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African American men and women fall into two basic categories in terms of class, based upon my observation: (1) the balanced,"middle-class" African American and (2) the out of control, needy "lower-class" African American. I tag each category in parentheses, because an African American may be of the economic underclass, yet exhibit the "class" of the middle-class African American. And vice-versa.
I prefer friendship, etc. with the African Americans who exhibit the "middle-class" characteristics. I find that the "lower-class" African Americans are needy and often foolishly hostile (even though I understand this social phenomenon, it's observable that this category of African American, ironically, often make "enemies" of those who are not their enemies. In some circles, this behavior is known as being foolish or stupid--or at least, not smart).
I bet that many Asian males who are involved with African American females are interested in and attracted to those African American females who belong to the "middle-class" category as opposed to the "lower-class" category, because, I hypothesize, the "lower-class" category behaves in terms of predictable, uninteresting hostile behavior, whereas the "middle-class" category behaves not only in terms of meaningful "civil," positive behavior, but also in terms of individual or individualized characteristics. The Asian male feels that the African American female in the "middle-class" category shares with him not only her positivity, but also her endearing individual characteristics as a human being rather than an almost de-humanized, negative force in the world.
Asian Machiavelli
Sunday, May 19, 2002 at 09:00:48 (PDT)
There you have it ladies, it doesn't matter what race the man is, there is still that whorish mentality.
Asian Mack, let's face it, you aren't too smart yourself for sleeping with that young lady on the first date. Did it ever occur to you that that is how STD's really get around? You could have something that you don't know about and could have given it to her, or she could have had something and given it to you. Do you think your story is cute or something? Because if you do, then you're wrong. Your story isn't cute. In fact, it's rather tacky and a little trashy. If you're proud of yourself, you really shouldn't be. Just my two cents.
lilli98 (Miss Lilli98) lilli98@collegeclub.com
Saturday, May 18, 2002 at 21:35:45 (PDT)
Asian Mack:
Either you are a pig or you have one hell of a way to make a point. "I just wanted some Black booty". That proves that you had an agenda for the evening. Just by the language in your post, you sound as if you are just as ghetto as the girl you USED. So let me get this:
1. You have an AF date
2. BF catches your eye
3. You send the AF away
4. Talk to the BF & exchange numbers
5. Bang her up like 1,000 a car crashes
6. Ignore her except when you want to cheat on another AF, thus...
7. Leading both women on
Help me ladies, did I get this right?
Asian Mack, these are the seven deadly sins of dating. Listen little doggie, you keep playing around with the wrong bitches & you WILL get neutered. That's my key lesson, Ha.
Sammi 81
Saturday, May 18, 2002 at 17:09:01 (PDT)
after reading an amazing 5 pages of posts, all i gotta say is hahaha @ asian mack. u r funny and well ur da man!
BF's have a LOT on their minds, i've never read soo much in my life!
(though educated to degree level my books on contain numbers and figures {maths books}).
but thats good i AM a good listener and if you lovely ladies never had anything to talk about, there might be a huge long silence.
And whats with the sn stealing? theres far too much bitchiness goin' on in here.
it seems as though someone is trying to put AMs off BFs. its a shame
JTUK
Saturday, May 18, 2002 at 10:21:18 (PDT)
Asian Mack,
Did you really type this post? I can't believe you would express this "so called" experience to the black women in this forum. If you really posted this message. You have surely cheapened yourself.
"Tsk, Tsk, tsk."
Left a bad taste on my tongue
Saturday, May 18, 2002 at 02:28:12 (PDT)
SHY ANGEL,
No Black woman should settle for that treatment. We as Black women have to demand more for ourselves. I think too many times we want for love because this society and men have devalued our existence. I just feel that another way to use a Black woman and string her along in an ãexperimentalä interracial relationship is use the "parent dissaproves thing".
Trust me, your story is all too familiar with Black women dating interracially. However, I find these issues with parents less in WHite male and Black female relationships and more with Asian men and Black women since Asian parents tend to follow a Eurocentric ideal for their kids partners.
personally I feel a man knows first hand how his family is going to react to his interracial relationship. But Alot of times they will trick the Black woman and try to make her think its a sudden thing that happens after you start dating and after he has "experienced" having sex with you. All of a sudden afterwards they start acting like their parents "disapproval" of the relationship is something new.
Sisters be careful with these men of other races. many are out for the experience and you have to be one step ahead of them. If Black men are capable of exploiting and using Black women with no conscious so are other men.
