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Yesterday, I went to Cal State Pomona to visit a friend, and there I met a cute Mexican-American girl called Laura. We were both hanging out (sitting) at an outdoor event, and she and I just started up a conversation out of the blue, and we ended up sharing some beer. I guess we were a bit tipsy so we were both more flirty than we normally would have been. I actually had the gall to ask for a kiss after barely meeting her 20 minutes ago! She declined, and we both agreed that that was the beer talking(I did get her number in the end, however.). I didn't call her in the end, because I thought she probably wouldn't want to meet a random guy that she met while she was drunk. I really wanted to see her again, since she was really cool: she spoke a few Korean phrases (she said she worked at a fitness center where many of the clients were Korean) and was an English major -- what a turn on! She also had a butterfly tatto on the small of her back,which I thought was really sexy (So she's not an angel, but then again, who is these days?), Anyway, I didn't call her that night coz I thought she was being nice or simply trying to get rid of me that night. I still have her number though -- what do you people think? Should I call her?
Korean Dude
PS: I'm NOT making this up. I understand that this isn't some fantasy forum. Everything I described DID happen, and I only want serious and thoughtful replies please.
Personally I don't know if Latina women are into Asian men or not. I live here in NYC, and I've had maybe two Latin women that were into me? Is that because of my race, or was it just me? Who knows and really who cares.
I'm seeing a black woman now--I once thought that black women were not into Asian men, I was wrong about that, so...who knows.
anyway it's not the race that matters. There are many beautiful women aof all cultures, and there's no reason she HAS to be a certain ethnicity. Yes Latin women are very beautiful, but if they are into you, so what. Value yourself and find someone who is. Maybe that's easier said than done, but i truly believe this, and have found it to be true.
I love Latina women in the truest sense of the word. By that I mean those who have darker skin (mestizo heritage). Sure, there are "whiter" Mexicans, but if that's the case why even bother? Why not just go for a white girl in the first place? In many ways, Latin American/South American countries are subtly but blatantly racist, because those with white european ancestry and blood (blue bloods) are the ones that hold power in high places. Vincente Fox, president of Mexico, is a prime example because his ancestors came from Ireland. Anyways, give me one of those sexy REAL Latina gals.
Italians in Europe and US are NOT Hispanic!!!!
We are speaking of Hispanics, like from Mexico, Central and South America !! You morons !!
Some people are so ignorant!
Italians aren't Latinas as we're using the term in the US. When Americnas say "Latins" or Latinos or more correct term "Hispanics" we are talking about persons of European and Indian (Mestizos) heritage like Mexicans or European mixed with blacks (mulatos) like Puerto Ricans.
In the world people of France, Italy, Spain, Portugal and Romania are considered Latin culture.
But in US we are speaking of Hispanics culture, and by the way Hispancis come in all races.
Funny, how you people whine about Hispanic women but I've had NOOO problems dating them.
Korean Americano
I'm Chinese-American and I work as a substitute teacher in a heavily Chicano (Mexican) neighborhood. I must say that I do get "looks" from the young Mexican women (teachers and t.a.'s) from time to time. I'm not sure if they do this to all men? But, I just have the feeling that I can go out with one of them. I have conversations with these ladies all the time. They are down-to-earth and easy conversationalists. They are more easier to read than either Asian or white girls. The only thing I am reluctant to ask any one of them out is because I hear so many things (I guess stereotypes) about Latinas being sexually promiscous and that it is hard to find one who is loyal forever. But, I know that eventually some day I will ask one out. They are too beautiful to resist. Not all of them find Asian men dorky or unattractive. But, I must say that for them, having indigenous (Indian) or black blood is frowned upon. I guess they view mixing with Asians in a similar fashion, but more acceptable since they know of the Asian male breadwinner image. Most still seek out a white or Middle Easterner if they date out. But, you never know. The ones born or grew up here are more sociable. (Stay off gangbangers!)
I could care less what some would-be groupies from Italy or lady gangstas from LA think about Asian men. And no I wouldn't get beat up by Mexicans in a bar. Latinas are so fine I'm forced to ignore those posts from the losers. I've seen many Asian men-Latina relationships and I know there would be more were it not for social pressures, unreasonable ethnic pride, and disapproving mothers. It's only natural Latinas are more inclined to Latinos but there are a lot of beautiful ones remaining for the courageous..
man who tells it like it REALLY is
In looking for a Latina, focus on the specificy Latina type who is interested in finding an interesting, exciting--and romantic--Asian male. If she, or even the greater percentage of Latinas are closed-minded when it comes to Asian males, don't sweat it. Who gives a damned about the general attitude of the Latinas, if you find in the type I mentioned above more Latinas available and searching "for a good man" then you could possibly consider dating and, if it's right for both of you, getting to know each other more intimately. Be smart, bold, and savvy. You're an Asian or an Asian American male.
