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Does anyone think that black women in general would be more open to dating asian men versus white men since there is no past history of slavery?
While some people may not like generalizations, do you think on the average black women are more accepting or less discomfited by a more direct approach of flirting or picking them up?
I kind of feel that a black women would be less disconcerted by my approaching her and telling her off the bat that I like her than a white women or asian women would.
Also, from what I hear from indian men at work who tell me that black women hit on them, do you think black women are less shy about approaching men than other women.
I know people don't like stereotypes, however, there is a factor known as culture which affects how people act and their level of reserve in interactions with others of the opposite sex.
I would like to hear from the sisters about this...
The Tiger
Friday, January 11, 2002 at 09:56:13 (PST)
I don't know what other people think, but I think black women age very gracefully...I often see very beautiful chocolate sisters who look much younger than they really are...Of course the dark skin also serves to hide wrinkles in addition to looking very sexy.
Anyway, where I work there aren't very many young women my age, but there are plenty of sexy black women that are older than me, i.e. I am 21, and there are a couple of really cute black women in their thirties and forties, but I am not sure if they would be open to a relationship with a younger guy.
i also know that there are a lot more single black women than of other races due to the disproportionate number of black men either in jail and black women have a high divorce rate which makes more available divorced black women who may interested in companionship.
I am not sure how to broach the subject or begin a relationship with an older women, black or other, especially one who works in the same company as I.
Do you women out there think there are many black women who would be interested in dating younger men, younger asian men?
Also how I get them to see me as a man instead of through the young adolescent type of image.
Well, I welcome all comments and suggestions....
Dani
Friday, January 11, 2002 at 09:51:13 (PST)
Does anybody think that Aisha Tyler, the hostess of that dating show The Fifth Wheel is really beautiful as well as very funny and charming?
Jae Sung
Friday, January 11, 2002 at 09:42:07 (PST)
Those of us at BV's and BP knows this Vanillavixen too well. It is possible that she's actually a white person and while she may not be black she is indeed disturbed. Why do other races have to disguise themselves as blacks just to vent?
Tallgirl
Friday, January 11, 2002 at 08:29:45 (PST)
Disturbed,
ALRIGHT GIRL ! I can't be mad at you because everything you said is true. We as black women can be our own worst enemy. Even though there are those who do some skank, nasty stuff we don't need to keep pushing that image.
Keep the truth coming
Farah
Thursday, January 10, 2002 at 19:10:42 (PST)
Racer X
I live in Washington, D.C., too bad, I can't meet you. But there is a very large asian community in Northern Virginia, Especially Korean :) I'm in heaven. Do you have a Black girlfrien or are you looking or just playing the field?
I know there are plenty of sisters out here who would love to meet you
Love and Kisses
Farah
Thursday, January 10, 2002 at 19:02:21 (PST)
To Just Wanting to Know,
Hello girl. I wanted to respond to what you wrote.
You said:
Another thing I want to say is that as BW, we really need to stop calling ourselves and each other all of these bad names like Bitch, Hoe, Whore, Hoodrat, Chicken Head, etc.
Me:
I am of the belief that if you act like something then you should be referred to as that. Its no denying many sisters today act just like those names. Matter of fact, turn on your TV and you will see many Black women dancing happily to lyrics that refer to them as such.
We do not need to worry about other races seeing us calling each other names. Names are minute while actions speak louder than words. We Black women need to be more concerned about our ACTIONS and what we do with OTHER RACES that can give them the idea that we are those names. What your friend did with her so called "man" and buddy was more of a disservice to all Black women (and our rputations as a whole) than me calling a hoe a hoe. really.
You actually took it a step further by coming onto a website and broadcasting it before the world not only telling your Black girlfriend's business but having the nerve to even print that crap on the world wide web asking other Black women if we did it. And you are concerned about other races seeing us call each other names?
But you weren't concerned about posting such disgusting whorish behavior about your Black female friend and what she did with two "fine Asian men" on a Asian website? that was more disrespectful than me referring to a hoe as being a hoe! Girl you need to think! How do you think you helped the matter by braodcasting to the world that your Black female friend slept with two Asian men at once and asking if other sisters would do it on a ASIAN WEBSITE?!
