AA Attitude toward Hapas | Asian American Poll

AA ATTITUDE TOWARD HAPAS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are Asian American, which best describes your feeling toward Hapas (persons with one Asian parent)?
I find them more attractive than pure Asians. | 38%
I find them less attractive than pure Asians. | 11%
I find them equally attractive as other Asian Americans. | 13%
They put me off by seeming more white than Asian. | 28%
I am never quite sure how to relate to them. | 10%

Assuming you are a Hapa, which best describes your own feelings?
I am most comfortable with Asians. | 38%
I am most comfortable with Whites. | 33%
I am most comfortable around other Hapas. | 6%
I am equally comfortable with Asians and Whites. | 23%

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T.H. Lien

"Thomas: I also see mixed-race Asian girls"

You idiot :) hahahaha . If they are mixed race girls, how are they Asian girls. How can someone be a mixed-race asian. It's like saying "Thomas: I also see mixed-race White girls."
You silly man. If they're mixed, they ARE mixed, they are not Asian, nor are they White, they are Happas.

Here's another funny one, i was at a farm once, and I saw a mixed-race horse, or was it a mixed-race donkey, it was a mule. ahahahaha
Silly old man you Tuesday, January 29, 2002 at 07:46:36 (PST)

Dear All:

I am the mother of three Happa children. I am of Japanese descent and my ex-husband is a blonde/blue American of Welsh/German descent. I would like to give my input of Happas to this discussion forum. To be quite honest I have to regrettably admit that nearly all Happas (including my own children) are quite arrogant, be it regarding their racial descent or their physical appearance. I say this with experience, I love my children very much but I can't ignore that they see themselves as superior to other Asians. At first I blamed it all on myself, I played the blame game for many years after they had grown up. I always felt at fault. Over and over again I asked myself; what did I do wrong? Did I not instil them with pride of their Asian roots when they were growing up? Did I seem self hating of my own Asian descent and this then transmitted to them? Did I not acquaint with other Asians as often as I should have so they can see that being of half Asian descent isn’t half bad, its half good?
Then one day I woke up and realised it wasn’t my fault, I did the best I could do to bring them up with a sense of pride on who they were and what they are. I did teach them about their Asian heritage the culture. And yet they grew up with the “burden” of being part Asian in a white society.
That’s when it hit me. No matter how much Asian pride I instilled in them, they were still Happas. And as such, the fact that they are half white, living in a country with a society that glorifies whites and a country where “passing as white” has been a historical necessity of life for non-whites to move up the social ladder, my Happa children were bound to be influenced by this culture they live in. They learnt this arrogance on the street, from strangers, from friends, from the TV, from every conceivable place. This is a white mans country, and those of white descent will always see themselves as privileged (not necessarily superior), and those of half white descent will by default cherish and try to only acknowledge that part of them which is the one that is so glorified and privileged (in America, whites) so they too can enjoy full privileges. The fact that Happas to some degree try to denounce their Asian heritage is not necessarily because they feel shame, its because they are made to feel shame by American society at large, and it’s a natural instinct for human beings to hide that which is (perceived as) negative and hence shameful. How many times in history did we see mulattos, quadroons, octoroons passing as white? And these individuals came from a black heritage that was strong willed and self accepting, with positive view about themselves and yet these mulattos, , etc still tried passing as white nonetheless, because society demanded it of them, otherwise they too would be left in the abysm of the neglected of this country. In this country nowadays, it seems to me that some pure Asians themselves don’t have the same strong racial self-worth that blacks had in those days. How can our Happa children learn to love their Asian side if some of us ourselves don’t do it. It is hard enough to bring up mixed children who can will cherish both sides of their background when both communities are strong self worthy, but when one of their sides is not self accepting of itself it is basically impossible.
I am now married to a Japanese man and have a two-year-old daughter with him, she is my first non-Happa daughter, and I love her dearly, just as much as I love my other children. I guess the reason I had her was because I wanted to leave a legacy of Asian self worth in a child that had my blood, because society wouldn’t allow my Happa children to do so. The only thing that troubles me now is the look I get from my Happa children when they see they have a pure Asian sibling, to me, their faces seem almost upsetting at the thought.

Just My life story to share with you all
Vicky Tuesday, January 29, 2002 at 04:11:29 (PST)

Charmaine,
Cool to meet you too. My dad was born in Bentung (small town), Pahang of chinese father and Malaysian mother. When he went to school overthere (1957 aka Merdeka decleration year), there were hapas already in Bentung enrolling primary school with my dad. My mom was born in Almaty, Kazakhstan. She has a fuzzy background (Portuguese, Spanish, Kazakhs, Chinese, and etc). Kazakhstan used to belong to Russian, but declared its independence in 1992-3??? I've visited melaka. Love those food, especially that chicken with rice balls.
Ok, cakap lagi.
Young Tuesday, January 29, 2002 at 03:33:40 (PST)

ME Gal 18,
Leaving for Melbourne???? Going to U of Mel. So, you like fashion design, same with my sister too. She always smears funky paint on her shirt and wears it like she's proud of it. I bet you look elegant if you put on some batik or "cheung sam" (chinese dress).
As for me, I'm always busy. Work is alright, but school is what killing me and sacrificing my social time. I need a vacation to Malaysia to hang out with my fellow hapas....lol. Valentine's Day is coming up....you know I'm the first in line after Jay to take you for a date.....=P) . Take care.
Young, Tuesday, January 29, 2002 at 03:20:35 (PST)

Thomas: I also see mixed-race Asian girls who are not very attractive, but my friends claim they have never seen any. I guess, even an unattractive Asian girl will register on their minds as being Asian, whereas, if they see an unattractive mixed-race Asian girl, they will ignore her and not think any further about her, not realising she is Asian, but when they see an attractive one, they will notice her appearance more closely and realise she is Asian.

etalia: Personally, I don't consider myself Asian-American or a Chinese-American, because I don't fit with the little AA youth subculture that popped up in the States. I meet a lot of mixed-race Asians in the US who think that they cannot "be Asian" because they don't fit in with the rich American-born Asians hanging around in cliques trying to act all cool. Having held this idea ever since childhood, they abandoned the thought of trying to learn more about their Asian heritage very early.
T.H. Lien Monday, January 28, 2002 at 00:34:44 (PST)

To kc and Thomas,

hapas are just like everyone else. some of them are good-looking, some are not so good-looking, some are tall, some are short.
I have seem some hapa females that are very beautiful, but i hardly ever see any that are very ugly.
K Sunday, January 27, 2002 at 23:34:54 (PST)

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