Oh boy, so we have the boo birds here whining about how they think latinas in general don't view asian men as sexy. Hmm, and the "scientific" evidence? Oh yea, talking to three, maybe four "latina" women and getting their opinions. Yea, that's pretty darned accurate and representative!!! Come on boys, everyone in life is different. Some women prefer some races, others prefer some other races. Others find out that they are attracted to someone they didn't think they would be attracted to previously. Stop being so negative.
Asian men only want LFs that can pass for White. How many of you would talk to a woman that is carmel brown or darker with Black hair?
Pay the disgruntled, disillusioned, and pessimistic Asian guys no mind. They just don't have the game and the perseverance required, and rightly so, to capture the affections of a Latina.
Yes, it is true that they think Asians (men and women) are exotic in Italy. I was stationed there for almost five years and I loved it.
AirborneAsian
I'm stunned that 79% of Latina respondents to the poll think Asian men don't them attractive. It's mind boggling. It's baffling. That fear is absolutely groundless. Latinas are awfully lovely and undoubtedly attractive. And that sentiment is shared universally by Asian men. Unless they're insane or homosexual.
What a freakin' sham!!! Most Hispanic women or latinas aren't interested in Asian guys. That's just how it is. If your an Asian guy you'll have much better luck with a white girl or maybe even a black girl. No doubt, latinas are very beautiful, but you'll be hard pressed to find one with an Asian brother. In my whole life, i've seen one or maybe two couples and i live in southern CA where there are lots of races and interacial pairings. Maybe in the future you'll see more of these relationships between more Americanized Asian-Americans and Latinas, but not now, not today.
Asian Dude who tells it like it is
I drop by this site topic sporadically to read all the latinaphiles posting about "hot latin" women. As an Asian man in Los Angeles, let me tell you again; Latinas do not generally find Asian men attractive for dating or marriage. I have four Mexicana friends who are candid in providing me with their assesment of Asian men. They describe them as "nice", "amiable", "smart", "non-sexual" technocrats. There are no vicious stereotypes but certainly not helpful ones. So bottom line for you Asian men obsessed with Latinas...Get over it! You will not last 2 minutes at one of the Sinaloan bars or Norteno clubs in Los Angeles where some of the Latina hotties hang out at. You'll either get beat up by the Mexican dudes or laughed out of the bar by the Latinas..maybe that'll sober you up.
sand-man1@zdnetonebox.com
To "aynomous" nyc asian,
First off, learn how to spell. Second, quit pretending to be someone you're not -your numerous postings under different names that Latinas don't like Asian guys are getting old (lame) -I think we get your point although you are obviously wrong. Third, Puerto Ricans for your information are for the most part black and do not represent the majority of "Latinas." If you are for real, you must have really gotten burned by that girl to be so bitter.
As far as Asians having more in common with Blacks than Latins -that's a joke -look at the Asian Air Forum for a reality check. I think if you ask most normal Asians (the ones who aren't teenage wannabee black gangsters or dating blacks exclusively for whatever reason) they will disagree. Now go to the African-American and Asian relationship section where you belong and leave us alone -anyone with a head on their shoulders sees through your facade.
yours truly,
the Amazin' Asian Latina Lover, CA
To the point about Italian women thinking that Asian men are exotic, this is truly news for me. I live in Britain and can say that i have personally never heard of any such "exoticness". Certainly when i have seen Italian female students they certainly don't look twice at me (I'm not bad looking) or indicate in any way that i am "exotic".
In fact i read that in a soccer poll that they had in Italy on which soccer player they most fancied most females voted for a black French player.
Personally i don't find Italian women too attractive, although i certainly do like European Spanish women!. This is because they have golden brown hair and have smoother features, and when they're attractive they certainly are attractive with a capital A!.
to the person below from west palm beach who thinks chicanos are more receptive and respectful to asians than carribean latinas.
i agree with you 100%. you are absolutely correct. i always viewed mexicans and hispanics of central and south american origins more favorably than caribbean hispanics. from my personal experiences, caribbean hispanics in general do not like asians and often times show a certain disrepect towards them. i cannot say that of cubans however, well maybe the reason is because of the cubans that i have come across were educated and well off. i don't not know the real reason why caribbean hispanics can be hostile to asians, i think it could be a resentment they have on the asians as being foreign yet successful and a model minority, similar to how african americans resent the fact that asians have businesses in their neighborhoods,...etc. what i have also noticed is that mexicans have a better work ethic than their caribbean counterparts. and finally, yes, chicanas are more receptive to asian men than cubanas, ricanas and domincanas.