You:
When people of other races hear us saying this to each other, they feel that they can call us that or even treat us as such.
Me:
You brought this disgusting topic to a Non Black website Just! SO who is the real culprit here? I would never (even if I knew someone who did it) make Black women look that lowly by telling the world wide web and especially a Non Black website what she did with her non Black partner and then degrade Black women further by asking us if we'd do it. AND THEN get concerned about some silly name calling....
Girl, I have no more words for you at this point. You need to practice what you preach for real!
You have a good day MY SISTA....
Disturbed Black woman vanillavixen@yahoo.com
Thursday, January 10, 2002 at 13:41:09 (PST)
JTHM I couldn't help but to respond to this:
You said:
A threesome does NOT show a lack of self respect, it shows that she has respect enough for herself to do whatever the hell she feels like and with relish.
Me:
Yeah okay. If it was alll about doing what she liked then she would not have waitied on her "man" and his friend to beg her to do it, she would have went to them and begged THEM to do it! Real women do not wait on men to beg them to do somehting. They go after what they want on thier own cognizance(sp?). We do no have very many real women in the world today; that's obvious.
You:
It's women that judge and bend to the whim of a domineering and male run society who eventually end up reading Oprah magazine articles on how to spice up their love lives.
Me:
You are so babbling now! Lol. But whatever you believe. i have my beliefs about your type and you are welcome and free to have your beliefs about my type. No hard feelings. BTW, I do not read nor watch Oprah. LOL.
You:
You have fed into one of the oldest and most outdated Dogmas known to man in and in your quest to bash a woman you haven't met, in my eyes, you have shown yourself to be the common "Christian White woman" who hasn't had enough kink in her life.
Me:
If you enjoy being an animlaistic hoe in heat then great, just say it. But do not bring religion into this, do not bring White women into this, and do not insinuate that i do not have enough "kink" in my life. Because IMO your ideas of kink may be my ideas of deadly, unsanitary, foul, nasty, desperate, barbaric, animalistic behaviors and acts.
You:
If a woman wants a good f***, she should get a good f***.
Me:
Whatever. If you need two men to get a "good f***" then obviously you have been whoring waaay to long. All I need is one man sweetheart. But I guess when you wear yourself out one man isn;t enough is it?. hey. I understand girl(rolling my eyes in disbelief).
You:
That's enough for me...I'm not big on redundancy.
Me:
Thank God. I can only take so much whore freedom fighting in one sitting.
You:
P.S. I have done some KINKY, LURID, and EXPLICIT things with my boyfriend......
Me:
Uh Uh Uh! Remember you weren't Big on redundancy. I already know you are a kinky whore so no need to keep reiterating it dahling!
Disturbed Black woman vanillavixen@yahoo.com
Thursday, January 10, 2002 at 13:23:16 (PST)
To JTHM,
You said:
Yes I do agree with you on the bastardization and image shattering that we as black women have had to face since our arrival on this countries soil. But to call a woman a whore for fufilling a sexual fantasy is insane and feeds into the male chauvanism that has been plauging our society.
Me:
Any woman that has sex with any man other than her boyfriend/husband at the time *IS* a whore because sleeping with multiple people (at one time or at seperate times) is piggish for a man or a woman especially in this day of all these sexually transmitted diseases. Not only that, it shows lack of respect for your partner to even fuck others and risk not only your health but theirs as well.
We do not live in Utopia sweetie. And another thing Black women are the leading carriers of AIDS (deadly sexual disease) worldwide. that should be enough for Blackmen to stop acting like loose hoes in heat since being that can literally kill you nowadays (hey that could be a good thing. maybe then the women left will be just the respectable women)! Does anyone care about the quality of living anymore or maybe some just do not care?
Any woman that would subject her body to such risky consequences must be a whore that does not care about herself or her body. And if its true about her "man" and his buddy being bi sexual that makes her even more a whore for sleeping with not one but TWO high risk men at one damn time. She is not only a whore but a dumb one at that.
