Asian Male/Black Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to African American females?
Their facial features | 36%
Their physique | 36%
Their attitude and personality | 27%
Their education & cultural values | 1%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with African American females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 2%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 7%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 67%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 24%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 77%
Their physique | 4%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 78%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 13%

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HOt sisters on this board,

I am trying to get a poll going here. Can you please honestly report your body type, height, and well whether you have the typical curvy body that black women have? I am new to this adventure of exploring relationship with a siser and honestly am trying to find out the typical body types of black chicks attracted to AMs.
I am 5'8" and 165 lbs. I exercise but not regularly enough!
Asian Brother Saturday, May 11, 2002 at 22:08:04 (PDT)

AM/BF 12 yrs plus,

I enjoyed your story .. Thank you. Your children must be beautiful.

I am interested in trying to establish a relationship with a sister. I like to take it slow at the beginning. Again this will be my first time and I will see how it goes.
In terms of wealth, I am concerned if girls like me solely because of that or because of my position at work. I understand that financial or "social status" situation is part of the package. I just don't want people to like me only because of these things. For a "fun" kind of relationship, that is OK. But for a long term relationship, that may be a problem. I am just trying to see how much weight BFs put on material stuff. From what I read from my response
I noticed also that the sisters seem to age very well like the Asian chicks.

By the way, I saw a sister with a pretty good looking Asian brother today( I live in Boston). The black chick, needless to say, is thick in the right places. Now if only I can ask our little sister in my workplace out...

Asian Brother Saturday, May 11, 2002 at 21:59:01 (PDT)

Did anyone try Sistamoonkitty's plan?

I did, and it worked pretty cool too. I met some nice AM. I met four of them. Two of them on campus, one at the movie theater, one at the grocery and the other one at the car wash. Honestly-
I approached the two on campus, the other ones did approach me first. The two college guys seemed a little on the shy side.
I can't say that I felt in any way insecure as far as looks being an issue. They seemed to be attracted physically, and I found them attractive (the one at the carwash was OK looking, not so much. He was a little bit too old for me) But I can safely say it did seem like it all had alot to do with personality. Its like, after we talked a while it seemed to be more about my interests and their interests. Like it was more of a chemistry thing.
Did anyone have any experiences?

Nicole Saturday, May 11, 2002 at 10:26:29 (PDT)

"You better think twice about that dental assistant. Chances are she would do that to any guy that catches her fancy. She is probably a loose woman, to put it delicately."

I disagree. You're not giving the dental assistant enough credit. She may be highly intuitive and careful: (1) she sensed her own attraction to the guy, (2) she sensed his attraction to her, (3) she decided to act on the mutual attraction with some modest flirtation and he responded positively to that, (4) he then gave her an overt signal to move on to the next level of "communication", and (5) both appreciated the mutual attraction and setting things up for the future. I don't think there's enough in the story to understand the reality of the characters involved in Mike's romance at the dentist's office. But, what the hell, I'd say that's how most wives became wives and this cuts across all ethnic boundaries.

Asian Machiavelli Saturday, May 11, 2002 at 10:08:29 (PDT)

Caledonian,
Who cares if someone has some dumbass misconceptions about BW. This is not the United Nations its just a forum. I am not on here speaking for a whole entire nation, I speak for my damn self. I am an individual, I am not all black women. So get it real honey.
And I didn't congratulate Mike. But I do if thats what he likes. If he wants to get freaky, then he should go for it. Its his thing, he can do what he wants. So what. That would be his business wouldn't it.
jamaican Saturday, May 11, 2002 at 07:16:54 (PDT)

First of all, I just want to say that I am a black female, and I am very much attracted to asian males. I think it runs in the family since my brother and dad date asian females. I have only dated one asian though. I feel as if the world is against asian male-black femal relationships. Hey if there is any asian males looking for a black female, I'll be around.

Sincerely,

Carys R. Martin
Carys, 17 female swaa333@yahoo.com Friday, May 10, 2002 at 23:11:07 (PDT)

Caledonian,

"And you wonder why people have misconceptions about BF."

