CHALLENGES OF ASIAN AMERICAN TEENS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

What is the biggest problem faced by Asian American teens?
Pressure from parents to excel academically | 79%
Identity conflicts related to growing up a minority | 19%
Problems related to dating & sex | 2%
Gang influence, pressure & violence | 0%

What of these is the most common mistake made by Asian parents?
Not spending enough time with their kids | 18%
Pushing kids too hard for good grades | 34%
Being too strict in controlling kids' behavior | 45%
Neglecting the kids' social or cultural development | 3%

What factor contributes most to helping Asian teens grow up to be productive, well-adjusted adults?
Stable home environment | 93%
Cultural bias favoring academic success | 3%
Advantages provided by above-average affluence | 4%
AC Dropout

Not only do you have two cents for every topic, you seem to travel well too. ;-).

1) That’s Waldbaums - you didn’t see the adults behind the scene making it all happen. From my experience, Asian community work tend to focus only on their own community whereas the whites – perhaps due to the Christian beliefs of – love thy neighbor as thy self and promotion of charity work, etc. – are for community at large. To brush with a even broader stoke – Americans give for giving sake (again, perhaps in return for that Great Reward later) whereas, I haven’t see such type of “unselfish” (short-term?) givingness among Asian culture – except a beginnings of a little bit among the Evangelical KA Christians – trying to covert the rest of the world that the whites have missed!

2) US has an open door policy/platform – Asians are here to make their own particular contribution – to keep things in balance…you know…the third leg of a three legged stool.

3) It takes work to get educated - cause and effect - same thing! Or is it the other way around - education lead to work ethic?

xrossed id in NYC    Wednesday, May 08, 2002 at 15:18:37 (PDT)
AzN sHiNhWa

If we all had perfect parents, we would have no room to improve with our own kids.
x    Wednesday, May 08, 2002 at 15:03:03 (PDT)
my parents are kewl, (though only my mom is alive) , and I have experience alot of nagging, and lecturing from them . but all in all , who the hell has perfect parent? My mom still tries to raise me the way she was raised in the 50's in the philippines(my mom is 60...i'm a major accident:P) and sometimes i do give in just to make her happy but MOST of the time i tell her straight out why i'm doing this she doesn't like me doing. for example she gets really naggy if i procrastinate in college, and i always tell her that i'm old enough to make my own decisions and she does listen (though she's gonna stop paying half of my tuition if i get bad grades....what a motivation). And she does critisize what i'm wearing "that blouse shows your breasts too much, only whores shows their breasts, too much make up , only ma-arte ppl wear too much make up" ...how do i deal? i just deal with it, bc she's my mom and she's not so bad .
mai    Tuesday, April 30, 2002 at 15:09:59 (PDT)
mai parents are always telling me that i'm stupid-- even though i'm #1 in my whole grade. it really bugs me, and i'm not allowed to do anything to get some extra pocket money for me to buy things i want, and i dun get paid at home. parents should give their kids some slack.
AzN sHiNhWa    Thursday, April 25, 2002 at 15:47:05 (PDT)
i think my parents dont spend enough time talking to me and developing a good relationship. THey just work all day and dont know anything about me. No good communication skills of such sort between my parents. And the thing is, they are old fashioned and needs to accept changes...
VietSuHanh Mercenary_NL@yahoo.com    Tuesday, April 23, 2002 at 16:29:20 (PDT)
modern critic,

I disagree. You can just nod you head at your parents, then do what you gotta do to survive and succeed in the USA.

All traditional immigrant parents at some point, when the child is old enough, will state something to the effect "You are brought up in America and understand this culture better than me."
AC Dropout    Monday, April 22, 2002 at 15:14:23 (PDT)
xrossed id in NYC,

1) I have no idea what you are talking about the other day in Bayside, I saw a bunch of asian rugrats in boyscout uniform trying to convince people to give away cans of food in front of a walbum (beggers, I gotta feed my kids too you know). Then in Flushing the other day I saw a bunch of teeny bop asian girls pickup up cigarette butts and to display in order to convince people the harm in cigarette (neat freaks, 2 birds with one stone). Then in College Point I saw another group of asian boy scouts trying to convince me to part with my blood (blood suckers, I tried to give them a quarter and they still would not leave me alone).

Go to the Buddist temple on Main St. in Flushing. They do community service stuff alll the time. If you feel you want to give back to the community.

2) We all pissing in the melting pot of NYC. That's just a fact of life here in the city.

3) Work and educational ethics are 2 advantages. You better improve your math skills so that you can count your money better. Hope your not color blind as well.^_^
AC Dropout    Monday, April 22, 2002 at 15:10:11 (PDT)

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