ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

I just read Ray's comments and I must admit that I agree with him, though I still am trying to do my best not to pre-judge everyone else's motives and true feelings.

Black men are much more than sexual sterotypes and often when we hear of Asian women "discovering" Black men the mention of our sexual prowess or endowments are not far behind.

I don't know what else to say, sex is a huge part of what contitutes fulfillment and enjoyment through all societies and walks of life. Sex unites people and societies in ways that politics and other cultural pursuits aren't always able to. I don't really like this, but I accept this fact of life.

I believe that mutual sexual attraction will often be the starting point for many interracial relationships. Hopefully, both people will also find that they share other intellectual and cultural interests as well (they will have to for the relationship to grow and survive.)

In most societies men and women of color are often branded as sexual creatures without many other redeeming qualities. Of course this is a lie, but it will take time and effort and many successful, individual relationships to kill the lie.

I don't like for women to only think of us as sexual creatures, but I still have hope that as more interracial couples get together and have strong, loving relationships, eventually we will also be known as great husbands, fathers and providers as well. At least we are beginning to address these issues more directly and I'm glad for that.
Thaihorse THAIHORSEyancy@netscape.net    Monday, July 15, 2002 at 08:10:45 (PDT)
Ray,
Reading your post made this brother really take a much closer look inside.
Your response was powerful and truthful.
Thanks for letting people know that black men aren't all engulfed with that booty call mindset like most think, and like many brothers project. Intelligent life takes a stand, thanks again.

Kyle Foxx    Monday, July 15, 2002 at 04:36:55 (PDT)
i praise you for having the wisdom and sensitivity to address this issue. hopefully misconceptions can be resolved and people can come together. i have seen beautiful and smart children come from these marriages.
very old coal b369twoo@hotmail.com    Sunday, July 14, 2002 at 22:45:25 (PDT)
Ray
I never responded to anything here online, but I was sincerely moved by your response here. As a Black Man myself you made me feel a greater sense of self worth and pride in myself as you forced me to come to grips with a part of me that I had always taken pride in, but now I better understand that it's not about pride, and never should be viewed as such. We Black men do has some serious issues to deal with, but first we need not be afraid to hear the truth instead of those "myths" that inhibit our growth and development as individuals, men, and as a people. Thanks again my brother for your honesty and courage.

Jay    Sunday, July 14, 2002 at 22:39:27 (PDT)
NZ Girl,
Glad that you enjoyed visiting both Canada, and the US, but as a black man here in America the last thing that I personally needed was to read in this site (especially in this site) from someone like yourself who for a better choice of words continuesto perpetuate that "sexual stereotypic myth" regarding black men. As, I viewed your post frankly I was offended, after all it was my understanding that this site is attempting to better understand, promote, and "hopefully" redefine the character and the precieved negative images of black men. I don't know how other men of color reacted to your post, but after reading yours I felt like I was supposed to stick my chest out and proclaim to the free world that I was a "stud" reborn. And, that my very next act was to secure a ticket on the very first plane smoking headed to New Zealand to open a regional sexual franchise. Please remember that black men also desire to be remembered for their intelligence, character, work ethic, being responsible husbands and parents, and good upstanding citizens. You failed in your post to mention any of those points!
Ray    Saturday, July 13, 2002 at 08:00:41 (PDT)

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