ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

Thaihorse:
It's all about you as an individual and the woman you choose as an individual.
Everything else is smoke and mirrors !
Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Black/Asian couple (big brother)    Wednesday, July 03, 2002 at 09:14:17 (PDT)
Hey Thaihorse, you stated:"we really need to learn more about how we are viewed by people in Japan." Please explain to me why ??????????????
Is this some sissy cliche to ingratiate oneself on a group of people who for the most part could care less about our perception of "them" or our self determination as a people. As usual it smacks of the worst kind of azz-kissin for the purpose of being liked. Who gives a damn what the people of Japan or anywhere esle think if they are isolated and closed minded enough to accept stereotypes about people about whom they don't know anything and furthermore have no collective interst in enlightening themselves on the subject of their false realities. How much more forgiving, generous, spiritual, and willing to "get along", must Black people be before we no longer have to worry about who likes us or not. I have constructively and amicably pointed out the danger of such a pollyannish view of the world my to you before brother, I'm certain in part due to the difference in our ages and therefore our experience in worldly matters. Be clear of your own identity and virtues convincingly before you expect someone else to love or respect you. As long as you are still "looking to be accepted", you have not arrived and are not yet ready bro ! You are simply staying one step ahead of reality. Please feel free to "load up" and fire your agreement or disagreement right back at me, I await your response.
Best wishes to you always ! Peace
Black/Asian couple (big brother)    Wednesday, July 03, 2002 at 09:11:18 (PDT)
YO. I agree with Ms.Japan a little bit. Although I am very much AMERICAN, I too have found the Black people (from not only USA, but also England too) to be quite snobby and arrogant as of RECENT!I have been in Japan for 3 years and when I first came it wasn't like that. African brothers on the other hand have been, for the most part, cool. There have been cases where they have said that they were from America, but I don't think that is prevalent much anymore, but Joy was right too.
KamenHanya    Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 22:49:29 (PDT)
I hope my post gets aired! I believe African lie about their nationality because some in Japan may feel they are inferior to Americans of African descent! Some Japanese women run games to get to the states so an American visa is very attractive. So the African male does what he feels needs to be done to compete with African American males!
Just like some women dye their hair, put make up on their face or wear a push up bras the African male is just making himself more appealing!

P.S. Everyone lies!!!!!
Mr Holley deandre@holley.tc    Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 14:18:29 (PDT)
To Ms Japan,

Thank you for your post, we really need to learn more about how we are viewed by people in Japan.

I'm sure that there are Africans and African-Americans behaving badly in Japan and anywhere else they go and thankfully they appear to be in the minority.

As for my feelings about Africans in Japan, I have been very interested in the subject. I have seen several articles on web sites like Black Tokyo telling about Africans who have made successuful inroads into Japanese society, some by setting up their own businesses and intorducing African art, music and culture to the people of Japan. I saw some film footage of a talk show in Japan in which people were heatedly discussing some social topic. Even though people were arguing at times, some of these people were African and they were arguing in Japanese!

I recently saw a film, a romantic comedy called "Warm Water under the Red Bridge".
I really liked this film, but the one thing that really made it special for me was that it had an African Character (he was a marathon runner going to school on a atheletic scholarship), and his character appeared through most of the movie and he spoke Japanese! I've never seen that before and it was a very, very pleasant surprise.

I have always believed that Africans have an inherent advantage over African-Americans in the sense that they know who they are, who their ansestors are and have had the experience of living in a society where they are the majority. African societies have their problems and bad people as well, but I also believe that it is easier to learn about and adapt to another culture when you already are comfortable with your own, sometimes I STILL am trying to determine what does it mean for me to be an AMERICAN.

Anyway, I don't see Africans as my enemy and I hope to meet and befriend some of them in Japan. I still long to have a better connection to the Motherland and I am often happy when I am mistaken for an African, by other Africans. I may never learn what part of Africa my ansestors came from but I still intend to "adopt" a African group and learn about their language, culture and history.

I think it's wonderful that you are open minded enough to date someone outside your race and to judge them as a individual person, not a stereotype. I am very proud of you and I hope to meet more people like you when I someday come to Japan.

I hope you will post again.
Thaihorse THAIHORSEyancy@netscape.net    Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 08:17:47 (PDT)
Going japan next year for a summer program it's going to great 've always dreamed of going to asia.

you know i fine asian women to be so attractive and always thought that they would not like me because i'm black but when i read the polls they are the same.

so my question where are all the asian women who like black men are because it seams that all of them like white men too me.
Antoine lnantoine2006@hotmail.com    Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 06:03:38 (PDT)
Ms Japan

I think you totally missed the point of my post. I am by no means demeaning anyone from Africa at all, so don't misunderstand my post. I did not generalize and say that all African men do this. That would be impossible because I don't know every African man who lives here . . . but I do know a lot of them.

The point of my post was to say that 'Yes' there are lots of African men who pretend to be from America to pick up women. I didn't say every African man does this. I have met African men who outright LIED about being from NYC, or LA, but they couldn't tell me anything about these places outside of tourist details. Why can't these men be themselves? It's like these men are ashamed of telling the women they are from Nigeria or Ghana or Tanzania. I mean, if you have to lie about your basic details, what kind of relationship do you expect to have with this person?

The last part of your post, I'm not very clear on. Can you explain this as well?
Joy    Monday, July 01, 2002 at 19:56:38 (PDT)

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