ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

I'm a Black man and have no problem with my sexuality, perception as a sexual magnet, or sex symbol real or perceived.
Any women who wants to have a fantasy at my expense, go right ahead and enjoy !
I love a good sexual fantasy myself.
Yes, I have certain sexual fantasies about Asian women. They are healthy fantasies that involve only mutual pleasure and everything good and wonderful in a woman.
that's all folks    Tuesday, July 23, 2002 at 09:06:30 (PDT)
There is a culture gap. We African American men don't understand the signs that Asian women give us. We don't know when they find us attractive or not.
Bill Organizme@aol.com    Tuesday, July 23, 2002 at 08:57:44 (PDT)
Tina
Thank you for your comments! I was riveted to my seat while I was reading (four times) your input.
Two wonderful things are happening here! The first is that black men are responding, and with as you say, and I agree with thoughtful and intelligent commentary. As a black man I can tell you there is a lot of feelings in those written words and its refreshing to see these positive exchanges! To tell you the truth I check this site "everyday" just with the hopes of experiencing more. And, apparently there are quite a few asian ladies out there that perhaps don't comment as much, but certainly are active readers of this site! It's good also to read their comments, as that's the primary purpose of this site. So, ladies please keep your comment coming! Thank you Tina for your comments I only hope that your observations don't fall on "deaf" ears, or closed minds.
Peace & Love to All
Geoffrey    Tuesday, July 23, 2002 at 04:48:19 (PDT)
I'm a NYC African-American man. The best women I've ever had in my life have been either Black or Asian but not American-Asian.

In my experience, there is no difference between American-Asian and White Americans. Of course, there are exceptions. But that has been my experience. I've yet to meet an Asian-American woman not dating a white man.
These are the sadest cases because they have been completely socially programmed. They think like white americans, thus looking down at African-Americans, consciously or unconsciously.

On the other hand, I've been invited to dinner by native Chinese co-workers and honestly feel they are less prejudice than Asian-Americans except for Korean-Americans. I'm still not sure about them but have not have that many positive experiences.

Japanese women in my book are the best. They take care of themselves to the highest degree. They are feminine and guess what...that's what real men want.

Sorry, even though women are now becoming professional boxers...I'd still rather watch them ice skate.

I think the strongest connection is between Japanese women and African-American men.

Why? Both cultures have been justly or unjustly been suppressed by white culture.

Japanese women and the culture in general values strength.

Black men epitomize strength and endurance despite the odds.

Perhaps due to the low social standing of African-Americans in the past or because of the spirituality of many African-Americans, we tend to gravitate towards higher consciousness...a cleaner way of thinking and living and despite how the media portrays us; we are seeking peace.

American women in general (Black, Asian, White) do not take care of themselves, have disgusting eating and living habits and are morally unsound completely programmed by American media.

On the other hand, Japanese women who by the way typically live the longest on the planet, are real women.

Your "pureness" as a person has nothing to do with your race, your "breeding" or your blood.

See it's very simple, you are either human or humanoid. And the difference is simple, humanoids look human but inside they are really monsters.
oneinfinite oneinfinite@yahoo.com    Monday, July 22, 2002 at 23:30:16 (PDT)
I wonder why there aren't that many Vietnamese AFs that date BM as opposed to other AFs? Anyone have thoughts on this?
Viet guy    Monday, July 22, 2002 at 15:01:47 (PDT)
Chen,
The only thing that I can add is "thank you"!
Paul    Monday, July 22, 2002 at 14:27:42 (PDT)
Hey Chocolate lover whatever,
I think you need to go back, read the respones to your mail and then re-read yours. I think there's a disconnect, and that you've really missed the point.
Bo BO    Monday, July 22, 2002 at 09:04:02 (PDT)
JD
I totally agree with you, but I just want to go there! Thank you.
Paul    Monday, July 22, 2002 at 08:01:32 (PDT)
Miss I love Chocolate,
I had the opportunity to not only read your posts (both of them) along with the reponses that came in from black men, and I believe "firstly" that your use of the word "retaliation" is grossly misapplied here. I saw no form of such! However, what I did see, and agree with was that your post "wreaked" with a profound stereotypic line of expression. If I were a black man reading that perhaps I too would have had been motivated to forward a response to "address" not "retaliate" to this sensitive and controversial issue. "Secondly", all of the posts that I viewed were both well presented, thought out, and far much kinder than I perhaps would have been. You seem to me, and just for the record (I'm also an asian lady) that you're somewhat young and unexperienced, this I beleve is quite apparent in your post. I'm not trying to put you down or discourage you, but I strongly recommend that as it relates to differences in peoples you maybe need to "think" before you start banging away on your keyboard there. This is a wonderful site to visit, and I myself even as an asian female don't really care about your "so called latina-like butt"! That's chat like mindless jargon, and I myself don't care to read that here. So, am I now too retaliating? "Thirdly", in your "attempt" to clarify your initial post you refocused your atention on the R&B music...well if that was your primary purpose in the first place then how did you end up in the back seat of a car, and who really cares? If you enjoy black music as many people do here in the States then simply say that without the sexual add-ons. Tell me how would ou respond to an intelligent black man that wasn't attired in "Puff Daddy (P. Diddy) clothes? Appears to this lady that you didn't really learn much during your brief stay here in America about black men. "Fourthly", in your post redress you "again" failed (at least in my eyes) to mention anything positive about black men being good husbands, responsible fathers, thier inteligence,good citizens, or anything else. True, you apologized in your opening, but then proceeded to jump right back into that stereotyic mode of thinking. To be trurthful I was totally embarassed by your statements, as I would be if a black friend would've made stereotypic statements concerning asian ladies. No one desires to be stereotyped be they asian, black, latino, or other. Lastly, you indicated that the myth "goes on" well you're so very wrong, as many black men even as you can read in this site desire to be viewed only as responsible, intelligent, creditable men, not as society's sexual predators like you claim...please grow up.
Tina Chen    Monday, July 22, 2002 at 05:59:12 (PDT)

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