ASIAN FEMALE/ AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23% 		Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

who need it?
he or she is here to cause disruption to what otherwise might be one of the most exciting, romantic, sensual inter-racial relationships on the planet, black male-asian female.
Too hot for some folks
joe    Thursday, August 01, 2002 at 14:05:43 (PDT)
To All
Being an asian female I decided to follow up on comments made earlier by "Ralph" and took some time to visit a few black chat rooms. I however was totally unprepared for what I was to find! I just sat glued to the screen for quite a while reading the many harsh and extremely negative comments being made by both BM's and BF's. The profanity was extremely gross, well to me and I seriously had to ask myself why all the disrespect? Words were being used there that if I wrote them here I'm more than sure that every black man west of the rockies would attempt to tear me to pieces! The central theme that this woman came away with was that most of the men in those rooms talked about mostly about being pimps, gangsters, thugs, and players.
They called the BF's such horrible names, and in turn was called bad names also by the BF's. Sorry, but I don't understand this kind of negative, and it is negative behavior. I then tried to meet some of the people in there, and they all started calling me all kinds of vile, nasty names so I left.
I had been thinking lately about dating a black man, but after that encounter I don't think that I'll go there. I want to thank Ralph for providing that heads up for me to see for myself.
Geneva K.    Thursday, August 01, 2002 at 13:58:55 (PDT)
To Jack Handey,
Yes, Mr.Handey I stand by my claim(s) that the black man has an "image problem" even though you disagree.
You ask for some details then sir go "read" them for yourself.

One book is entilted: O.J. Simpson and The Black Man's Image, by M.D.C. Bowen
Another other is entitled: The Black Man's Burden, by John White

These books are just a few of "many" available at most book stores. However, I'm somewhat surprised that a black man would be asking a so-called "ignorant and racist" Japanese lady about reference materials on black culture.
Very strange indeed!
Claire    Thursday, August 01, 2002 at 11:15:07 (PDT)
Damn! Shouldn't the shameless pursuit, objectifying, and complaining, seriously end?

Blacks don't have a bad reputation just because of our image, it is also because there are many of us who embrace the negative image, eagerly and willingly, sometimes to the point of not even realizing it, or associating the image with only certain blacks and not themselves

These forum posts have been 85% black male, and rougly 15% Asian female. And the majority of the black men have been disrespecting, whining and complaining about Asian women and their culture and at the same time objectifying Asian women, like some new disposable product.

If not that, there are brothers who remain ignorant of their own behavior, always shifting the blame of their non-success to white men, Asian women, Asian men, and "those other negroes". (Oh man, these ignorant, ghetto brothers are messing up my chance with the (supposedly) soft, petite, delicate, scared, docile, Asian women -- nausea....)

This is the 21st century and many women across the world have shown ad-infitum times that can think for themselves or that they're willing to be educated about the real deal. Not everybody is preprogrammed to hate blacks, many, but not all. So brothers, why not simply let the time and interest worthy women do the pursuing, and let them go out of their way?

If you are a semi respectable person who has at least some level of respect for different cultural norms and can at least even speak some of their language to find your way around (you don't have to be a trained bilingual expert), then regardless of a woman's culture, and yours, there will always be some attracted to you without you having to even say a word.

It would be wise to stop blaming white men, stop blaming Asian cultures (citing Confucianism, etc..), and also to stop becoming angry at Asian women who are at least willing to explain themselves and at least smart and considerate enough not to waste their time with certain race of men they aren't truly interested in for relationships.

Peace
Juan Philippe niceguy1771@mail.com    Thursday, August 01, 2002 at 10:47:53 (PDT)
blackanese,
When I went to Japan initially, I was 19 years old and had finished 1 year of college and went into the USAF. I was stationed at Misawa AB, which is in the northernmost prefecture in Japan. Since it was so remote, I got to see a LOT of Japan where there were no other "gaijin". Perhaps since this was the case, they took me at face value becuase they hadnt had an opportunity to HAVE a bad experience.

As for the image problem of black men. I think there are 2 parties responsible. The media and black men. True, the media make it look like WE do all the crime even though the BIGGEST crooks are all on Wall Street and in Washington. But I think that we should strive to present a classier image of ourselves.
Stuff like that long trench Samuel L. Jackson wore in Shaft. His clothes were SLAMMIN in that movie. But only a brother could have pulled that look off. I think THAT's the direction we need to go.
Six-Ten Black Male elronin@ameritech.net    Wednesday, July 31, 2002 at 17:52:18 (PDT)

NEWEST COMMENTS | EARLIER COMMENTS