Asian Male/Black Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to African American females?
Their facial features | 36%
Their physique | 36%
Their attitude and personality | 27%
Their education & cultural values | 1%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with African American females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 2%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 7%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 67%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 24%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 77%
Their physique | 4%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 78%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 13%

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My personal experience with an asian male didnt last that long sadly (1 year five months). When i first met william he was quiet and shy, but mellow, quite charming.but he turned my life around, and taught me how to love. in the beginning, i felt that love just wasnt there for me, and i just stopped beliving in it. seeing how we all becker whats right and whats wrong, what is good together, whats better perfect fitting in races and apperances.
when i first met william, i was visiting the library. ive checked out a book, and i decided to read it, and i just sat down never knowing that someone was already sitting there. we started a light converstation. then my ride had already arrived so we exchanged emails. i emailed him that following day how i enjoyed our conversation. so we exchanged back and forth, emails became into calls, and calls became into visits, seeing each other at the library and at each others home. at first our families had to get us to our new found relationship. at that time i didnt care what color he was ( really it didnt really matter to me)long as we loved each other, and loved each other only. to make a long story short because its to painful to talk about. one thursday morning on july 12th 2001, on hes way to work he died in a car wreck. i lost all hope on that day never to find a love like him again, but i could be wrong, there are plenty. but life have to go on. though i miss him physically, he will live and breathe through me spiritually. ( i dont know whether or not this has something to do with the polls but i felt if others share their experiences i might as well share mines).
Truth444 Wednesday, July 17, 2002 at 10:04:21 (PDT)

I have seen that movie Catfish in Black Bean Sauce. I was very happy to see a movie that dealt with asian/black relations in all aspects as well as romance. After some enlightening, I have realized that both cultures have reservations about each other. I guess it has made me be more outgoing. I remember having this crush on this filipino guy for three years in high school and I never told him because I thought he wouldn't like me because I wasn't asian. Maybe if I had just let him know I was interested I would have found out. I think if the time ever comes that I find myself interested in an asian guy I would let him know.
CuteChicagoGirl awritersdream@msn.com Wednesday, July 17, 2002 at 08:25:22 (PDT)

lady kaegero,

I have to check out that movie. I have never heard of it. They should make more movies like that.
liquid sky Wednesday, July 17, 2002 at 08:04:10 (PDT)

I'm not going to give up. I find black girls more attractive than any other. I think I will keep trying and see what happens. I'll keep you posted everyone. Thankyou for the positive messages sent by all you lovely ladies.
not really pissed off anymore Wednesday, July 17, 2002 at 05:53:29 (PDT)

TO ALL ASIAN MALES:

Do you truly feel that an African American female would eventually be accepted by your family and peers; And if not, would sacrifice the relationship with your family and peers for HER?

And lastly with that being written, do you feel that a relationship with an African American Female is more physical and exotic than someone who you can start a family with and spend the rest of your life with?
JUST ASKING Tuesday, July 16, 2002 at 21:30:45 (PDT)

I hope you find that special classy and refined black lady.
to: AM into BeautifulBW Tuesday, July 16, 2002 at 20:48:49 (PDT)

pissed off,

since your family owns so many restaurants i wouldn't try to date every bf that you meet because if you do you will most likely end up with a lazy one.

don't you want a gf or future wife who is hard working? who is willing to put in the long hours that it takes to run a chain of restaurants?

you will find a nice hardworking bf, but take your time and be carefull.

also, don't brag that your family owns those restaurants because you will then end up with a gold digger.
be carefull Tuesday, July 16, 2002 at 20:42:08 (PDT)

Pissed Off:

Some girls, regardless of race, are just rude or clueless. Perhaps you should make your intentions more clear by saying, 'can i take you out on saturday night.' The reason I say this is sometimes, we might think that you are just being friendly, and not that you are actually trying to pick up on us. A guy at the japanese noodle house i go to for lunch has been serving me noodles and smiling for over a year now. He finally told me just last week that he has been flirting with me. I thought he was just doing his job! I was so happy because I had thought he was beautiful since day one. Keep trying "pissed off." Plus with all the response you received, i bet one of the ladies in this forum might turn out to be the sister you want! :)
Tea Tuesday, July 16, 2002 at 16:28:44 (PDT)

Hey pissed off:

Don't stay pissed off. As a Black woman, I'll tell you the first place to start by getting our attention. On your first approach, try a little sense of humor/joking, using a harmless topic. See if you can get us to laugh. If you get us to laugh, you've opened the door. You can gauge whether she may be interested. Don't be too quick to get a phone number. Always fall back on humor, which allows you to take chances without putting your pride on chopping block. Chances are the woman will be prompted to come back to the restaurant. Second, try to learn a little something about our culture, and I don't mean rap music either. Do some reading about our experiences and you'll learn how and why we pretty much stay on guard. Again a sense of humor can knock barriers down to getting to know a Black woman. Good luck and keep us posted!
amenyes Monday, July 15, 2002 at 20:47:58 (PDT)

P-NOY

look i hate to break your fantasy, but Romeo must die was a box office hit because of the action sequences and fighting sequences. NOT because of crummy and lame acting. And i dont know if you could even call it a romantic pairing.
Flip Mode Monday, July 15, 2002 at 20:09:47 (PDT)

Have any of y'all checked out the movie: Catfish in Black Bean Sauce. It's not a very well known movie at all. I found out from a friend in California, as it didn't even come out in my state (it was released last year on video). In fact, I don't know of any movie rental in the state that has the movie. I asked Blockbuster how much it would cost to order it for me, and they told me $90. Of course, I thought that was crazy and did a little looking in the internet and found it for as low as $10. Anyway, the movie portrays an Asian man with a black woman in a serious relationship. I'm not going to say much about it, but I will say that it was Chi Muoi Lo's first major film to write, produce, and direct (not to mention, he starred in it; he's also been in Vanishing Son, Kindergarten Cop; according to what I read on the internet, he made an appearance on In the Heat of the Night and I think the movie: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, but I never saw that). I'll let y'all view it for yourselves and come up with your own conclusion. I wish others would view it, that way we could discuss some of the issues that are brought up in the movie.

Pissed Off,
Maybe you should let these ladies you are meeting know you are intersted by doing more than just lightly flirting with them. Afterall, I smile and make small talk with people all the time . . . people I work with, the customers, friends, guys that are waiting on me (whether it is a restaurant or the grocery store), but that doesn't mean I'm always interested. Sometimes I'm just being friendly. What is my point? My point is, these ladies may think you are just being friendly. They may think you aren't anywhere near interested in them. I didn't know a certain guy was interested in me once (this was a long time ago), until he came right out and said it, because I thought he was just being friendly. So, sometimes we mistake being interested with being friendly. If you feel the lady is interested, make a move. And guess what, Cali Princess is right, sometimes women do like when the man makes the first move (I have several friends like that, and part of me still likes it when a man makes the first move; of course, the other side of me doesn't mind making the first move if I know the guy is interested in more than just being my friend). Just think about it.
ladykagero ladykagero@collegeclub.com Monday, July 15, 2002 at 17:49:27 (PDT)

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