Asian Male/Black Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to African American females?
Their facial features | 36%
Their physique | 36%
Their attitude and personality | 27%
Their education & cultural values | 1%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with African American females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 2%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 7%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 67%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 24%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 77%
Their physique | 4%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 78%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 13%

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Jae Sung,

Oh Lord, I love Aisha Tyler! She is the only reason I watch that show. I didn't know if anyone had ever seen it, since it's on at like 1:00AM in my city, but I've been meaning to write a post about her. I can't believe someone beat me to it!
Philly Saturday, January 12, 2002 at 19:31:46 (PST)

Hey, Tyson Beckford is half Chinese, half Jamaican. He has some sick Chinese dragon tats too.
TSJ Eric@KristinKreuk.net Saturday, January 12, 2002 at 11:39:00 (PST)

Dani

Black women period are beautiful women both on the inside, and as well as on the outside. I believe that some older women would be in a relationship with a younger man depending on his personality. How he acts, will treat her. It pretty much boils down to the level of your maturity, and how you present yourself to her. If you like someone who maybe be older, younger, black, white, whatever..express to them how you feel. Just don't say it, show it. Like they say, "Don't talk bout it, be bout it".

Living in nations' capital "Chocolate City", there's a variety of ages of black women here who are single, so you know I'm straight. LOL. Nah, I'm playin. Maybe you should talk to them, and become friends with them, who knows what may hasppen, cause friendship is the key to opportunity. :-)

Maximuxxx Saturday, January 12, 2002 at 10:48:59 (PST)

Disturbed Black Woman,

You seriously have some major issues. You probably have been hurt many times over by black men, but here’s the funny part. You still defend them despite all their flaws. You have posted lengthy comments, but I will be brief in my view of what you are trying to say. I think you are telling your fellow sisters not to out-date or out-marry with other white or Asian men because of their misconception of the black woman, right? That’s very loyal, but guess what? Black men don’t really care about loyalty because you have seen hoards of black men going out with white women. Black men don’t care about past issues with slavery. They just care about having sex be it with black, white, or yellow women. I think you are doing you and black women a disservice by telling them to just be with black men. What you should do is encourage black women to find men of other races to make your brothers (black men) jealous. This way, black men will learn not take advantage of black women in fear of losing their sisters to other races.
When you refer to those rap songs and videos degrading black women, you should notice that black guys are perpetuating the stereotype, not men of other races. When was the last time you see an Asian or white guy degrade a black woman on t.v.? I think your views really make you a disturbed black woman.

New AM Saturday, January 12, 2002 at 07:19:48 (PST)

Racer X, are you hitting on me?
How cute. ( *blush* )

Yes. I do live in the east bay. Not Berkeley tho. I hate Berkeley.
So, where do you live? What if we lived in the same town. That would be hilarious.

girl X Saturday, January 12, 2002 at 01:59:52 (PST)

After reading your post, I've decide that you are just a prudish ,disturbed young woman who has not the capacity to see beyond your own sheltered world. If this woman did it and wanted to do it or didn't want to do it but, did it anyway, it falls on her own head. The fact that her guy suppossedly begged her doesn't necessarily mean she didn't want to do it.
You said, "if someone has to beg you to do something you are unsure about doing in the first place, then you are obviously stupid, insecure and desperate to win over thier approval by giving in."

If your best friend "begged" you to go shopping w/ her and you said yes, then does that make you weak or unsure? No. Maybe you weren't really thinking about it but doesn't mean you don't mind taking time out for it. But, as I write, I see we could battle about this for days. No one really knows why this young lady agreed to this. What I do know is that, if your friend, you know, the person you shoot the shit with everyday says to you, " So, did you like it? ", if you were pressured into and didn't like it, you wouldn't lie to your friend about it. I KNOW girls don't lie about bad sexual experiences. You chicks are the first to call your friend the very next day after your man couldn't make it happen. I'm a guy. I know this. And just because she didn't wanna do it again doesn't mean jack.

Imagine you have a fabulous nite out on the town, you decide to do a line of coke and you've never done this before, mind you, partying your ass off and enjoying every minute. The night turns out really well, you wake next day, feeling fine but, you don't have to do that again. You had fun but, you don't want to do it again. Just maybe the girl did it out of plain CURIOSITY.

