ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

I'm a black man who has developed a very strong attraction to asian women (Japanese, Chinese, Tai, Korean, Filipino, you name it) over the past six years. I know of course that the term "asian" covers a pretty broad group of peoples. I'll say that there are particular things about certain asian women (their facial structures, thick dark hair, physique, manners, and an almost underplayed sense of beauty) that really appeal to me. I know that when I fall in love, I will do so based on more than just a woman's outward appearance. But a physical attraction is often what gets me interested in finding out more about a woman. I've had the nerve to approach an asian woman only once. This resulted in a brief encounter that fizzled out over a few weeks. She never really expressed to me why she wasn't interested in going any farther. I don't often see asian women with black guys. I get the feeling that I may not be as attractive to asian women as they are to me. Of course that's a broad generalization. Obviously all attraction is based on an individual's own feelings and desires. But, are there any asian women out there who are particularly attracted to black men? If so, where are you? From a cultural standpoint, based on a given nationality, is there a particular way asian women prefer to be approached? I could use a little help and advice.
Nathaniel Morrison davermo@aol.com    Sunday, July 28, 2002 at 13:13:53 (PDT)
V. Yomuri
Excuse me but don't you are being a bit stereotypical when you say that the reasons you would date a white guy over a brotha is because our image. For someone who obvious knows nothing about black people you should not make such statements as those. I'm a black man and I don't fit your stereotypical image so what? Maybe every time you go to the mall you see those guys dressed like that. Maybe they are bad people maybe not. But who are you to judge. You sound just like white people so maybe it suits you to date one. Most asians do anyway, right. Instead of looking at the persons character you judge with the outside appearance. Some may be no good but who are you and what makes you so much better. I do know a bit about Japanese people since I've been living in Japan for a year and a half and my girlfriend is Japanese. And I've noticed that Japanese people tend to be very racist and sometimes I think I'm dealing with white people because of that. It seems that Japanese tend to stereotype everyone who is different except for the almighty white man. An keep in mind I'm not jealous of the fact that you don't wanna date a brotha because that's your choice which is respected because we aren't attracted to the same kind of people, but I hate the fact that asian people are so racist to blacks because you are no better or worse than us. Your skin is yellow mine is brown so what. And of course you will deny that you are a tad bit prejudice or racist because you are scared of the so called scary black man image. But you need to not be so ignorant and try to know black people before you judge us because isn't that after all why you replied to that ignorant post about Japanese women and American women. I totally disagree with the fact that Japanese women connect the best. But anyway I'm done.
blackanese blackanese02@yahoo.com    Sunday, July 28, 2002 at 09:44:39 (PDT)
Oneinfinite,
Really hate to say this, but your comments are ot the same nature that can be viewed daily in most of the black chat sites online. That's why I desire not to even bother going there anymore. I'm so sick and tired of the negativity, the personal attacks, the profanity, and the blatant disrespect from both BW and BM alike. Makes me wonder along with many others as to why we (blacks) just can't seem to ever show any respect to one another, but by the same token constantly demand it from everyone else! I came to this site to get away from all of the "it's all good", "booty call" nonsense. And discover people who may have varied opinons, but are respectful and considerate in sharing those views. Now, then here you come along and insult all these women, women that you don't even know with your mindless, disrespectful, and totally insensitive remarks. It made me sick and embarassed reading your sinister comments. Maybe that's why more asian ladies aren't all that interested in dating black men. Think about it would you be?
Ralph    Saturday, July 27, 2002 at 23:43:25 (PDT)
To Oneinfinite, (whatever that's supposed to mean)
You espouse to be a knowledgable icon of the japanese culture, but let me inform you that as a japanese women I really didn't appreciate your comments nor you so-called reflections as it relates to my culture. Unfortunately, I had in the past dated a few black men, and this "special relationship" that you highlighted in your post had not a single thing to do with that of "a shared cultural oppression"...it was simply that of "money" ...my money!
So please, don't talk to me about your pride I've seen and heard all that before, and frankly it's just a big game that most black men play. I'm not at all surprised to read how disrespectful that you were to women in your post, I too have witnessed that first hand from a black man, talking all the time about respect, but in fact giving none! I'm intelligent enough however to realize that all black men aren't like that, but guess what I'm here to let you and other asian women know that in many cases that's the behavior of far too many black men. If you care to have cultural discussions via this site then first try learning about your own history, of which I have discovered many blacks know very little
about.
Kamiyama    Saturday, July 27, 2002 at 07:26:06 (PDT)
Oneinfinite,
In your attempt to be scholarly and witty you just made yourself appear more foolish and ignorant! I too agree with the earlier responses about your post. You've been very disrespectful to many women that you don't even know.
Perhaps you need to take the time to study your own culture (first) before you attempt to bask in the spotlight trying to represent mine.
Lisa Hashizume    Saturday, July 27, 2002 at 06:54:49 (PDT)

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