Shy, I hate to say this, but I think you are just another victim of being that hidden treasure, and once he has got his full the nice way to end things is to blame the parents.
if a man wants you and truly believes in his relationship with you, he will know from the get go about how his parents feel and he will tell you straight up from the beginning of the relationship.
unfortunately in interracial relationships, the men can lie and end the relationships by saying their parents disagree.
DO not stick around. Be smart, and move on. You seem to be much more intelligent and worthy of better than sticking with a weakling who keeps using his ãmomä as an excuse to keep you hidden. Go by your instincts. If you are feeling that breaking up is better, then please do it! Always go with your woman intuition.
Black women have to protect ourselves and our feelings. But we have to be smart and one step ahead of the game.
This is why I do not view interracial relationships with Black women healthy at this present time. There are too many bad stereotypes and images out there that suggest we are good enough to string along with no real commitment. Black women need to be much tougher in how we will allow ourselves to be treated in relationships. Not even many black men are worthy of our affections. I think more Black women need to focus on changing our images and perceptions and working on setting a foundation for our young girls so they do not get "hoodwinked" in the situation you are in.
Black women should avoid interracial relationships with Asian men especially since Asian parents are more concerned with having grandchildren with round blue eyes, light hair, and freckled faced pale kids that White partners can hopefully add to their gene pool. WHo wants to deal with that! Many Asian see their kids dating Blacks as a step down and White as a step up. If you were WHite with blonde hair and blue eyes they would be begging thier son to marry you and to have kids with you. TRUST ME.
I live in California and constantly hear Asian adults (especially women) talking about how they would love to have kids or grandkids with light rounder eyes and more Euro features. DO not be apart of that.
Good luck sister!
NONYA
Saturday, May 18, 2002 at 01:19:42 (PDT)
Asian Mack:
Thanks for the tip but smart women know to stay far away from double standard insecure men like yourself.
BTW, don't lump all men together in saying they want nothing to do with a female if they slept with her the first night. This is true for you and men who carry that double standard... What a pathetic excuse for justifying your behavior.
[Note: the reason I said "all" is because you said "no man".]
Enlightened BF
Friday, May 17, 2002 at 20:46:51 (PDT)
the only thing that puts me off of some asian guys is when they try to talk ghetto when black people are around. I just find it pathetic.
Asian Mack i dont mean to be mean but please dont try to act black, we BW are attracted to asian guys because they are asian, so you dont have to act like a black person to impress us.
take care
Black Women Dallas Bred
Friday, May 17, 2002 at 19:17:43 (PDT)
Asian Mack,
You are a prime example why there are no nice guys out there. I'm sure you just had full pleasure on stating what a useless purpose of man is.
Jon C,
You seem like an intellectual man that is willing to open up. I commend you.
Hope to hear from you.
Ocean
Friday, May 17, 2002 at 14:24:12 (PDT)
Asian Mack,
Darling, honey, you poor thing, that's nothing to be proud of...even if you did have a condom, that's no guarantee that you're protected. I fully understand that you want to make a point to the sisters..."don't put out the first time". But, you dear Sir, just COMPLETELY voided the purpose of "that lesson taught".
Honestly, as many stories as you have told about booties, hips and curves in right places, it appears we have a "overly excited Black skirt chaser".
Calm down dude, we want to have you around for your advice and opinions.
Once again, are you after their "hearts or their "intimates""?
BartSimpson is soooo!....
Friday, May 17, 2002 at 10:28:17 (PDT)
I am a black female, but I am a muslim and I love being muslim but; I feel that being muslim has made it more difficult for me to date men, especialy asian men. It's not that they don't find me atractive, ti just when they find out I am muslim they back off.I don't look, or dress like other muslims, I wear make-up, stylish cloths, and I show my hair and I get alot of compliments from others; but it just seems like thats not enough.So, I have been thing about uncovering completely and maybe even chaning my religion. May be my life would be easier. I also feel that my weight is the problem, I feel that they just like my pretty face and not my body; I have big hips, a big butt, big breast, and eventhough my stomach doe'snt hang over my cloths, I still have one. I am big bone and I am above average height, so I can't help being my size. I have an older chinese friend named sherry and she is always on my cause about my weight; sherry has an older son who is a docter, in stead of interducing me to him, she choose to interduce my white friend katie to him; katie knows nothing about the chinese culture and she is not interested in it; she just thinks that chinese men are "hot". I on the other hand, have been studying chinese languae and culture since was in high school; the that sherry chose the blond haired, blue eyed,skinny white girl to meet her son in stead me, really hart my feelings.
Marjorie Sherels , I am a 19 , year old black female redlotus@ameritech.net
Friday, May 17, 2002 at 09:50:03 (PDT)
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