Asian Male/Black Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to African American females?
Their facial features | 36%
Their physique | 36%
Their attitude and personality | 27%
Their education & cultural values | 1%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with African American females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 2%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 7%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 67%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 24%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 77%
Their physique | 4%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 78%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 13%

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Response to Kristen Sevigny:

Thank you for sharing that anecdote. It is interesting to hear that there are some Asian Men who are open about it, despite the rejection of one Asian who deemed you not datable due to your heritage. Still, those men that you have met may be the exception to the rule, for at least from what I have seen in the Northeast, they usually prefer White or Asian partners and will not even bother to look beyond the horrible stereotypes that African American women are saddled with.

Response to Some Chic:

Of course you are right about the unpredictable nature of genetics and how color variations can never be decided on just how the parents look. However, Thanh and his motherās hurtful and ignorant claims needed to be addressed in an intelligent manner, even though they may seem asinine to many of us who must contend with racial assumptions on a daily basis.

I have seen children, usually from African American men and Asian American women on those rare occasions, and their colors are frankly quite lovely and harmonious.
Anon Friday, August 09, 2002 at 05:25:50 (PDT)

Hi Ray,
I think many women here were coming down way too harsh on you. I think you are just telling your experiences in life. There is nothing wrong with that. You should not be judged for your feelings. I have been mistreated by a man before. It is horrible when you really care for someone and they do you wrong. I hope you heal from what you have been through. I hope that you do not leave this poll, but tell more of your feelings. I am actually very curious about your feelings and would like to know more about your relationship. I hope that you are doing alot better now. She didn't know how to treat you. Lying doesn't make foundation for a good relationship. It sounds as though she wasn't letting you get to know the REAL her. That is really a shame. Disregard negativity people may give. Not everyone thinks in that way. Some people cannot stand to hear peoples views. I feel there is nothing wrong with telling people the way you feel. It is healthy and this is a forum that should allow everyone to freely speak how they feel. Don't you agree? I do Keep your chin up Honey =O)
Manuela Cartagena Thursday, August 08, 2002 at 17:15:42 (PDT)

They say that love is like a butterfly, the more you pursue it, the more it eludes you, but if you take your time, it will eventually come to you.

Do you ever trust your gut feeling about people?

I'm talking to a Black Female right now, and I feel that she tells me everything but she doesn't show me anything. Ever get that feeling? I've spent one to many restless nights pondering my dilemma.

Live and learn I guess, but at the hearts expense. It's so hard meeting genuine people, so many are on the come up, like what can you do for me. What I can do for you, is help you become the best person you can be. That's what I can give.

To borrow a line from Babyface, "I'm just a bit old fashioned and can't help feeling that way."
Genuine Azn Thursday, August 08, 2002 at 16:57:48 (PDT)

Ray

Perhaps you need to examine why you are choosing women that are games players. You can stop dating black women if you desire and life will move on BUT if you do not change the way that you make your choices then you will find Asian women that play games, White woman that play game, Hispanic women that play games. Most of the time when you are dating the same kind of person over and over again, then there is something that needs examination with in yourself.

Is black your prerequesit for dating someone? There is nothing wrong with that but in order to find a more meaning ful relationship it has to be that she is black and she has specific other qualities. I hope that you don't take offense and good luck to you what ever path you choose because ultimatly it is up to you.
Perhaps examine Ray Thursday, August 08, 2002 at 15:47:37 (PDT)

To All:
Thank you for your positive comments.
Just, want you all to know that I really do appreciate both your input, and also taking time from your lives to share your feelings with me. It really helped.
Ray Thursday, August 08, 2002 at 15:44:46 (PDT)

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