaihorse    Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 08:54:31 (PDT)
Thaihorse,

Where do you plan to be in Japan? If you end up on the eastern side, you'll definately have to do Disneyland. If you are on the western side, you have to go to Universal Studios, Japan AND you'll have to take your girlfriend to the famous crab restaurant . . . I hope you like seafood! (^o^)
Joy tanouki_gyrl@hotmail.com    Tuesday, June 25, 2002 at 19:24:43 (PDT)
Right On Target,

Six-Ten Black Male, Thaihorse and Joy. Thank you all for your great posts. We were all born as individuals and thats how we need to think. We do have our culture and ethnicities that link us but we are still one humanity.

If Black and Asian choose each other then thats "personal buisness". Let the walls fall down, and keep "group think" out of the picture. The best to all of you.
T-One caseyjones2k@yahoo.com    Tuesday, June 25, 2002 at 17:59:03 (PDT)
To Chang,

Thank you for your post and honesty. Certainly, this applys to all people but in keeping with the theme of this site, I appreciate your comments.

As an African-American male, it's enough to contend with the stereotypes that are out there. It's just frustating to see those who "choose" to "be" stereptypes.

I don't have any personal relationships with Asian women, and that is not by choice. When I cross paths with an Asian woman who catches my attention, I confess that I do hesitate to approach her because I wonder what she might think due to negative stereotypes in the media, and probably those observed.

If the survey on this website is fairly accurate, then it looks like their is hesitation on both sides. I have always appreciated Asian culture and would like to get to know the people who make it happen. Reading the posts on this site has helped me to be less apprehensive.

Chang, if you read this post, I would like to invite you (and all other Asian women) to share more of you observations and thoughts on this issue at my e-mail address. Thanks again for your insight.


T-One caseyjones2k@yahoo.com    Tuesday, June 25, 2002 at 17:49:12 (PDT)

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