Race Factor in Friendships | Asian American Poll

THE RACE FACTOR IN FRIENDSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:09 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are Asian American, what race is the majority of your closest friends?
Asian | 48%
White | 49%
African American | 2%
Latino | 1%

Assuming you are Asian American, what's the best thing about making Asian friends?
Shared experiences | 28%
Shared cultural and social customs | 11%
Not wondering about subtle prejudices | 52%
Similarity of attitude and temperament | 9%

Assuming you are Asian American, what's the best thing about making non-Asian friends?
Expanding social/cultural horizons | 48%
Escaping the prejudices of other Asians | 34%
More acceptance from society at large | 0%
Freedom from cultural restraints | 18%

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"When we were new to the neighborhood, They actually brought over fresh baked cookies and another brought over a box of Godiva chocolates for us welcoming us to the neighborhood. And that made us feel really comfortable and welcomed. What blacks would do that for you? Or even care that you moved in?"

Asian 16, it's not always about what people "do for you", but how they treat you long-term. Some White people are just full of sh** and can possibly have an ulterior motive for doing certain things for you. I sure well know that there's a descent amount of Asians that only give as long as they get something in return. I've experienced this most with Hong Kong Chinese, Koreans, and Vietnamese. Hehe... and if you're talking about selfishness/non-selfishness, it was usually Filipinos (not Chinese or Koreans, hence the stereotype in Hawaii of them being cheapskates) who bought things I sold for fundraisers when I was in the Cub Scouts.

As for Asians dissing Blacks... hehe... let's just say there's tons of Asians out there that are Black-phobic.
disputatio - 24 yr old BM, I agree with much of what you posted.

“I think black people are actually more accepting of other races because they generally have faced much more discrimination and knows how it feels to be not accepted.”
I agree, JJK.

JJK is right about Mexicans drinking a lot of alcohol. I’m not sure how Mexicans compare to White Americans in this department, but I have a Mexican classmate who can drink more than all my White and Asian classmates… and he’s only around 5’6”, 160 lbs. He can out drink White dudes who’re experienced drinkers at 5’8”-6’2”, 190-220 lbs. There was one time he even went to an Asian party of which he was not invited… they let him in, though. He was already drunk when he arrived at the party… yet, he out drank every single Asian guy who was sober at the time he entered the apartment. I’m beginning to wonder if he’s an alcoholic. LOL!

Jay… all the Asian dudes were gonnnne… while the Mexican kept drinking. Wednesday, August 29, 2001 at 23:08:57 (PDT)

Bravo David, nice speech and I agree somewhat about Jewish contributions to the United States. But how about addressing my questions with regards to how Jewish people in the media discriminate against, belittle, make fun of and put down Latinos and Asians. Look at the post again and please give some insight. I like your name. Is that some kind of religious reference? Anyways, please address the questions about this double standard.
The Truth to David regarding Jews in the media Tuesday, August 28, 2001 at 08:59:42 (PDT)

Wow! Do any of you people know some of the people you hate so much? For the record, I am a Black-American lady with Black-American,Native-American,Cuban and White-American ancestry. I have been to college (so have my parents, grandparents ect...). My family lives in different parts of the U.S.. Most of them own their homes. In fact my family still owns property that belonged to my great-great-grandparents. We do not have any drug addicts or criminals at family gatherings. The majority of my family members are middle-class professionals. We get along fine with other races. Several of my first cousins are bi-racial Asians, Germans or Latinos. In fact, my biological child is half-asian as well. Most of my family members live in Black or culturally diverse neighborhoods and nobody is burning crosses on our lawns.
If you choose not to socialize with a group of people, just tell the truth you feel like being a racist. Please keep the stereotypical b.s. at a minimum. You really don't have to make excuses to avoid talking to a group of people. I don't. I try not to socialize with bigots. Ignorance is deadly, stupidity is fatal.
lady's view xraejae@yahoo.com Tuesday, August 28, 2001 at 06:59:59 (PDT)

To those talking about Jews and David,

You certainly have been brain washed not by the popular media but the alternative media. Just because you go against the mainstream thinking that the Jews have suffered more than Jesus, you think your statements are correct, please think again. If you ever interacted with Jews you would know they are ordinary people and not these demonds you are painting. I've had a couple of Jewish friends and my interactions have been quite most of the times very pleasant. One of them I must admit was an ass**** at times, however I don't think that his Jewishness made him that way. The guy behaved with bad manners and that was all. My conception of him was that he was an okay guy, with serious issues, and his Jewishness never became an issue. I'm pretty sure he could have picked on my Latino roots but he never did either.
My other Jewish friend is an academic who keeps in touch with me. His awareness of cultural issues deserves credit. One time at an alumni university gathering he was the only one that spoke out when the word SPIC was shouted out. The word did not bother me for the context in which was mentioned did not make feel uncomfortable. However, for him to notice the fallacy of saying such word and not finding it offensive made me think twice about my role in fighting prejudice.
By the way, this person I'm referring to was not aware of the power of Jews in the US media until recently, and last time I spoke to him he did not know what to make of it. I guess he's contemplating in joining these moguls in New York and trying to slave and exploit all the races so they can commit another Holocaust and teach us all a lesson again (Yes, this is called sarcasm).
Have you ever read Chomsky? The most outspoken anti-mainstream media academic. If you haven't I highly recommended.

