Asian Male/Black Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to African American females?
Their facial features | 36%
Their physique | 36%
Their attitude and personality | 27%
Their education & cultural values | 1%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with African American females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 2%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 7%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 67%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 24%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 77%
Their physique | 4%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 78%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 13%

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Ray,

If you don't even bother with black females anymore, then why are you even on this poll? It doesnt really make much sense does it? If you are finish, done, hanging it up with black females. Then, you should not come to the bf/am poll right? Its silly for you to come here then.

Don't blame everyone for the mistake of your nasty girlfriend and a couple of other bad apples like Katayone. Not all asian men are decent either. But I don't assume the entire race of asian men are dogs.
My brother was dating white girls back in college who were slutty and very stupid. Does this mean that all white girls are slutty and stupid? Does this mean that he should now come to the theory that,"All white females are no good" and after that, go to the white females forum to shout out about it? That is very ignorant. I am hoping that you are really not that shallow, and have more intelligence than you expressed in your message. I am engaged to an asian man. Truth and Honesty are so important to make any relationship work..and we have that. Before him, I dated an asian man who completely lied and cheated and asked me for my money.
not buying it Wednesday, August 07, 2002 at 06:29:58 (PDT)

Response to Thanh:

African Americans tend to have many varied shades among themselves and within their family, however, you stated that the woman you impregnated is medium light brown, then if your complexion is closer to her shade or lighter, then most likely the child will have a variation of the two shades. This means that the child should not get as dark as you and your mother may fear.

I have heard people ask this question, however insulting their views (especially your motherās concern about the babyās color) on dark skinned black people put forth many times and I have personally seen mixtures between very light skinned and dark skinned couples, nevertheless the child always come out in the middle of the color spectrum.
Anon Wednesday, August 07, 2002 at 05:27:57 (PDT)

What is this fixation on the color of future children? Are these love-based relationships or a breeding program? Being black comes with adversity, but we are still as beautiful as any other group.
My children favor they father, but I admittedly hoped at least one of them would favor me. A little look-alike maybe. It isn't an ego trip, it would just be nice on an instinctive level. Like a visual sign that they are my progeny, too. This type of thinking I can understand, but color preference on other levels seems to have more to do with self-loathing.
Get Over It Wednesday, August 07, 2002 at 03:20:37 (PDT)

Ray...

That is silly! Just b/c you had an experience w/1 black female lying doesn't mean all of them do. What is going to happen if an Asian girl, a white girl and a Latina lie to you? Are you going to just stop dating women altogether? By your theory, that's what you would have to do b/c that would mean that ALL of those races would act like that. I am mixed and I have dated many Asian men and not lied to any. The girl you were w/was just immature...has NOTHING to do w/color.
CaliGirl Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 22:56:03 (PDT)

Thanh...

First, your mother has some SERIOUS issues. Second, anything is possible. Blacks come in a variety of shades so while it may not be very likely that your children will be dark (if you have any), it is always possible. You can always tell your mother that if she doesn't like her grandchild and can't accept him/her, she doesn't need to come around. By the way, if you are dark, then the child can be dark as a result of your genes as well.
CaliGirl Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 22:53:21 (PDT)

Blkaznlady, and Mia,

Thanks for your support about my situation with this girl. Last week I finally got up enough courage to talk to her about our friendship and maybe even moving forward, I think she was a little shocked,( by the expression on her face), but she was cool about it. I told her how I really felt about her and she said that, she didn't want our friendship to get hurt if we get together. Today she told me that if I 'm willing to be with her(which I am), then she thinks it would be cool. I'm glad that she decided to say yes, now I can only hope that everything will go smooth, I think she knows that i won't hurt her in any possible way.
Guy in the South Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 21:04:27 (PDT)

Thanh, I have 4 words for you.

You are an idiot.

What difference does it make what color the child is. A child light or dark deserves love.

a piece of advice, stop listening to your mom, before you start raising idiot children.
Left a bad taste on my tongue Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 21:03:56 (PDT)

Anon,
I do agree with you, especially about California having more Asians. As a result you would expect more interracial dating. And that's what I and others have seen... not "looked for!"

Thanks for responding with intelligence and not unjustified accusations. And yes you're right about White/Asian couples being very common these days.I was reading something like nearly 50% of Asian Americans don't marry other Asians. This was shocking.

But, I still don't think Black/Asian is at the bottom is "at the bottom of the woodpile." Just very near it unfortunately haha! =)

Ray,

Sorry about your bad experience with black females. But, don't let one bad experience stop you from dating other black females. Not all, are like that. You'll find liars that play games in all races.
opinion Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 17:34:52 (PDT)

in response to Ray's comment:

"I've had enough"!!!!

LOL! How old are you? 3yrs old?
So you had a bad experience with a black lady. BIG DEAL. I have had my share of asian men who sucked too. That doesn't mean ALL of you suck does it? Or do all of you really suck? If your answer is Yes, then you need to seek mental help.

Katayone,

Did he ever call you? Sounds like you are playing some games with him. Whats your real deal sis?
HAHA!!! what a joke. Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 15:54:25 (PDT)

Thanks for all the responses regarding Black/Asian mixes!

Thanh,
I really hope your child comes out dark as the night sky. No, I take that back, I hope that your girlfriend breaks up with you because she opens her eyes and sees that you and your mother's love is conditional... conditional upon the color of her skin and your child's skin.
Sian BlasianLove@jazzandjava.com Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 14:44:29 (PDT)

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