To all Latinas,
This is just from a personal individual opinion. I think chicanas (those beautiful mexican senioritas) are more respectful
and receptive toward asian cultures compared to Carribean latinas, especially rican & cuban chicas' attitudes on any new cultures in general. Mexican female are assimilated to asian female on being hard-working, family oriented, strong-fidelity, monogamous, and supportive. What upsets me is that chicas usually despise senioritas as dirty, low-labored worker, alienated, and non-hispanic. Living in West Palm Beach, Fl for 2 years, I don't run into Mexican female as often as I used to in San Diego, CA. From what I can distinguish here in West Palm & Miami area, these descriptions are highly-randomly fitted into Carribean-latinas: adulterous, golddiggers, bad-tempered, criminals, thugs, early-pregnancy, and chlid-negligance. So why I should bring this up, just my 0.02 cents.
I'm a latina who was raised in Hawaii and have dated many asian and mixed/ asian men. In the past I had heard some friends(non-asian) make comments that Asian men were not that attractive. I think it was due to a lack of exposure and positive images of asian men in the media. However I haven't heard any such comments for quite a long time(which I'm very happy about). I think the cultures are very different, but that is part of the beauty in such a relationship!
LATINA
Mexican American women are beautiful! And also Latin Americans, Dominicans, Puerto Ricans, you know what I mean. There is hope, of course, but both are very ingrained in their culture, and don't want to deal with family opinions. I really admire that they are not just out for money. I think they're pretty as hell, but I wouldn't want to meet their family, both sides are judgmental and not trusting. I personally think family and ethnic pride is bullshit, it limits your future.
This section on AA Men and Latinas is lame. Just plain stupid, worse than the one for Chinese and Korean relationships. I have to say there is hardly a female of Hispanic descent commenting here. This proves why this section is pure nonsense. All you have is bunch of moronic AA males drooling over a type of women that is relatively ignorant of Asians and probably wouldn't take a look on any of them either. I say this not to bash the AA Men w/Latina thing but it's true to a certain extent. If AA males want attention, date an African American woman. Probably more success since Black Americans relate better to Asians than Hispanics. Why I do sound cynical and so negative? The reason is that I once dated a Puerto Rican girl which caused me trouble for both my parents and hers and also her people. I was even threatened by some Latinos for "touching their women". Her brothers called her a goldigger and my parents called her a slut. Some of her latina friends assumed I was a Chinese food delivery boy hitting on women in a hispanic neighborhood. I am sure they are some nice AA men w/ Latina relationships. But I have to say these instances are rare and yet this poll section makes it like its common and accepted which pisses me off.
anynomous nyc asian
They find Asian men exotic in Italy?
Is that true?
Latinas are HOTT!!! Have you walked behind a lucious Latina hottie lately? Have you seen the Spanish Channel? DAMNNN
ONE BIG AM.
BLACKTWINTURBO
WTF, you are an idiot and your comments have no truth to them at all.
I am an Asian American male that is married to a Latina woman (4 years).
Where do you get off on making such ignorant statements about Latina women. My wife has stuck by me through some really grim times and I am damned fortunate to have her in my life. Her brother is one of my best friends and destroys your belief on Latin men being laborers. He designs very sophisticated information systems for a fortune 1000 computer hardware, software, and services company. I do agree with you on one statement: "Latin women are gorgeous," and would add that "Asian, African-American, and some White women can also be very beautiful, too."
Married to a beautiful Latina woman
Surprised to find this topic on the board. I am a Japanese-American 29yrs old that has been dating a Latina for 5 years. I can say with certainty that I feel she is not the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with but I have learned a lot during my time with her. The biggest problem with our relationship is due to cultural differences. While I am one to admit that asian culture and beliefs aren't perfect, these fundamental differences in values and priorities is an obstacle that we can't seem to overcome. Being asian, I believe in the typical things; education, being dedicated to my job, planning for the future financially etc. etc. I know that she has the same values too, but not necessarily as high on the priority list as I. I have also noticed that her family believes that I am obligated to assist the entire extended family on matters that I can without hesitation while this is a completely foreign idea to me. My family helps each other with the idea of asking someone outside of the family for help as a non option.