Just like any man that sleeps around with different women is a whore as well! Men and women are NOT the same, we do not think alike and our bodies damn sure are not alike. When men can carry babies and deliver babies from their bodies, when men have menstrual cycles, when men can donate eggs, when men can grow breasts with milk, then you come talk to me about men and women both being the same and it being okay for both men and women to do the same thing with their bodies.
I am so sick of women thinking they can be like men and do what men do and that if other women object to it then we are feeding into male dominated soiceties view on women. Has it ever occured to you that some women DO believe their bodies are like precious jewels and that it needs to be treated that way? or is it always about women trying to give into men? WTH does me caring about how I treat my body and caring about how Black owmen are perceived on a broader level have to do with men at all? If you do not respect yourself then why should anyone else work at treating you with some dignity since you do not care either way.
Just because you feel differently about me objecting to what i feel is sick desperate whorish behavior doesn't mean I am giving into male dominated society's views on what women should be.
Its a FACT that Black women have bad images in terms of our sexuality. Its also a fact that people treat you how you treat yourself and how you portray yourself and by your actions. If you choose to ignore it then okay, fine. Maybe to you its not being whorish but we'll just have to agree to disagree since i am of the belief that a woman's body is all she has besides her mind. If she uses her body and abuses it then its obvious her mind is messed up to.
Disturbed Black woman vanillavixen@yahoo.com
Thursday, January 10, 2002 at 13:07:11 (PST)
To Takeshida,
You said:
Do you really think that this woman was just doing it to please her guy?
Me;
Obviously you didn't read the original post from Just wanting to know now did you? Go back and read and tell me what you think when she says that "at first she was unsure about doing it but then they begged her to do it"....
You:
What about her own pleasure?
me:
If she really wanted to do it then she wouldn't have waited for her so called "man" and his friend to beg her to have sex with both of them at once. She would have propositioned them if it was all about her own pleasure. She is just another typical weak Black woman that gave into something she was unsure about doing, but did it because her man begged her to do it. And it wasn't until AFTER she did it that she calimed to have "liked it". But I find it odd that she told her friend she liked it but then said she would never do it again. Hmmm. Sounds like another typical case of I played myself so I'll play it off like I enjoyed it BUT I just won't do it again. Okkkaayyy! Lol.
You:
I'm just playing devil's advocate here, you know. It's ok girls. I know that across the board, black women can be quite conservative about the subject of sex.
Me:
if you think Black women objecting to having her body being used by two men (one who calls himself her "man") at one time is conservative then we Black women have bigger problems than I thought. UGH. There is nothing feminine about whoring your body around to different men (because they begged your dumb butt) especially different men at ONE TIME honey. If that makes me conservative then call me an extremist right wing conservative to the tenth power!
You:
It's a funny thing because it borderlines Japanese mentality at times. Strange.
Me:
Well that may be strange to you just likeI find anyone defending a whorish behavior strange.
You:
A disturbed Black woman: What's wrong with being comfortable with sex. How can you tell when someone does something out of desperation or need?
Me:
Uhm. if someone has to beg you to do something you are unsure about doing in the first place, then you are obviously stupid, insecure and desperate to win over thier approval by giving in. DId you read the damn post from Just wanting to know or are you just rambling because some of my posts hit home for you or someone you know?
LOL. ANd then to say you "enjoyed" doing something that someone begged you to do and turn around and say you would never do it again? Obviously she wasn't that damn comfortable with her sexual act or else she wouldn't have said she would never do it again.
You:
what IS oversexed?
Me:
Maybe you should ask yourself this question since you seem to think Black women who feel having sex with two men at once is digusting and disrespectful to her body (i.e temple)are "conservative". Lol.
You:
What people do in the privacy of their homes isn't going to change what society thinks at all.
Me;
Yeah right. And Black women have our reputations we do because what we do behind closed doors doesn't change what society thinks and portrays of us at all? You are sad and need to get out into the real world MY SISTA (that is if you are a Black woman). Its obvious you do not know much on the overall perceptions and views of Black women. And if you are not a Black woman, then do not try to understand because you never will and its obvious you just do not get it.
have a nice day!
