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ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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Akaiinu,
My boyfriend took me to the theater to see BROTHER a few months ago. While I thought it was a cool idea -- a multicultural Asian Gansta Flick, I didn't enjoy it very much. It was far too violent and gory for my taste, the pacing was pretty slow and Beat Takeshi really creeped me out. And yeah, Tatiana Ali was in it for, like, 3 seconds!
Of course my guy love-love-loved it and will probably be receiving the DVD as an anniversary present. So thanks for reminding me. I've got some shopping to do!
Peace and love and valentines for all,
SistaMoonKitty
Thursday, February 14, 2002 at 03:07:05 (PST)
Lydia,
I gotta tip my hat to you -- it takes a bold black woman to come right out and say she just wants sex (unless she's on one of those music videos -- then it's expected). I remember going through a time like that after I broke up with my long-term boyfriend four years ago. I guess cause everyone's so used to me being the romantic type, they really couldn't handle the fact that I did not even want to hear the word "boyfriend." I just wanted fun, easy, no-strings, safe sex. So I put an ad on Match.com and found a newly-divorced guy and got exactly what I wanted. It was just what I needed at the time and when it was over I was ready to return to my love-seeking incurable romantic mode.
The only thing I'd suggest is that you downplay the bisexuality thing. If it won't be a part of the sex, don't even bring it up. If you find that he can't handle it on a friendship level, dump him. It's not that I don't think you should express yourself, it's just that most people who aren't bisexual have no clue what it means to be attracted to both genders. They either think you're one step away from doing it with farm animals, or at any moment you will leave them for the other gender and they will feel helpless. Or else they think you're a gift from the porn fairy, sent to play out all of their adolesent fantasies... In any case, the bisexuality has nothing to do with the "I want an asian hottie for sex and hangliding" part of your life, right? Don't confuse the issues and don't bait the freaks.
Peace and love and valentines for all, friendship and sex for you,
SistaMoonKitty
Thursday, February 14, 2002 at 02:54:44 (PST)
At a party tonight, I was approached at the bar by an Asian guy. We talked for a bit and I realized that he was born in Taiwan, the same as my boyfriend. When I told the guy he was surprised and impressed that my boyfriend's family was so tolerant. I admitted that I'm probably more tolerated than accepted by them. He told me that the sad fact is that because I will never blend in with the family (racially or culturally) and I will probably never master Mandarin, I would probably never be fully accepted by his family. But his family is in Taiwan and we're here, so be it.
Then I told the guy that while I love my boyfriend and he's the sweetest, most giving guy I've been with yet, there are so many things I don't understand about his family or his culture. How could they send their children away to be "parachute kids?" Why is it so hard to be a first born Chinese son and what exactly are those responsibilities? Sometimes when things get hard with his folks, I try to get my guy to talk about it but he just looks at me like there are no words in the English language to explain what he's going through.
The guy at the party told me that there really is no way for me to understand it, and that all I can do is be supportive of my man.
I can't tell you how many Asian guys I've met who don't know what they really want to do with their lives, so they do what their parents do/tell them to do. In the past month or so, I've spoken to a couple who have both told me that the only way they can live their own lives is to rebel against their parents. So in general, what do traditional Asian families expect of their sons? And what does it take for an Asian son to realize his own ambitions?
Peace and love and valentines for all,
SistaMoonKitty
Thursday, February 14, 2002 at 02:10:02 (PST)
I date asian men because all black men are a waste of time for me. I've always been attracted to men of other races and will only marry a white man or asian man. Sorry black men just don't appeal to me in any way. I don't like the way they look. I can't run my fingers through their hair. Some people who date interracially say they still date their own and that's real cool. But for me personally, I prefer men of other races and I don't feel an obligation to be with a black man or include them in my choices simply because we have the same skin color or ethnicity.I have found that I don't have much more than skin color in common with most black men that ask me out. I'm smart. They are not. I dress good. They don't. I talk like a white person and refuse to date someone who only speaks ebonics. As far as my own personal experience no black man of quality has ever asked me out. I have certain qualities that I look for in a partner. So far, the men that I have come in contact with that possess the qualities I look for in a mate are not black men.If I were to date the black men that have approached me in hopes to pursue a relasionship, I would have to lower the bar significantly and I feel that I should not have settle for what I don't want simply because a person is the same skin color as I. I know most of the black females here feel the same way I do. If you didn't you wouldn't be here. My boyfriend is vietnamesse and if I didn't have my preference I would have never hooked up with him.
Trenee73 Trenee73@yahoo.com
Thursday, February 14, 2002 at 01:10:21 (PST)
I believe that fear keep people from venturing out of thier own race, which is very sad. People should feel free to date whom ever they like, I'm an African American female and I love Asian Men in EVERY way and they love me as well, so please everyone feel free to love who you want.
CeCe reachme@iwon.com
Wednesday, February 13, 2002 at 22:43:43 (PST)
All you guys that emailed me sound incredibly sexy! Please include phone numbers next time! A naughty pic goes a long way... :-)
Tea teazemetea@yahoo.com
Wednesday, February 13, 2002 at 22:36:24 (PST)
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY TO THE WHOLE GOLDSEA FAMILY
Especially racer x
much love everyone!!!
xoxoxoxoxoxo
FARAH
Wednesday, February 13, 2002 at 19:30:22 (PST)
SPAMMER ALERT!
Please do not respond to "Val T"s response!!!!
She hasn't been at goldsea,com in a LONG time! Plus, she had to deal with a relationship problems, and has been very busy. (and hasn't been online as much)
You can tell this isn't the REAL Val T, because she NEVER uses profanity online!So, if I was the ID stealing spammer, I'd give up before the REAL Val T starts her new career!!!!
It's a shame a good couple had to break up because of his "friend"!
Asian guy friend with a crush on the REAL Val T
Wednesday, February 13, 2002 at 19:26:33 (PST)
Does anybody know if there are any Asian guys who date black woment in Houston, TX??
kaykay khrisna.harper@accenture.com
Wednesday, February 13, 2002 at 14:51:33 (PST)
Val T
It's not crap. It's called my observation and my opinon. I can only talk about what I have seen. If you have seen different then that then how about you enlighten instead of judging.
heavenly
Wednesday, February 13, 2002 at 11:37:06 (PST)
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