She has children from a previous marriage that she entered into at a young age with a man (Latino) that I don't think any women would consider a candidate for a husband or father but somehow, her parents allowed it and it took almost 10 years for her to leave him. It has not been a total disaster and I do see good things that I wish were enough to make up for the bad but I have decided that in my case, I am probably better off with as asian women. I know that there are probably people out there that have better relationships that mine in this situation and I hope to hear from them.
kx125@hotindex.com
ASIAN (DA TRUTH)+ WTF = trouble makers. Doubt they are who they claim to be, really doubt it. I've seen them post in other places on this site -I won't name where but it it's pretty pathetic. Looks like a case of sour grapes. Oh well, you get that when there are annonymous postings. Carry on.
two very beautiful cultures and very beautiful people.
rjs
I am going to Italy next year for a semester. I'll be sure to hit those ladies up. I hear they find Asian men exotic. Yessss.....
Optimiztic
What the hell is wrong with this poll? It's suppose to be about a discussion of Asian male/Latina female relationships (if it even exists). What's posted so far is like something out of a Latin studies course. Who cares about the meaning of being Latin and who are Latins. This poll is about relationships. Anyways, Latinas are really ignorant if you think about it. They are always loyal to their Latin men. The only problem is that the vast majority of Latin men don't get far in American society. Most Latin men are laborers, which is nothing wrong. However, Latin men don't strive to go anywhere. That is why even the most beautiful Latina will always be poor with many kids. I find many Latin women gorgeous, and it's unfortunate they stick with their own. Asian women can learn alot from Latin women on being faithful to ones race.
WTF
ASIAN (DA TRUTH): you're a moron.
In the U.S. we (latina/os) consider ourselves to be a race. In reality (in other countries) maybe we are, maybe we're not but we are defenitely not the same as as white Americans -so I'd say that pretty much makes us a race in the U.S.
The politicians and U.S. census just do not want to admitt that there are so damn many of us, so they say we are not a race. We are divided to keep us from gaining too much political power in the U.S. Believe what you want, but I think if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, swims and quacks like a duck; it's probably a duck.
To J.N.: Dude be yourself, you are already intelligent and open minded enough to care not what others think so why change a thing? Good luck, stud!
El Mexicano
All the people from latinoamerica are real latinos everyone of "us", the term it was derivated by a region of italy, but then the italians conquered others regions as france, spain, portuguese etc, and mix with the native people from those regions, making them latin as well. U can see that there are diference between Spain, Italy, France, but still they r all latins. The same way with us, we have spanish blood, italian etc etc, so then we all r latins.
Carlos H.
Thank you Colombiano =)
And to J.N., I believe there shouldn't be anything to take in note. Well maybe yes for you but not concerning her in specific. What I mean is that there's no uh... it's like not good to say that this type of people are this way and that type of people is that way... (generalization, categorization) even in the type of people there's no specific either cuz everyone's different in many ways. So for you to think that you should act in a way depending on a person's ethnicy isn't really reliable. But to put your question in a good way I'd say that you want to be careful cuz you want it to be ok etc. so you're ok too... Just live it, you need no advice.
Mindao
I think that your all wasting your time, . the majority of latinas (99.99%) aren't the least bit interested in asian guys.
your all wasting your time and find yourselves an asian or white girl.
stop it now!
ASIAN (DA TRUTH)
Hi everyone,
I'm about to date this latina girl from my college next week. She's really sweet and we have quite a lot in common. However, I've never dated a latino girl before... is there anything I should take note of? Thanks.
J.N.
latina23 you are the ignorant idiot latina is not a race but a culture.
some latinas could be white although most arnt as there mixed between european and native ancestory.some latinas could be white just as some could be black in the us we are all clumped together as a race.spain colonized latin america and so there are some of us who havent been mixed with native blood and are of pure european descent which is white,although most of us arnt.we are all latinos but we arnt a race you can get white latinos just the same as you can get black.latina23 just because your not white doesnt mean no latinos are.its just the goverment that lumps us together as one race.im latino but im white as im off spanish decent you dont have to have blonde hair and blue eyes to be caucasian.
colombiano
I think that I'm beginning to have a fetish for Latina women.
I want to eat you all.
asian
Well, I'm not that ignorant anymore thanks to you Latina23 and I'm no idiot =) Aren't italian women latinas? If so, aren't they white? Or ''Latina'' is only from Spain? If it's that why don't they just call themselves Spaniards? They're both from Europe so why not ''Europeans'' eh? We could go alot further with all this!! In the end, what is ''White'' and what's ''Latina''?? I say white is a color and Latinas are women =) (I do not like categorization...) Some people have light skin and others have darker skin that's all...
Why all seperate ourselves into groups of people? We don't need that.
If we really had to, then there's ''Men'' and ''Women'' that are ''HUMANS'' that we are. Think of Animal Farm: ''Four legs good two legs bad'' do you like that? No? Same here. =P
Mindao
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