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Every time Trenee73 shows up in a place she disses black men.
Every time I visit a yahoo interracial or a yahoo black woman and Asian man club, I see her make the same tired speech about her hate concerning black men.
It is black women like her that are running black men away from black women.
So the next time Trenee73, and black women like her dumb @ss, see a black man with a Becky they should look at themselves.
Not only are they causing the ruffnecks to run into Becky's arms, but they are causing the college educated, wealthy, fine brothers to run into Becky's arms too!
AQ_22
Saturday, February 16, 2002 at 23:08:42 (PST)
FARAH,
Thanks for the feedback. I think I am slowly coming to understand my boyfriend's situation. I am the oldest in my family as well, but during college I completely rebelled against them in order to pursue my own life and dreams. Before college, I thought my whole life was going to be about medical school, staying home and doing what they wanted me to do. It was like my parents were these mythic, God-like creatures and the idea of displeasing them was just... oh too awful to think about! Like being banished or exiled or something. Remembering what those days were like helps me to understand my guy better. And yes, the hugs and kisses work wonders. As for the Mandarin... I'll work on it one phrase at a time.
To:SistaMoonKitty
As you may have guessed, I'm a pretty outgoing person. I have fairly meaningful conversations with strangers of all genders, races, ages and socio-economic levels almost every day. In fact, one of my favorite things to do is to ask a complete stranger about the thing they're most passionate about, and watch the change in their demeanor when they talk on and on from that warm little fountain of joy that resides in all of us. The networking party I was attending was a perfect place to do this, and I spoke to a few different men and women at the bar because everyone was so friendly and the bartender was so darn slow!
But why did I have that conversation about my boyfriend with the guy from Taiwan? For the same reason I'm here on this board! Because I'm in love with a man from a different culture and I want to understand his world better. I think that's perfectly respectable.
Peace and love for all,
SistaMoonKitty
Saturday, February 16, 2002 at 16:09:23 (PST)
Trenee73,
I'm cool with anyone who wants to date other races or has their personal preferences. Personally, I hated being pigeonholed and told that I had to date someone who I share absolutely nothing in common with except for skin tone. But you do know that there are quality black guys out there who don't speak ebonics, who dress well, and who have hair (well, dreadlocks...) you can run your fingers through, right? I'm not saying you have to date them, I'm just saying please don't misrepresent all black men. My daddy's an educated black man, as were my grandfathers, as are my uncles and cousins. And someday my adorable little nephew will be too.
Speaking of which, do you ever plan on having children? Because if you do, you have a 50% chance of bringing a baby black man into this world (it doesn't matter who his Daddy is -- half-black guys generally see themselves as black first, and so does the rest of the world...well, except for Tiger Woods...). And your son is going to see himself through your eyes, no matter what anyone else says. Will you tell him you wished that he had "good hair"? Will you tell him that you wished he looked more like his non-black daddy? Will you tell him that he's not a quality human being?
I don't believe in settling, limiting ourselves, or misrepresenting ourselves in love relationships. I'm happy for any black woman who has found herself a good asian man, and that's why I'm here. But I also don't think it's necessary to carry around a heart full of hatred for ANYONE.
Peace and love for all,
SistaMoonKitty
Saturday, February 16, 2002 at 15:24:30 (PST)
Trenee,
I appreciate your opinions because we have the right to have them, they are our own. But I think it is sad that you are committing the same racial stereotyping against Black men that the world commits agaisnt people of color everywhere. I can understand that you have nothing in common with the Black men you meet, cool its your choice, but not all Black men are the same; just like you can see sweetie, all Black women who date out of their race aren't the same. You can not speak for the rest of us women in this forum. I agree with
Tea! (the REAL one!)
Friday, February 15, 2002 at 22:26:01 (PST)
Whoever is using my name to leave obscene messages, well thats just wrong! I am a lady and would never leave such a tacky messages! I thought this was somewhere people could express their ideas, not a horny, weird chatroom!
Tea! (the REAL one!)
Friday, February 15, 2002 at 22:15:05 (PST)
This is to all with an open mind
There are trashy people in each race one race or one man isn't better than the other. If you believe and can conceive that love is the key to life then their is hope for this world, if you are black, white, Asian, Spanish or any one of the other beautiful and sometimes complex mixtures of people that this world is made of, don't put your own people down because that which you hate about your own this is what you are yourself. Remember you can't love anyone else (now listen carefully) unless your First Love is Yourself, meaning your History (from which you came). I'm not anyone's judge or teacher or preacher but I do know the basic rules of life is to love and respect others even if you don't always agree with what they do or who they are just don't be around those people and there's no need to explain why you won't associate with them. I love Asian men and my family and friends have nothing to do with it because when it's all said and done I'm the one who need to be happy with the man I choose to (lay the night away) with.
Peace and Love always/soul to soul
Don't hate
CeCe
Friday, February 15, 2002 at 19:16:46 (PST)
"If I were to date the black men that have approached me in hopes to pursue a relasionship, I would have to lower the bar significantly and I feel that I should not have settle for what I don't want simply because a person is the same skin color as I. I know most of the black females here feel the same way I do. If you didn't you wouldn't be here. "
Trenee73,
I like men period, no matter what their race is. I do not have a racial preference for males. I am one black female that you do NOT speak for. My brothers (who are gorgeous, by the way!), are very kind and are doing very well in life. You sound like you have not met the kind of black men that I know. Perhaps you have only been in contact with thugs. I know all types of black men, from millionaires to those who are just living comfortably, from nappy hair to hair that you can "run your fingers through", from light to dark skin, from lazy to extremely productive. It is sad that you have obviously lumped all the black men in a single category when there is such a variety of black men. YOU MUST BE A TROLL. No black person that I know of would say something as asinine as "I talk like a white person and refuse to date someone who only speaks ebonics." What the hell is that supposed to mean? If you mean, that you speak proper english, then say THAT because many white people do NOT speak proper english. If they are who you want to sound like, then perhaps they are also who you want to be and act like. Perhaps, that is why you are so hateful towards black males. Sounds to me like you are mimicking some of their behavior towards black males. I am offended that you, even if you are a troll, would lump my brothers into your lame category. Here are some interesting things to note about my brothers: They do not speak ebonics, unless they feel like it. They are educated and intelligent. One of them made who's who among High School Student when he was in high school. My youngest brother is extremley fairskinned and has "hair that you can run your fingers through".
I refuse to believe that this is a real post. No one can be so ignorant!!!
SoShy
Friday, February 15, 2002 at 11:06:06 (PST)
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