Disturbed Black woman vanillavixen@yahoo.com
Thursday, January 10, 2002 at 12:43:28 (PST)
To Crzysexycool,
You said: Self respect, love and pride are very necessary. If we don't have these traits how do we expect anyone to truly love us back.
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Thanks! And sorry about my lengthy posts I just go on tangents about these things because I am very passioante about Black women getting fair treatment and fair images.
Anyway, ITA! I am sorry but Black women can sit here and say how much its an individual choice to do what we please, but this sexually loose behavior is being shown in various ways on how society views Black women and ALL of us as Black women are affected someway or another directly or indirectly.
Yeah homegirl may have done what she did in the privacy of her own home with her so called "man" but whose to say that if they do not last that he will not try some other self respecting Black woman he is with who may take offense to him asking her to have a threesome and be very hurt that he would even think to ask her to do something like that? What will his response be? "Well my last girlfriend who was BLACK did it so i do not see why it would be a problem with you".
Or the simple fact that when these Non Black men run across loose Black women who let them have their way with them, they think they can approach us other Black women in disrespectful manners or commenting on our body parts etc. or even trying to treat us like a piece of meat simply because they have come across or dated some sluty Black women and think most Black women are like the ones they know or knew.
Its obvious many sisters are desperate to do anything to please a man and this is why Black women are being marketed in the popular music today as booty shaking hoes and money grubbing whores with no values using thier body and body parts to get attention from men who are pumping their heads up and "begging them" to act like that. better believe Non Black males (who buy 70% of rap music today) see these images of Black women and will develop perceptions of Black women based on what they see. And then when loose Black women give into kinky demads then what else are they supposed to think of Black women?
That is why so many Black women have OOW kids now and AIDS! Giving into men who they THINK loves them and respects them only later to find out that he will not stick around for the long haul when its time to really show her how much he respects her in raising his kids and committing to a relationship.
Take Care and keep your head up sister. There are still plenty of us trying to fight the battle of these horrific images and actions of some of our weaker minded sisters.
Disturbed Black woman vanillavixen@yahoo.com
Thursday, January 10, 2002 at 12:24:11 (PST)
To Green:
You said:
As much as you speak about uplifting black women, please do not forget that this is America you are talking about.
Green Thursday, January 10, 2002 at 07:10:42 (PST)
I said nothing about the fact that she or other "loose" women could "not" do threesomes or participate in animalistic sexual things with men. I just stated that Black women need to be alot more mindful of our reputations as women in the first place. As well as understanding that when we do certain things right or wrong we will be judged as a group by it and not as individuals.
You are comparing apples and oranges. We can all do what the hell we want to do within certain jurisdictions as individuals. Unfortunatley, Black women do not live in a vaccum and neither does the rest of society. In addition we live in a racist society where people treated and grouped together by certain characteristics based on interactions and perceptions with them.
Black women have always had a stigma of being loose sexual whores and its a Fact that men of other cultures have viewed Black women in this light. This is also not a secret to many Black women and thus why American Black women are very reluctant in dating men of other cultures (especially White) out of fear of lack of respect. In reading some of these posts all I keep seeing Black women being referred to in terms of how good we are are our "bodies" and "curves" etc.
If a Black woman chooses to live up to a racist stereotype of Black women being easy, docile and willing to do anything to please a man because "he begged her" then that is certainly something she has to deal with as an individual. But unfortunatley, its just another Black woman that has contributed to the stigma of Black women in general that we are sexually loose.
it is my right as a Blackwoman to express my thoughts on their behavior when asked how I feel about it and if I would do it and why or why not. The question was brought up by "just wanting to know" and I gave my opinions on the issue itself and I went further to express WHY I have those feelings about her friend being a whore and a disgrace to Black female womanhood.
Thanks for your response.
Disturbed Black woman vanillavixen@yahoo.com
Thursday, January 10, 2002 at 12:03:18 (PST)
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