You said:"...you seem to think Black women who feel having sex with two men at once is digusting and disrespectful to her body (i.e temple)are "conservative"

I didn't say that a women objecting to having her body used by two men is conservative. What I should have said was your attitude about the whole thing is conservative. And what I meant about conservatism in Black women doesn't only pertain to the issue of sex. I've seen, on more occassions than one, Black women dart eyes at, scoff, and be plain unaccepting of another one of their own sisters because they simply didn't understand or couldn't come to terms with the other being different from them BUT, the same. This conservative nature is also found in my own Japanese culture. So, I see it clearly. People waste much of their time & energy worrying or being concerned about what the fck other people think instead of living their own unique life. Just be responsible for your own life and be true to yourself. I agree with you that I do not know much on the overall perceptions and views of Black women, because I only know a few. I relate to people on an individual level and I can say that I do know the views of certain women I know personally. And as far as perceptions, the white media has never stained my view of Black women, in particular. Neither has propaganda, because I see people as individual; until they prove otherwise.

-Domo

Takeshida Saturday, January 12, 2002 at 01:50:39 (PST)

I really encourage more black women on this site to really express more of their opinions and incites into the different issues that come up on this message board. I find it really fascinating finding out what all you black women think..and less interesting reading all the arguments that go on...

I think that there should be more black asian discussion and marriages. There is beauty in contrast. In addition, as far as stereotypes are concerned blacks and asian suffer from diametrically opposed stereotypes. Asians are accused of being too passive and blacks of being too agressive.

I think the two races could temper each other with a little fun mixing...

Besides in this country, blacks and asians are the only real non-white races.
After all, hispanics, middle eastern, indian look like whites basically.
So lets stick together...

I want to see some sisters doing kung-fu and some asian brothers doing some rapping and break dancing...

That's it..

Asian Sensation Saturday, January 12, 2002 at 01:31:27 (PST)

To Disturbed Black woman,
While I respect your opinion and certainly understand your concern for the reputation of black women in general, I think you are being a little harsh in your zealousness to defend and protect the reputation of black women. That is noble of you, but I think its just as important for black women to free themselves from the bond of racial self-consciousness and to cease to give so much import to what other races think of them and simply try to better themselves.

While blacks are a minority, they have to stop thinking with the minority mindset which harbors an intense concern for what the majority race think of them i.e. whites.

I myself am asian and I never think to myself what would whites, or black or hispanics think of me if I did such and such an action. It does not and should not matter. I live by my own moral code, but only because I choose to, not because I am worried about what some other people are going to think.

In any event, I love black women, I think they're gorgeous and confident, and I don't expect any black women to change for me, I like them all just the way they are.

Da Wang Saturday, January 12, 2002 at 01:14:48 (PST)

To Tiger

I myself date an Italian White guy. Most of my Black girlfriends do find Italian men attractive but do question why i would date a blonde blue eyed one. But most Black women are very apprehensive about dating White men based on cultural standpoints and history. Also I find most Black women do not find White men attractive and I think that may stem from a large distrust many Black women have of White men in general.

To answer your question, YES, I do believe that in the future once American Black women start opening their dating horizons that it will be with Asian men moreso than White or other.

Asian men have no history of abuse with Black women plus their is a very great curiousity amongst the two groups. Not to mention Asian men and Black women do have alot in common whether people believe this or not.

The difference is, Asain parents tend to be very racist towards their Asian children dating Balcks. ANd to be honest i feel Asian mroeso try to fit into a White mainstream which makes them believe that dating another minoirty (especially Black) is a step down.

Anyway, I believe a Black woman would prefer a Asian man appraoch her than a White man for the reasons outlined. In addition, alot of Black women are not listening ot the stereotypes about Asian men and the penis thing because we realize that a large penis and body doesn't make a man. His heart does.

Good luck!
Disturbed Black woman. But I'm over it! vanellavixin@yahoo.com Friday, January 11, 2002 at 22:44:20 (PST)

Finally,
someone who realizes that black women are just literally giving themselves up in the wink of an eye to impress a man.

There is a difference between being comfortable with sex and exploiting yourself on a board.
Sanchi Friday, January 11, 2002 at 19:30:29 (PST)

Disturbed Black woman,

I have to say I pretty much agree with many of your points. You were straight to the point with them and voiced your opinions strongly but you speak a lot truth. I get tired of the sexual image placed on black women as well, but I'm sure this happens with other women of other ethnicities too. But, based on my experiences and observations, I observe stereotypes of black women known as easy and freaky is greater than the other races. It gets to be tiresome and to know there are black women out there contributing to this stereotype as well as men who thinks this about our race.

The best thing you can do is break the stereotypes by living out your beliefs. When non-black men approach you and see you do not fit this stereotype, they will learn we all are not like that and hopefully, will begin to respect black women more. You may not be able to get all black women to see this and non-black men too but there are black women out there who are living lives that break this stereotype.