Now to refer to David comments I guess you still have not learned your lesson yet. Here you are defending some people by crushing some other people. You want people to take you seriously or like a idiot? Please read your comments again:

"The Orientals and Spanish people have done nothing for America except take, take, take and invade our U.S. borders like cockroaches trying to suck this country’s resources dry. I do not know why so many people fear Jewish success in America."

First of all Jewish people were not the main colonizers of the US and I don't think this matters either for America is a land of immigrants. You have a point, Jews may have been established longer in America but it does not mean that they are more American (Unless Jewishness is the definition of being American). Just go down to a State where the mentality is a bit different and you let me know if Jews are more American than these people you are referring to.

Second, in order to be successfull you must exploit either natural or human resources. You said Jews are successful, so does this mean they have exploited America's resources as well? Wow, a major contradiction within two sentences.

Third, do I envy Jewish success? If I was living in the US some 40 years ago perhaps I may question what they are doing right and learn something from them. But times do change and one shall adjust to the new currents and conditions. obviously all you bigots have gotten stuck in some time capsule...move on and get along.

To all you conspiracy and prejudice creators, I will not disrespect you by ending this subject here, but I do encourage you to continue conversation in a civilized manner.

David I would love to find out how the Jews saved America during the Nazi and Japanese episodes? Were most of the people at the frontline Jews?(...mmm I thought many were Black?)

All you Jewish Conspiracy myth creators please I'd like to find out specific examples by which the Jewish media are affecting your current life and perhaps develop on the consequences that this media monopoly has had on you or your community.

Let's conduct an experiment that will make us Human. Let's be reasonable
LatinoMan buen_latino@hotmail.com Tuesday, August 28, 2001 at 00:46:20 (PDT)

OHHHh..I was just waiting for that excuse, blame the media or blame the racist cops. To all you like Kamen and Osaka, I dare you to spend one day in a corner market or in an inner city school and see how these illiterate, ignorant blacks act.
Yeah its all a cover up by the white media. Go visit the prisons or check up the stats on FBI site.
You fuckin' 5 ft midgit, slacker bitches, wake up !
Funny, how most black leaders admitt to these facts but never do anything about it. What did the Million men march accomplish? haha
To Disputatio: You sure Asian women are flocking to unemployed, nappy hair, irresponsible LOSERS like you??? Where are the facts?
Fewer than 1 percent of Asian Americans marry blacks according to Time magazine. Where's your source?
Everytime I turn on the TV, its a black man who just committed a crime.
Isn't it strange how countries with very few blacks have low crime rate.

Dose of reality Monday, August 27, 2001 at 21:56:32 (PDT)

About jews,

OK we all complain about how much power the Jews have, and I tend to not like them very much for grasping such power as well.

But when you think about it, you have to give them some respect for rising to such high positions.

They have always started at the bottom, but somehow they have always found skills to survive and become rich. Isn't that why they were hated so much?

They have the best diamond cutting techniques, they own a lot of the banks, there are lots of Jewish CEOs, a few politically influential Jews, and also they have massive Jewish lobbying organizations.

You have to give them some credit for becoming so powerful. They've worked their butts off to achieve all this.

But even when you give them credit for their hardwork, you still can't like them too much for what they're doing in this country.

Look at Collin Powell, he's not going to the Racism summit merely because some countries want to speak harsh against Israel. *laugh*

What are we? Israel's big/small brother? Damn the Jewish influence...

Yea I sound like Hitler, but it's not like I live w/ hate against the Jews. I just happen to have mixed feelings about them and it is leaning towards more of a "bad" side.
jjk Monday, August 27, 2001 at 19:29:40 (PDT)

I love black people. But I sure do hate niggas.
Chris Rock Monday, August 27, 2001 at 16:46:08 (PDT)

You know why it seems as if we are the majority in jail? It's racism & the media. I was just thinking about the death of Aaliyah. She passed away tragically, but she is getting next to no coverage. Had she comitted a crime, the media wouldn't be able to shut up! Also, we are targeted. You all may not beleive that, but it's true. It's call evil. It's called reality. I am not going to get mad at Asian 16 & 17 because they are probably really White teens with nothing better to do.
Alexandria 81 Monday, August 27, 2001 at 14:38:20 (PDT)

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