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ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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Asian Brother
You should approach her just like you approached the Asian women & White women. Personally, I prefer educated guys. As far as being wealthy, I'd say a little wealth wouldn't hurt, but it certainly is not a criteria.
Good luck hon! Now go & get your girl!
Lexington Ave.
Thursday, May 02, 2002 at 07:55:22 (PDT)
SistaMoonkitty-
I think thats a good challenge. I am going to try it. I hope some other people do as well, then we can maybe discuss the results...compare notes...
Nicole
Thursday, May 02, 2002 at 07:08:42 (PDT)
Asian Brother:
Yes, I would be attracted to an educated man, and the wealthy part...well...thats not what I look for. But it would be okay. I look for a man who is intelligent and who has respect for his mother...because that will show whether you have respect for women or not.
If the woman you are attracted to has already shown an interest in you, go for it. Just be yourself. Don't try to portray something you're not. This way she can get to know the real you on the inside. I wouldn't go to her trying to impress her, by telling her how "wealthy" you are. I would just be myself. That way she'll see you for who "you" are. Good luck! :)
DeeDee
Thursday, May 02, 2002 at 04:36:56 (PDT)
I don't discriminate, or player hate, I participate.
What I like the most about BF is your boldness. Most of the BF that I've kicked it with hollered at me. I do my best to oblige. Some were fleeting and others lasted. I've stepped to my share of BF too, capitalized on some and others left me bent but not broken. Still have that faith, still on a mission to find my Ms. Right.
Honestly the whole color thing, high yellow, red bone, dark, thing, seems so trivial to me. As an AM, I don't have a preference at all, as long as she is fly, has her mind in the right place, and either doing something or on the way to doing something with her life. Pretty much what everybody else wants.
Do BF have a preference for one Asian over another, say Chinese over Japanese, reason being is that there is a vast difference between cultures, even features. I can tell 9 out of 10 times if somebody is Filipino because I am. Call it a mental frequency. Why do we all have to be lumped into one pile called Asians.
Thank God, we're not listed as Orientals.
Azn Mack
Thursday, May 02, 2002 at 01:20:18 (PDT)
"First, they can't spell worth a damn and their reasoning is equal to that of someone who is retarded, so you're dealing with an uneducated fool and dumb fools are best ignored" --Leave fools alone! in response to Nubian Goddess
That's an insult to the mentally disabled.
lhabia
Thursday, May 02, 2002 at 00:19:05 (PDT)
I just want to clarify a few things. I find it really funny how many of you mistake my pride in being a true Nubian Goddess with putting down other women who do not look or represent true Black beauty or Nubian beauty.
I never said that mixed or light skinned women were not pretty or attractive. I just said that they weren't Black. that's all. how come you do not get mad at White people for not calling you "WHITE" when you are half White or have White features? maybe because they are in power and you do not want to cross them so you get mad at the Black person telling you, you aren't Black when you are mixed because we really can't do anything to your exsistence like could White people? hmmm.
I think many light skinned and mixed women who have Black in their genes are attractive and pretty in their own way in terms of MIXED BEAUTY and not Black beauty. But if you start throwing in the mixed and bi racial women with some Black blood and try to make them "BLACK" then I have a problem since NUBIAN GODDESSES are constantly pushed down because society wants to use light skinned, mixed and bi racial women as the standard for Black beauty when they ARE NOT BLACK!
However, i did say that in MY OPINION the world has overlooked what true Black beauty is by mistankingly saying that light skinned and bi racial women are 'beautiful black women" when they are not. They are "beautiful mixed women". I consider light skinned women and bi racial women more WHITE than BLACK.
Lets be clear on what a REAL Black woman is and has always been, so that when an Asian man comes on here looking for a true Nubian Goddess Queen he knows what he is going to get:
DARK SKINNED (with a smooth clear sexy chocolate complexion, round deep dark almond shaped eyes, firm round buttocks and melon shaped breasts that are REAL, firm, round, and medium to big sized; full heart shaped rounded lips, round nose, round hips, THICK kinky shiny jet Black hair that crackles and curls up tightly like small baby breath flowers, and strong bone structure, good height no fat, non hairy).