For the women who are contributing to the stereotypes... well, to each their own. But, in the long run and for their own well-being, it's not worth it. Hopefully, one day they will learn self-respect and self-love.
PB Friday, January 11, 2002 at 18:29:52 (PST)

Jae Sung

I **Love** Aisha Tyler ^_^

Smitten Friday, January 11, 2002 at 17:18:01 (PST)

Why does everyone on here have to be so angry, it's just a poll. It would be nice to come to this poll with having to read negativity all of the time, especially from some of the BW on this poll.

I am a Japanese/Filipno male that loves BW to death. It's not just they're beautiful bodies that turns me on, but it's they're intellect, compassion, wit, love for family, morality, and love that truly turns me on. Black women are truly a treasure to me. Even though I like women of all races, I really have a thing for BW, I feel more comfortable with a BW.

I don't beleive in those stereotypes about BW because I know that they're not true. There is good and bad in every race. And I would never disrespect a woman(especially not a BW), even if she might be disrespecting herself. I treat all women like a queen(especially my beautiful BW).
King Looking for Beautiful Black Queen Friday, January 11, 2002 at 15:32:06 (PST)

To: Dani

Thank you so much for the compliment, us BW appreciate that. I can understand your point about getting an older women to see you as a man and not a youngster. All I can tell you to be confident in yourslef and comfortable enough to socialize with the older person that you like, get to know her, maybe you can ask her out on a date or something. Kind of just get the ball rolling to let her know that you are a man, a good man, not a kid.

As for myself, I would like to date an AM, but I don't know if AM would be attracted to me, at least the ones that I have met. Sometimes I wonder if they trip into these negative stereotypes about BW that are not even true. I think I'm a pretty cool person, I get along with everybody, I'm educated, and compassionate to people, and I,look pretty cool, but I guess it's not enough to get any man's attention, let alone an AM. Oh well!

Approach her and let her know how you feel, good luck!
Jas Friday, January 11, 2002 at 15:20:11 (PST)

Disturbed:

WOOOOT! I'm a HO! Hey everybody! I'm a ho! Hey Green! I'm a ho! LA LA LAAAAAAA! *does the ho dance* Oh yeah! *hip thrust*

LOL! You're so cute. I can't even be upset at the names you called me because it shows your lack of maturity. How odd that at one point you were saying that I am entitled to my views and then the next you would deface my character simply because they are different from yours. Oh well. Live and let live you know?

Thanks for sharing your opinion of my life and morals.

^_~

JTHM
Guns don't kill people...teenagers do. Friday, January 11, 2002 at 14:37:50 (PST)

I am a black female and I find Asian men very attractive. I just don't think they find me attractive. I mean what am I to do. I really have never seen an Asian man with a Black female before, but I can't help finding myself attracted to them..
RIZZO rizzo_145@hotmail.com Friday, January 11, 2002 at 14:26:08 (PST)

Okay Disturbed BW(Vanilla Vixen), if you are a white woman, why do you even give a rhino's ass about what black men and women do?

Girl you need to go to the AM/WW polls and stay over there. Stay out of our business.

Inco Gnito Friday, January 11, 2002 at 13:26:08 (PST)

Jae Sung: Yes Aisha Tyler is oh so nice. Check: http://www.btdo.net/comedy/picholders/ maximpreview-001.htm
She's also married (to a white dude).

SWK Friday, January 11, 2002 at 13:04:33 (PST)

Anyways, geez can we give this topic a break and get back to what this forum is truly about. I am tired of being lectured from the disturbed.

1. We are all adults(hopefully) on this site and people have to be and feel responsible aboutwhat they do offline and online. So why are we all worried about what someone posted 3 days ago?

2. Disturbed, chill with the long ass rants. You have been heard and you made your point in the first lecture you posted. Geez can someone else get a word in?

3. What I don't understand is why are we posting all this very personal information about our sex lives? Who cares what you do behind closed doors.
The subject of sex is personal and sacred. Please have some respect for yourselves.

Peace Out

third eye Friday, January 11, 2002 at 13:03:13 (PST)

Tiger,

I think it's because most black women have alot of confindence in themselves that they can approach men of other races, atleast thats how I and my friends are. We try not to be too pushy, but hey nothing ventured nothing gained right?

when I first approched an asian guy (he's chinese and mine now :) but he was more afraid of approching me, even though he wanted to. I'm glad I made the first move. I don't think it's bad to flirt as long as you don't go to far as to where you make someone uncomfortable.

How do you approch the sisters?
Farah Friday, January 11, 2002 at 11:02:49 (PST)

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