First, let me explain something to you . . . it could have just as easily have been a white woman in that situation. Some white women are just as slutty and loose, just as there are some very moral and decent black women. If you (and this goes for everyone) cannot realize that everyone does not fit the stereotype, then you need to have your damn head examined. The reason there are so many misconceptions is because people are willing to believe them, and people judge an entire group of people based off one or two experiences. Let's face it, people are people. You're going to have good experiences and bad experiences, regardless of race. Don't condemn and entire race based on one story. I really hate that crap!!!! Besides, why don't you help to clear up some of the misconceptions about black women, instead of adding fuel to the fire?

"You better think twice about that dental assistant. Chances are she would do that to any guy that catches her fancy. She is probably a loose woman, to put it delicately."

There are just as many loose men in this world, but people (particularly men) seem to forget this little fact. (I'm not a man hater, but I really dislike the double standards that every society seems to follow).

"As for those black women congratulating him (Mike), you are truly pathetic. It is is patent that you are so desperate to be with any asian male that you are willing to condone such sexually loose behaviour."

I did not see any women congratulating Mike. The few people that responded were merely curious about what he did afterwards. That doesn't sound like someone congratulating him. I think most people were shocked, and a little curious about what he did next. So what if people wanted to know if he asked her out, or said he got more than just your normal check-up?
And yes, I have to admit what she did was a little outrageous (no more than what some women do at the club to get a man to come home with them), and could have gotten her fired. But I don't think Mike was complaining too much. In fact, I didn't see any complaints on his part at all. If he was, he would gone straight to her boss and she would have lost her job on the spot.

Oh and one other thing . . . these ladies are not pathetic. These ladies are beautiful, intelligent, and full of humor. And so are the men (well, you guys are handsome and/or sexy, not beautiful--better? okay).

Be a little more careful with your words and read the post a little more carefully.

Later
ladyK ladykagero@collegeclub.com Friday, May 10, 2002 at 17:25:36 (PDT)

Whatever Caledonian:
Do you know how many sexual misconceptions exist about The AF? OR, you just prefer to harp on those that exist for the BF? Please take your biases elsewhere. Thanks!
Fasaha Friday, May 10, 2002 at 13:46:13 (PDT)

Caledonian,
Who says anyone is congratulating Mike?
Your comment is so typical.
You misinterpreted bigtime sweetie!
The comment I made to him was meant in sarcasm thankyou.
Whoever has any misconceptions of BW, thats their problem. Obviously, THEY have the issues. I for one am not a damn bit concerned about that!
neroli Friday, May 10, 2002 at 13:03:30 (PDT)

Caledonian,

Don't mix all Black women into that same category please. Any man should think twice about a women who is that loose, especially nowadays. As far as being desperate to be with an Asian man, I can only speak for me, but I got him by being me, not being a freak.

Danny,

Go ahead and get to know her, if your better off friends then fine, nothing ventured nothing gained
farah Friday, May 10, 2002 at 10:34:31 (PDT)

Mike,
You better think twice about that dental assistant. Chances are she would do that to any guy that catches her fancy. She is probably a loose woman, to put it delicately.

As for those black women congratulating him (Mike), you are truly pathetic. It is is patent that you are so desperate to be with any asian male that you are willing to condone such sexually loose behaviour.

And you wonder why people have misconceptions about BF.
Caledonian Thursday, May 09, 2002 at 14:20:37 (PDT)

I saw the prettiest black lady at the riverfront yesterday. She had a cute little girl with her. I couldn't stop looking at her. I asked her if she was married, she said 'unhappily married'. She said shes going through a divorce right now. She asked me if I was single. I am not really sure about her. She was very pretty, and from what she told me she has alot going for her. I told her that we could maybe friends and hang out or something. Because, I dont really know her situation completely. I have dated a married woman before and it was tough as hell to go through.
Danny Thursday, May 09, 2002 at 09:44:24 (PDT)

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