ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

To Raheem,

I'm sorry if I seem to be "sitting on the fence", when I look back at some of my earlier posts I can see how you can come to this conclusion.

In truth I have very specific opinions on the things that we discuss here. I think the problem for me is that I don't want to stand on a soapbox and say that my opinion is the only correct one (which I know it isn't)

I've visited some of the other discussion boards and some other websites on interracial dating and they mostly consist of people trading personal insults and accusations at each other. In the end it totally breaks down the lines of communication and makes other people not want to express their opinions out of fear of getting "attacked".

I won't always agree with everything people post here but I definitely want to hear what they have to say. I suppose there are times when I want to say something, but not put it in a way that will offend or hurt others. Sometimes I know it's impossible to avoid this.

I suppose if I have a particular issue with somebody I'll try to contact them at their personal e-mail address (if they leave one), but I will try to never personally insult anyone here.

I really regret that I'm not able to meet and discuss topics like this with people in person, This place is important to me and I like being able to share with you all. What is sometimes seen as "pandering" by you and others is simply me trying to encourage others to keep posting and keep sharing their views with us.

Thanks for telling me how you feel and I'll try to hop off my "fence" and stay in one yard for a while.

Take care my brother.
Thaihorse THAIHORSEyancy@netscape.net    Wednesday, July 17, 2002 at 07:19:19 (PDT)
Well I'm new here and i'd like to say hello to all the people on this site...furthermore...i'm a black male...but I don't get the meaning of this thread at all...i mean what does this post exactly mean...and what's the whole sexuality and black male lingo...listen up...as men regardless of color or whatever...were all going to think about sex and proceed with it any way we can...it's true and there's no denying it...whether your white, black,asian, spanish or whatever, we are men and we all think about sex, i'm not sure if women think about it much or what but i know for a fact all men want sex....for example...your woman dresses nice, she smells great, and she looks into your eyes...i think that's enough to give any man a thought...as for the last response...yes i agree...the good things about black men in general never get exposed, our likes and beliefs aren't exposed enough...we are usually looked at as a "Jive turkey who will do anything to get sex and not man enough to make a commitment." this simply isn't true...black men can be responsible and show love as good as any other kind of man bar none. as for the poll...i find it very interesting...I also checked out the other polls as well, i find them a bit offensive to say the least, i also find them to be "narrow"... i mean bottom line...love is love, and if you love someone, looks, disposition,situation,race or creed shouldn't matter...this is a time for everyone(all races)to get along, show love, not be afraid of the unknown and not make stereotypes or judge one without knowing them...every man can be good, but you have to be open enough to know them and open yourself to be known...i had an asian girlfriend...but I moved and were split apart...however i urge everyone to open themselves up to others and not label them.
Dark Dude kyleiguana@hotmail.com    Tuesday, July 16, 2002 at 12:57:07 (PDT)
Ray,

I'm starting to think that my Korean ex girlfriend is something like you described. While we were dating, she said, and I quote, "I think I have a fetish for black guys." Truth be told, I kinda wanted to laugh at what she said, but now I don't know if she was kidding or not. Before we slept together, she would ask what size my penis was, and compare it to other dudes she had dated in the past (yeah, I know this sounds made up, but I swear to God she said all this to me!)
T.B.    Tuesday, July 16, 2002 at 06:36:53 (PDT)
Well said Ray.
It is good to know that a lot of black men are focusing on other more positive areas of life than just being a girl-pleasing stud. This womans desire was simply skin deep with little emphasis on much else. Thanks for making your very relevant points.

BM 34    Tuesday, July 16, 2002 at 05:37:27 (PDT)
Thaihorse
There you go again! Same old thing brother you just keep sitting on the fence. You say that you agreed with Ray, but you were the first to respond to Miss New Zealand's post, and it seems to me that your interest weren't at all focused in the areas of fatherhood, husbands, and etc. as you "now" proclaim. I may be wrong, but in my reading of your response to her you were apparently focused on "other" issues. That I do believe opened the door to Ray's concerns. Certainly can't blame Miss NZ because she operating on ignorance....that's not a crime, but when confronted by such ignorance please take the time to help people understand. Sorry, but I didn't see that in your post to her.. I saw just the opposite. And, I think that sends the wrong message.
We all have to keep our hearts and minds open my brother.

Raheem    Tuesday, July 16, 2002 at 05:34:47 (PDT)

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