Asian Male/Black Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to African American females?
Their facial features | 36%
Their physique | 36%
Their attitude and personality | 27%
Their education & cultural values | 1%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with African American females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 2%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 7%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 67%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 24%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 77%
Their physique | 4%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 78%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 13%

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Response to Just my opinion:

I apologize for not answering your post sooner, Just my opinon, but I will attempt to do so now.

Perhaps in California there may be a decided increase of African and Asian pairings due to a much larger and more varied population of different Asian groups, however, I still contend that Euro centric beauty as well as inescapable negative stereotypes about African American women, prevents these two groups from pairing off more frequently.

Also I live in the Northeast and have found that pairings between Whites and Asians are vastly more common then African and Asians. Check out websites such as www.minkandy.com, in which many Asian Americans rant and rave about their inability to obtain dates from White women.

Again I attribute this lack of interest because we are often thought of as inferior intellectual, physically, morally, etc. This is not to say that I have not met some wonderful Asian people. I have had some very positive experiences with Chinese American women but have found hostility, coldness, and condescension among the men.

As I stated in my previous post on 7/29, I believe that this rejection is lamentable, since both groups have so much to offer one another in terms of art, culture, and profoundly interesting experiences, but because African Women must contend with racism and being the least favored group when it comes to Interracial relationships, I still believe that this pairing will be at the bottom of the woodpile.
Anon makepeace15@hotmail.com Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 11:13:50 (PDT)

Katayone I think you need to stop stringing that man along.
Sarrah Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 10:46:18 (PDT)

Katayone,
Excuse me, but you're the one that seemed to be playing the games!
You even said that in your comments. When he ask you if you were single (the first time) you said "no", but slipped your number to him anyway, then later when he called you, "again" he ask you about that same issue, but you still didn't inform him that you were single, as you put it "I didn't answer the single 's question"...why? So, tell me who's the real game player here? You ask if you should take this man seriuosly? ..well I'm asking if he "should" take you seriously? I'm a asian man that met a black female seven months ago, and she did nothing but play those kinds of games all the time! And she also had a "very" bad problem with not telling the truth I always seem to catch her lying all the time, so I just don't even bother to try to date black females anymore! I've had enough!
Ray Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 10:16:05 (PDT)

My mother told me she is okay that I like black woman. She say not to bring home really dark one. She does not want dark grandchild. The girl I like now is medium light skin. I get her pregnant and found out. Can medium light color black woman have baby turn very black skin? Her mother and father is medium like her skin. Her cousin is a dark black man and he say he from the same family blood. Do you think the baby can turn out like him? Does someone know this information?
Thanh Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 07:29:40 (PDT)

To Katayone, let me get this straight. He asked you if you were single and you said, "no". Then later he asked you again and you avoided answering. And YOU don't want to be bullshitted! I think you got it backwards. Another woman playing games while complaining about men playing games. Doncha just love it? NO.
Naki Monday, August 05, 2002 at 19:44:33 (PDT)

polonuis,

sorry to say but it seems like its over? Has he called you and tried to see you after your break up. Some guys can be bitter after a bad break up. I dunno who he is nor can I judge but theres always plenty o fish in the sea.

good luck
Big Dave Monday, August 05, 2002 at 19:13:31 (PDT)

Uhh okay Ng and Am I guess you guys have it all figured out! I already said I WASN'T looking for a trend and I definitely don't have a look out. It's just there... duh! But, assume whatever you want. You don't know me. I'm not going to post about this again trying to defend my statements and get upset over clueless wannabe know it alls. It's obvious you people have no clue what I'm talking about. I'm so sick of negative people on this forum looking to pick arguements. If anyone has anything positive to say... e-mail me.
d0nth8t@aol.com Monday, August 05, 2002 at 12:56:05 (PDT)

I usually let men approach me. There is this cute viet guy that works at a place of business nearby. I have seen him many times and he expressed an interest in me. He asked me if I was single, and I told him no. He said that he was very attracted to me. I was really flattered, because I think hes really attractive. I slipped my telephone number to him on a piece of paper.
He called me the very same night and said he wanted to take me to dinner. He asked me where I lived and if I am single now. I didn't answer the 'single' question, but I did give him a hint where I live near. So then he told me he would really really like to see me. So he said he wanted to take me out on saturday, and was very happy that I gave him my telephone number. He never called back. Time went by. I went past his place on my way to work, and he kept trying to stop me from walking and talk to me about rescheduling. I told him that I don't really know, maybe I will still go out with him. I told him I would have to think about it. He seemed very upset, and kept insisting that he wanted to have dinner with me. He didn't say anything came up or anything. I am used to men who play games, so it was hard for me to take this guy seriously. A guy who works near his business told me that he is a very shy man and very nice, and he simply just chickened out. He called me this afternoon and asked if he could take me out again. He apologised again to me for not calling the other time. What do you think about this? Should I take this man seriously? I feel like "I Dont Wanna Be Naive", I don't want to be bullshitted either. I have been through that one too many times. And then again, I don't want to overlook someone who may be a truly wonderful man.
Katayone Sunday, August 04, 2002 at 12:01:15 (PDT)

I guess that's what you call a case of "the pot calling the kettle black." Of course that is just my opinion as well. Some people are too sensitive.
Ng Saturday, August 03, 2002 at 18:25:57 (PDT)

Sian & I don't wanna be naive,

I know what you've been though. It's been 6 months since I broke up with my x. Not only has he been flirting with someone else, but he's "supposedly separated." I confronted him the first time about his Latina friend, and he made it out as if nothing happened, the second time he did it, he blew up in my face and said some hurtful things to me (and accused me of being posessive)

So I reminded him about the things he's posessive about and told him, "I did fine without you then, and I'll do fine with out you now."

Well, after being with a new guy , I did feel guilty, and told x if he wanted to make up, then to let me know he was like "ok" then he said "bye."

Since then I didn't bother to talk to him or try to visit him, I'd rather be a strong woman with integrity than to get involved with someone who will hurt me.

(and right now I'm trying to help a couple of friends who are having very rocky marriages.)

Truthfully, I still love him and think abou thim a few times, but I'm not going to bother with him.
Polonius to thine own self, be true Friday, August 02, 2002 at 22:46:34 (PDT)

ng is right. if you want to see something like a trend and you are always looking for it and have other people looking for you too, like just an opinion, you will see more than usual and even go out of your way to find what you're hoping to see, even black females with asian men.
am Friday, August 02, 2002 at 15:50:46 (PDT)

Sian, Honey don't fret-it. Whether you guys babies are born looking Black Asian, Golden Asian or some gorgeous tanned hue, just remember that the Good Lord gave that bundle of joy to you two and that's all that matters.

I have seen couples where the AM was the typical yellowish complexion and the BF was med. brownish and when they had their children, the kids were just beautiful. It was like they were just "gently kissed by the sun".

I've also seen where the AM was darker(Thai,Lao,Cambodian) and the BF was light skinned and their kids just looked caramel. They were just beautiful.

The only time that I've seen where the child look like a Black Asian, was when the father was a very dark,deep brown complexion.

Hope you two enjoy your lives and enjoy the little ones as well.
Madam Wu Friday, August 02, 2002 at 11:17:03 (PDT)

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