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Sistamoonkitty,
Although momma and your man go hand in hand its up to him to be the strong one. Even though it is difficult with asian mothers you can't just throw the hands up, unless yor boyfriend isn't giving you any support. I don't really think you want to know what was said ( I know I damn sure didn't with my boyfriends mother):0 I don't really like to hear that kind of language in Chinese or English :)
Just sit down and talk to your boyfriend and see where his head is.
Peace Kid
Farah
Wednesday, January 23, 2002 at 10:27:49 (PST)
Sistamoonkitty,
I have no doubt that my boyfriend's mom is acting each time I see her azzz. That's why I'm not going over there anymore. Tired of this shit. Plus, I hate fake people! Why do they have to be so fake? Now, she knows she ain't never gonna get to see her grandkids, though she probably won't want to! So, it works out for both of us! Would hate for my kids to grow up to be anything like her.
Can do w/o Azian Moms
Wednesday, January 23, 2002 at 07:55:44 (PST)
hey people i need some advice.
i met this real nice african'american/moari chick n i think we may have some chemistry going on, and its the first time i ever considered dating a B gurl. The only thing that gets in my way is my parents n maybe some of my friends. and at the same time i have a white female on my mind, just as gorgeous. they both are super talented. but with the WF, the only problem is her parents probably wont except it. whot should I do?
stuntman18
Wednesday, January 23, 2002 at 07:12:35 (PST)
Vixen, you are a silly person. I also visit those clubs and all I ever see is pics of blak women. You just came here to start some trouble. Girl get a clue. If the Black women are not showing their pics, It is only because trollkins like you will go and deface those black women who have the courage to be seen online. You are a silly person. Too think we readers couldn't read between the lines.
Ice cold man,
Everyone has a right to their privacy and if you want to see these people so bad why don't you just meet them offline?
Inco Gnito
Wednesday, January 23, 2002 at 06:27:39 (PST)
SistaMoonKitty,
I've been reading your posts recently and I have to say you're a great person and you shouldn't let your bf's mother distract you in any way. I'm Asian myself and I know that many Asian women like to be "fake". Even if they were stuck in an elevator with their worst enemy they wouldn't say anything to show their true feelings. You shouldn't worry too much, you've done your best to impress your bf's mother so just let her get over it!
AsianF
Wednesday, January 23, 2002 at 03:54:44 (PST)
Lilblessedone said:
" Why don't we see more black women and asian men together? "
Well apparently we are the ones that don't register on the popularity index of this country.....at least that's what they want you to think. And so trying to survey this information in the field is hopeless. On top of that, it's a matter of culture. Think about it like this. We are both, as "racial mates" to black men & asian women, the partners that try to keep the other up. To uplift, to run after, to preserve the race. And sometimes, to the detriment of ourselves. We are the last to dip our pen in a different color ink because we may be scared of what THE RACE will say. Another reason for low numbers, could be the cultural differences, and location. Living on the west coast, there is a higher population of asian men.
Racer X,
me: 92' HondaCB1-400cc - Blue
Interested in coming out on the ride? Tell you what.
If you're too hungover, then you can always ride pillion with me(*smirk*).
Take,
The soft/smooth skin stuff is funny! My ex told me the same and I laughed at him also. I thought he was just trying to get me naked! I have a roomate who is white, she has a ton of lotions and body cremes and stuff all over the bathroom. Man, she asked me to put some on her back and the girl's skin was like fine sandpaper. Guess that what you get with ZERO melanin....
Nice observation sir.
Girl X
Wednesday, January 23, 2002 at 01:06:55 (PST)
i dated a black girl in high school except she was born in sudan, i think black women from africa are much more open to dating asian males than black women from a western society.
hapa bro
Wednesday, January 23, 2002 at 00:43:44 (PST)
No Asian mother would put on an "act" as such. You apparently don't know Asians....
If they don't like you or are not too sure about how they feel, they basically avoid you. Let me tell you, they don't "front". ( At least the mother's don't when it comes to their childrens' romantic involvements )
Take
Tuesday, January 22, 2002 at 23:47:01 (PST)
Heck, my picture is posted up. I think I'm so cute! I never owned a scanner till about last year (seriously)!
Sista MoonKitty,
My advice is just stand fast. You keep on being you and if you have to meet up with her again, still be on your best behaviour. If your boyfriend is still willing to stick with you no matter how his mother feels, then you shouldn't have anything to worry about.
