ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

To Big Brother & Geoffrey,
Gentlemen,thanks for allowing me to finally read some statements of truth. I'm a Japanese woman living in California that makes trips to Japan on a regular basis for career purposes, and visit family. I too have heard from many Japanese women as well as personally met quite a few black american men there that visit and work in Japan that pretent to be everything else but african americans, just like Geoffrey stated in his posting.
I was born and raised in America, but "they not knowing that" they present themselves as half white (the light skin ones) even though I know better, latinos, and even native americans. I'm sure that perhaps a few may have commingling blood, but it appears that they're all too comfortable trying to distant themselves from what and who they really are. I have also seen this in the states quite a bit, personally it confuses and disturbs me. As an asian woman I really have to question the validity as to why I would desire to date a black man if he in affect is ashamed of his ancestry. My final point is how can you expect to gain respect from anyone, anywhere if you continue to deny your lineage?
Pam    Saturday, July 06, 2002 at 13:56:33 (PDT)
hi,

i am a nineteen year old asian female who has fallen secretly in love with black male. he has been my friend for five years and i was immediately attracted to him the first day i met him, five years ago. i dont believe one can fall in love at first sight, because that such love is based on the physical basis only. but as i befriended him, i got swept away. but i was a friend. i saw him through his first and longest relationship (2 years), a relationship that has just ended a few months ago, a relationship that ended because... he finally found me. i finally found him. i know i am still young, only an age of nineteen but no one has ever made me feel like he has, no one has ever shared the same ideals of life, no one has ever made me smile inside. he is perfect. who knows, maybe in a few years, i may have moved on and found a new love, lets be honest. but he has engulfed me completely presently. i cannot think of anybody else. we have lasted through our first year of college apart, and i have tried to forget of him, but the fire inside burns even stronger. he has permanently blown me away.

i am the only daughter of the family. a chinese family with very strict values. my parents have never talked to me about romance or dating. i only resented that. i wished i could talk to them or they could talk to me like normal families.

today, my mom talked to me about romance and dating and love. a conversation i was relishing in, a conversation i appreciated deeply, and i had the sudden urge to tell her everything about me and this wonderful boy. (i never tell my mom anything about this type of stuff)

just as i was about to and relishing the idea, the droning of her voice snapped me back to reality as she said, "... would accept any relationship except if you marry a black man, i will not accept it. i'm sorry, but i will not accept the marriage whatsoever. "

right then and there, my heart stopped.
her voice was so... settled, like, no question about it, no more argument. and i'm afraid. i'm afraid of my parents. my dad, is a professor, he had made grown boys cry. he had made me cry. i'm afraid.

liz. havefaithindestiny@hotmail.com    Friday, July 05, 2002 at 19:41:44 (PDT)

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