How is this "insulting" mixed women or light skinned women? You are what you are and everyone should be proud of it. All I said was light skinned and Bi racial women are "knock offs" of Black women who are and who look more WHITE if anything. I cannot fully deny that you have Black blood if you are mixed with Black somewhere. But it still doesn't make you a TRUE NUBIAN GODDESS.
And I think its only fair that this is pointed out to Asian men seeking Black women as opposed to "MIXED" women who have some Black somewhere in them and who say they are Black (this includes light skinned women who think they are Black as well).
Why confuse them (Asian men and all other men)? Black is Black and mixed is mixed! if an Asian man is seeking a light skinned or bi racial half Black female then he is surely not seeking a BLACK WOMAN (i.e NUBIAN GODDESS) but rather a mixed woman.
If an Asian man is seeking a TRUE NUBIAN GODDESS then he is seeking a silky smooth chocolate skinned sister with extreme Black Goddess characteristics (that are noted 4 paragraphs up) that can only be bred and formed in MOTHER AFRICA!
Don't get mad at me. i am just trying to make clarifications and distinctions so that we are all clear on what we REALLY are as opposed to what we want to SAY we are.
NUBIAN GODDESS
Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 14:16:56 (PDT)
To the "REAL" Nubian Goddess
Sorry but that name is open for anyone to take. Hopefully only those who represent true Black Nubain beauty are using the name. Just beacuse I have used it doesn't mean I am trying to impersonate you. ANYONE can use the term and it just so happens that you posted under that name as well.
Next, the reason why i use the term NUBIAN GODDESS is because i look like one (dark smooth clear CHOCOLATE SKIN, firm round ass and breasts, good height, strong bone structure, great cheekbones, dark deep fully rounded almond shaped eyes, thick shiny kinky jet black hair, round nose, big white teeth, full lips that are shaped like hearts).
If you do not look like that or possess those features then please refrain from calling yourself a NUBIAN GODDESS. If you are light skinned, bi racial or brown woman with semi straight hair (natural), skinny waify body, pointy nose, small puny lips or wavy hair then you are not a Nubian Goddess or a Black woman. You are a "MIXED" woman who should call herself such.
I bet you are some light skinned or brown skinned or mixed woman trying to use the name NUBIAN GODDESS because it sounds cute huh? Well if you do not look like one then you should not be using the name. That is like Alek Wek calling herself a NORDIC NEMISES or something.
NUBIAN GODDESS
Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 13:52:57 (PDT)
"Okay, okay, okay, so now we've got a whole bunch of black women feeling angry, insulted and victimized and NO ASIAN MEN! (with the notable exception of our man Azn Mack). Could it be that all of this "blacker than thou" sniping has scared off the guys? There's probably not much that any of them can contribute to the conversation at this point. Besides, who would want to date ANYONE who spends so much of their time hating other people?"
I'm an Asian male, and actually I don't mind the "sniping" and other expressions of passion by African American women on this board about these significant ethnicity issues. I believe that the expression of African American female ethnicity angst is healthy and productive for two reasons: (1) it, ironically, promotes understanding and the breaking down of the silly P.C. barriers so that everyone can move on to other topics of importance and interest without returning to these subterranean ethnicity issues over and over again and (2) it is important and healthy for Asian males who are not familiar with this dimension to be exposed to these issues important to African American women in order to better understand the ethnicity realities behind the African American female experience in America. I believe the expression of these passions in these discussions, whether in the form of "sniping," etc. are all a part of a healthy, maturation process IF FRAMED MEANINGFULLY (i.e., as part of working out of these ethnicity issues together in a caring, positive community).
