Asian Male/Black Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to African American females?
Their facial features | 36%
Their physique | 36%
Their attitude and personality | 27%
Their education & cultural values | 1%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with African American females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 2%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 7%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 67%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 24%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 77%
Their physique | 4%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 78%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 13%

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It gets borings on this conversation about what is and what is not politically correct. Does anyone want to get on the subject of interracial relationship? Is there any asian men with black women? Or carribean women? Or black or carribean women with asian men? If so, what is your relationship like? How did you meet? What postive things have you found in your relationships? Can you please tell me?
Asian men, what do you find attractive in black/ or carribean women? Black/or caribe women, what do you see in your asian men? I am from Dominican republic in Santo Domingo. I cannot really go to the AM/LF board because many of the men in there say outloud "NO, I only prefer white latinas because they are always prettier and so much better." well..My heritage is heavily mixed with african heritage and not pure white. So I look like light skinned black women. So I do not really fit that categories. I feel Dominican cultures is very spanish but really relate to our african heritage very much so. My boyfriend is chinese and was born in china. He visit my country last year with me and really had a ball there. Does anyone also have a relationship with a chinese men? What is your experience with prejudice from other people and family? What thing have you learned?
CaribeGirl Friday, August 16, 2002 at 12:38:58 (PDT)

Again..

I have really enjoyed reading and posting on this site. It helps me to understand that there are other women like me who find Asian men attractive and good companions.

I have total respect for all cultures and I think all men have good in them as well as bad.

So far, I have had only 1 negative experience with an Asian man but that was so long ago, when I was just fifteen. I have always admired their culture, traditions, and ways, but, that does not mean I disregard my own culture. Being an African American woman does not mean I have a stamp on my body that says "I have to agree with everyone". For some ladies on this post to send me hate email because I feel the way I do is wrong, but I cannot change the way other women feel about my right to love any one,regardless if the person is Asian or not. It is sad that people think by calling me names like "horse" or "chicken" that this will change my mind. If I decide to marry, no, when I marry this man from China, who understands that I am an individual, and accepts me as I am, this is what I want. If it does not work out, then time and patience will heal, If it does work out, It only means that I found happiness with someone who is from another culture.

Again, there is good and bad in all men, and woman, but you cannot dismiss a culture because one person or two was rotten, to the woman who keeps sending me ugly mail, I hope one day you will find a man who will love and respect you, until then, keep your head up,and a smile on your face.

To the Asian man/African American who finds themselves in love, think with your mind, listen to your heart, and keep the dream alive.

I wish everyone in this type of relationship the best.
XLee Friday, August 16, 2002 at 10:05:24 (PDT)

X Lee,
I hope you were not including me in the negative responses you received. I really was just giving you my opinion and advice. Also, you did not say all that you have done for your community in the first post. You lead us to believe that all your concentration was going on his culture. I apologize if this was a misunderstanding on my part.
Sian Friday, August 16, 2002 at 07:39:23 (PDT)

Cup of Fudge...

You are right and this is the problem that all of us females have had I think. I have found that if you are attracted to an AM, you are going to need to give him a little encouragement b/c they seem to be more timid about approaching. Way more so than Latin, Black or White men. But they're worth it! My boyfriend is Chinese and I met him thru his friend. He admitted that he probably wouldn't have approached me himself and we wouldn't have met if his friend hadn't introduced us. They're just shy but probably interested in you so make eye contact and smile if you like them.
CaliGirl Thursday, August 15, 2002 at 23:38:12 (PDT)

To: Can we please get back to the REAL topic and without arguing?

I am in a relationship right now w/an AM and am very happy! I do see your point about people arguing about nothing big. I too would like to see more comments from people having a good relationship. I don't see enough posts from AM unfortunately. Ray has been posting and I also think Anon is an AM but not sure. Ray has made some good points and I like Anon's comments too!
CaliGirl Thursday, August 15, 2002 at 23:36:06 (PDT)

CaliGirl Here Too...

I know you said no offense but your post did seem like you were attacking me. If you look at it that way, ALL life started from Africa! Adam and Eve were in Africa. The oldest human bones were found in Africa. You'd have to go way, way, way back to trace all blacks to Africa and if you're going to do that, then again you may as well go as far back as saying everyone is from there. I personally think the usage of African American is dumb. We have been here practically as long as whites so why we feel the need to call ourselves African American when they don't go around calling themselves Euro-American is beyond me. It's just another way that blacks exclude themselves as true Americans. I personally have no relatives and Africa and claim no ties to Africa b/c I'd have to go so far back to find them...it's pointless. I'm American just like any white person calls themselves and see nothing wrong w/it. If someone feels the need to keep that much of a tie to Africa, they may as well move there. If not, just claim title as being American b/c that's all they are! I personally find the term somewhat offensive. But then again, I'm mixed anyway so I wouldn't call myself black anyhow...at least not completely. I claim all my heritage. People can call themselves whatever they want but as for me, I'm American, plain and simple and don't wish to be known as otherwise. If you go to Africa, they won't consider you African. So what do you do then? I know several blacks that have visited Africa and were offended when the Africans called them American and told them they weren't African. Boy, talk about identity crisis for those poor deluded people!!
CaliGirl Thursday, August 15, 2002 at 23:27:31 (PDT)

Anon...

"Many African American women shatter the debilitating stereotypes of being loud, obnoxious, unfeminine, etc. In addition, you will find that African American today may be more open to dating outside of their race, if you approach them."

I'm glad you understand this. I am a mixed female and date men of all races but have had trouble w/Asian guys being way too shy to approach me. The few that have gotten up the nerve have always told me that they just didn't think anyone except white and Asian women would talk to them. This is absurd and the bottom line is that they won't know unless they try, right!? I have many girlfriends, both Black and Latina that have an attraction to Asian men but never get approached by any. And these are very beautiful girls!! White, Black and Latin men approach us all the time and we wished more Asian guys would talk to us b/c we happen to think they're HOT!!
CaliGirl Thursday, August 15, 2002 at 23:17:59 (PDT)

if you date a bf the only ones that matter are those bf who are college educated, childless and who comes from good families and decent neighborhoods. if you date a bf who doesn't match that, then you will end up regretting it.
richard is right Thursday, August 15, 2002 at 18:13:10 (PDT)

I saw a Chinese boy, black girl couple today at the bus stop. They were both average looking (but who says only beautiful people can date exclusively???). Anyways, the girl was sitting on the boy's lap with her arms around his neck. They got the attention of all passerbys. They must really be in love.
Aaliyah lover Thursday, August 15, 2002 at 18:06:48 (PDT)

Bulls*** is BS,

Well, you certainly need to take some blood pressure medication. I call all my black friends by their names, we are all respectful. I make references to "black people" in their presence, and they don't blink an eye. It's all good... cept with you. I guess you ain't family then. Btw, I'm an Asian guy.
Get your head out of your ass, give it some air. It's dark and dank in there. Thursday, August 15, 2002 at 14:52:04 (PDT)

"I use the term African American precisely because I do not like the word black and its negative connotations. Black has always been used pejoratively, i.e., Black Sunday, dark despair, etc."

Well, what about "You yellow bellied bastard!"? That's phrase used to indicate a lack of courage. Do I read into this as an Asian man? No, it is much too farfetched. You need to relax. I think "black man/black woman" rolls off the tongue beautifully. Black is also my favorite color. I have leather jackets and sweaters in jet black and that shit looks daaaaaamn good on me.
Black sounds cool to me Thursday, August 15, 2002 at 14:47:27 (PDT)

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