Cute pix girl
Tuesday, January 22, 2002 at 22:19:05 (PST)
SistaMoonKitty
Ask your boyfriend if she has treated other girls he has brought home that way. It may be she has ridiculous expectations of who her son dates. Just think it could have been worse..she could have ignored you. Don't lose all hope yet, next time you see her be as nice as the first time you met her. It is hard to hate someone who showers you with kindness.
heavenly
Tuesday, January 22, 2002 at 20:04:59 (PST)
SistaMK:
Hey,girl. You did your best. Don't take your honey's word for it that she was just putting on an act. If she didn't say anything rude to your face, and she didn't act rudely towards you, then don't get involved in that he-say-she-say, he-did-she-did nonsense. (You ARE above that, aren't you?) I am not trying to say that your honey is unreliable. I am certain that he means well. However, I am saying that you should deal with her in the manner where you alone can interpret how she has treated you. I have had people who have meant well (and some who just plain meant to hurt me) get involved in interpreting other people's reactions/relations towards me when it was contrary to what I had experienced/believed. In most of the cases if not all, I have found my initial gut feeling to be the correct one, the truth, in the end. For instance, I remember when I was really young, I was told by some "friends" that another friend had gone behind my back and was talking about me, spreading rumors, and that she wanted to kick my . . . It turns out that these "friends" whom I truly felt were reliable friends, had told her the same thing about me. Good thing that we eventually got together and discussed what was going on or we would have never known that we were conned and were being used. Another example is when, last year, a male friend of mine told me that a mutual male friend of ours was only talking to me and hanging out with me because he felt "obligated" and "pity" for me because I was single. It turns out that 1) the guy who told me this had a huge crush on me and he didn't want me to like the other guy, and 2) the guy who was supposedly feeling "obligated" towards me was actually warming up (getting the courage up) to ask me out. I found this out later after the "obligated" guy started dating someone else. (Guess he felt like he could tell me at that point.) You see, he had asked someone else out because I had taken the words of the first guy to heart and had pulled back from him. My point is this: you really do not know the entire truth--the whole story---about how/what she feels about you. If you believed initially that you two got along pretty well, go with that. Even if it's not present reality, believing in that good truth will eventually make it reality. If you really need to know how she feels about you, take her out to lunch, one-on-one (with your own translator, of course (not your boyfriend!)). Put her on the spot and ask her your most pressing questions. Either she will answer or not, and if she does answer, you will know what you need to and no longer have to wonder or go through your boyfriend to know how she feels. As you can tell, I am not a fan of third party relationships. Anyway, follow your heart, not someone else's--not even your boyfriend's! Even if you discover that your boyfriend is correct and she hates you, don't worry since it's him that you will spend the most amount of time with, not her.
Now, having said ALL that, let me say a few more things or at least, ask a question. Why the hell are you expending so much effort on trying to get her to like you? My mum did the same thing during her second marriage and I just never GOT it. When the two of you marry, will she be running your lives? Hell no! And by the sound of it, she has no say in your honey's life right now. So, why try to act like she holds the key to your future happiness? You seem like a real down to earth wonderful person! Just be yourself and go on about your business. Who the hell cares if she likes you or not? The world will not stop if she hates you, so stop obsessing. When I get married (one of these days, I hope!), I do not plan on going out of my way to make my mother-in-law my best friend. If it happens that way, fine! If not, so be it. LIFE GOES ON!!!!!
Take care, Sista!
SoShy
Tuesday, January 22, 2002 at 17:38:20 (PST)
Trolled again!
The SistaMoonKitty post on 1/22 at 10:13:31 was not me.
Wow, just when this board started to get fun and positive again, someone has to turn it into something negative and mean. Why?
(Although it would be pretty funny if the troll was actually my boyfriend's mom!)
Peace and love for all,
SistaMoonKitty
Tuesday, January 22, 2002 at 16:41:36 (PST)
Curious;
Short and skinny for me babeh! Since I am kind of short (*cough* 5'4 *cough*) I like my guys to be the same height as me if not a little taller. I've eyed a few tall, dark, and handsome men but I feel so shy around them.
I LOVE long hair on guys. It always pisses me off that my boyfriend cuts his. I especially like it when it's past the shoulders and all pulled back and...and...and *drools*
Piercings are very sexy to me. Especially eyebrows, navels, and erm...down belows.
I prefer lean and not overly muscular. Slightly muscular legs and arms are a must, but chests and abdomens should be smooth.
If a guy is overly muscular chances are I won't talk to him at all. *shrug* But that's just me.
JTHM
Tuesday, January 22, 2002 at 13:31:53 (PST)
To SistaMoonKitty: I think you should take the high ground and continue to be civil with her and hopefully, if your boyfriend is a man of intelligence and character, he'll see that the mature and fair person is you, and the immature and unfair person is his mom. Then it is up to him to follow his heart and head, not his mom's wishes. She may eventually come around, but if not, she will not only deny herself your relationship, but also her relationship with her son and any grandchildren that may follow. If she is that prejudiced and hateful, then you all are better off without her in your lives. Best wishes!
Naki
Tuesday, January 22, 2002 at 12:50:50 (PST)
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