Asian Male in America
Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 12:44:27 (PDT)
Asian Brother,
Just take a chance. You don't have to show that you're more educated or wealthier than the average population to impress a lady. But you do have to show that you are intelligent, have a great sense of humor, and a gentlemen (a gentlemen is attentive and considerate, without being overbearing).
Personally, I think small talk is good as a beginning, then eventually work your way to asking her out for lunch and later dinner. My ex and I because I started off with small talk. He was working, so we only talked for a few minutes, but I must have made an impression, b/c the next week when I saw him at his work place, we talked for like 3 hours (it was a work study job on campus: computer lab, and there was another person covering for him while we talked). In fact, by the end of our conversation, when he realized he'd better get back to work, he asked me out on a date. Just be your charming, witty, and very friendly self. Like I said, small talk is a good ideas, that way you'll get to know something about her. Getting to know someone and letting them know it's safe to go out with you, is a very good idea in the beginning. That's just a thought.
lilli98 (Miss Lilli98) lilli98@collegeclub.com
Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 11:16:47 (PDT)
SistaMoonkitty,
Do you really think the more you're rejected, the less you'll fear rejection? Please, please, tell me your reasons behind that. I am very curious.
lilli98 (Miss Lilli98) lilli98@collegeclub.com
Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 11:04:36 (PDT)
I leave for a few days, and someone has decided to leave a post with my name. Hmm, to the lilli98 that stated: "So Nubian why don't you start your own poll and call it AsianMale/JetBlackShiny Female Relationships?" please set yourself apart from me. To everyone thinking that I may be the one trying to start trouble here, know that I always leave my email address. That should distinguish myself from the other lilli98. In fact, I'll start signing a little differently. I always leave an email address so that if I say something and you wish to email me directly with something you'd like to say, then you can. That way, if something ugly is said and I didn't say it, I'll know all about it. I do try to check out the lately post regularly though.
Crystal, I understand, but please don't hate on Mississippi too much. We already have such a negative image. The younger generation is trying very hard to help clean up the negative image we've had since slavery and afterwards, especially during the Civil Rights Movement (Alabama is a lot worse). Not everyone in the south, including MS is hateful. I am a southern born and breed lady. Mississipian, in fact. There are tons of things about MS and the south that I don't like, and there are ohter things that I do like. There is racism everywhere, the only differences is whether or not the people show it. Here, it's more open, which I prefer. Why? Because I know exactly where I stand with people, and am not left wondering who is my friend and who is my enemy. I come from a diverse racial background, and I know it couldn't have been easy for them then, and it hasn't always been easy now. But things are getting better, and they will continue to get better, I'm sure of it. It's something I HAVE to believe. I know that racism is everywhere, not just the south. Don't let it get to you. I've been called every name imaginable for a light skin female. It doesn't bother me, b/c I know who I am. I'm just me. I'm beautiful inside and out.
I'm black, but I'm white. I'm white, but I'm Native American. What does that make me? hahahah. A mutt.
lilli98 (Miss Lilli98) lilli98@collegeclub.com
Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 10:56:20 (PDT)
SistaMoonkitty:
What an excellent idea! I commend you for thinking of that. Maybe this will sway the board towards more positive topics of conversation that everyone can agree upon.
As for enticing our "golden princes" back...we could try cake. Cake always makes me go back places. There was this shitty restaurant that my boyfriend took me to that had the WORST dinners but the BEST cakes. Needless to say, I go back when the need for a slice of Double German Chocolate Delight arises.
n.san23:
Welcome to the club. I haven't seen you post before so I'm just saying Hi. I'm glad you feel comfortable stating your preference, even through the heated debates that arise here. That shows balls of steels dude, and I commend you.
FARAH:
On no! Please don't push said idiotic women onto men. Men will not fix their stupidity and will only cause a greater rift between the sexes as more and more stupid women start jumping into the sack with intelligent (or even dumb) men. What they need is a book and maybe a labotomy.
JTHM
Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 09:22:15 (PDT)
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