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dan you're right about that, i went to nz for holiday and its not just white girls that look at asian guys as any other guy the maori girls do to. Newzealand is such a beatiful country and it has some of the nicest people there, Australia however is like the cruel big brother of newzealand, i went to Australia and i was sitting at a cafe with two friends and one of my friends must have been looking at this other table and a white guy from another table picked up our table and tipped it over and said "WHAT THE F@#K ARE YOU STARING AT GOOK" i was shocked and ive also heard so many people telling me of racism against asians in australia. and the thing is it pissed me off so much to hear that Australia was protesting against beijing getting the olympics because of theyre human rights record, sure chinas human rights record is anything but perfect, but lets have a look at Australias,
hrmm we have clasifying the Australian aboriginies in the Australian department of Animals Flaura and Fauna,
shooting the Tasmanian aboriginies like rabbits therefore making the tasmanian aboriginie extinct by 1960 (tasmanian aboriginies were very different to mainland aboriginies). White Australia Policy dissallowing asians or blacks in the country and kicking out any asians that were already residing or were born there. Delibrately sinking vietnames refugee boats coming to australia, murdering children, women, men who were fleeing vietnam war.
I wonder why no one protested over australia getting the sydney olympics.
Marius
Monday, February 25, 2002 at 00:35:45 (PST)
Huonu,
This "cultural intimidation" you're talking about is shared by most of the people who date interracially.
I know it's hard, but try to look Asian guys or guys of any other race as indiviudals, just "guys," not "Asian guys."
jjk
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 22:22:45 (PST)
dan,
Honestly, most Aussies are trash. Most of their ancestors were low scum white trash exported from Britain anyways so who gives. But of couse not all of them are racist.
Aussie Racists Die
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 22:20:27 (PST)
Elaine is either a white guy or asian female. You gotta laugh at the low intelligence there.
Rice Cooker
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 22:11:46 (PST)
I'm still thinking of my secret Asian male lover ever since I met him in Sept. 96.
LynnT
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 20:15:55 (PST)
Elaine,
You are just plain ignorant. There are many white girls like you who generalize that the only good kind of people are white. Since this country is run by whites, they will never do a census that would show whites negatively. If you don't follow me, here it goes. It seems that they always say that over 50% of marriages don't last, but the majority of those marriages are between whites. Whites seem to remarry at least two times in their lifetime. You will never see a poll showing that AMs are more likely to be with their partners than WMs. The only polls you will ever see is when a poll shows Whites doing well academically than blacks and latinos. It is kind of funny because Asians are about neck-to-neck in academics and many of us weren't born in America. The point is Elaine, maybe it is you who are not good enough to hook up with an Asian guy. We usually prefer educated, well-rounded, open-minded women who are not shallow like you.
Aggressive AM
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 18:45:31 (PST)
Curiousity,
I've been dating my AM boyfriend for, well almost 4 years now (I'm a white female), and I must say it's been the best four years of my life. It has been a tough ride for us though. He is by far the most caring and sensitive guy i've met, as compared to other guys i've dated (all white). As compared to white guys he actually takes interest into my life and thoughts instead of just my body. He's funny, romantic, and just a better listener as compared to the white guys. But for the negitive, he seems to tend to hold things in, and have a temper (which he told me his whole family tends to do this so i'm not sure if this is an Asian trait??) So I just wanted to let you know my plus and minus for dating an AM, but I must say, if for some reason this boyfriend isn't the one for me to marry, I don't think I'll marry a white guy, Asians are just sooo much better : )
P.S. Another plus he's by far the most handsome guy i've ever seem, especially the eyes, they are beautiful.
Tigerlily
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 18:32:36 (PST)
supposely, asian males are the most eligible husbands and long-term bfs... in gerneral
dan
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 17:46:04 (PST)
Elaine, which part of the country are you from? I'm in SF, CA. I want to have sex with you. I am a sexy, tall, handsome Asian man. If you are in the same area, give me your email and we can set something up.
jeremy
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 17:27:38 (PST)
"After all us asians are "bottom of the food chain" right?"
Asian Sting: I really believe cultural perception on the Asian male will change eventually. Asian men have so much to offer but they are often modest, which unfortunately is not fully appreciated in a culture where men often overinflate their image and exaggerate their assets. I don't suggest they totally adapt to American culture, after all I like them precisely because they are different from many American men, but perhaps they need to speak up more or at least "show off" their assets more so those who are not observant will be sold on them.
Some American men (never women) have commented that my husband is arrogant. He is very confident, but I don't think he is arrogant. I think they just aren't used to seeing an Asian man who is confident and speaks his mind and they are either threatened or don't know how to respond.
I am totally in love with my Asian husband of 7 years. He is intelligent, responsible, committed, capable, daring, sensitive to my needs, loving, fun, humorous, sexy and masculine. We have had some difficult times, but I would not trade him for anything in the world.
souther white girl
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 14:07:01 (PST)
No offense to WF, but there are all kinds of women in all races and Caucasian isn't the exception. Elaine is someone I would consider a slut and cheap ass whore only good for 10 minutes of fantasy... That's alright, but you can recognize these kinds of women from a mile away unless you're some stupid prick... For the WF picking, be smart and choose someone that isn't a slut like Elaine. Best advice is to choose a girl that is friendly, timid, and outgoing and if you're in school, it's better to know her as a study partner and then have some kind of relationship... God, Elaine have probably STD all over here and she didn't even realize it. Those kinds of women are dirt of the bottom feeders and I don't even want those kinds. Thanks for doing us a favor Elaine and I hope you have a nice life...
NonExisted
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 13:56:06 (PST)
"The man I will one day marry and have a family with will be white like myself, but while I'm still single I'm going to party as much as I can with no strings attached and have a sexual weakness for asian men"
Elaine: I hate to say this, but I think your comments are ridiculous and show you fear intimacy--with men, and probably with anyone. You are being dishonest with the asian men you are sleeping with, planning to be dishonest with you future husband, and perhaps most importantly you are being dishonest with yourself. It sounds like you have a dissmissive avoidant attachment style, which ironically (because you are taking it out on men) could actually be due to a poor relationship with your mother. You should really work through this if you want to have a happy life. You should not hurt and use innocent people just because someone else has hurt you.
If this is not the case, then you place too much importance on the conservative views of those around you and should learn to think for yourself and decide for yourself what will make you happy. You need to develop inner strength and character.
Otherwise, I cannot imagine why you would sleep with and date men you would never think of marrying. It isn't logical and is selfish. Thanks for helping to further some very negative stereotypes about white women, making it even more difficult for nice white women to meet Asian men. I have worked hard to show the Asian men I encounter, that white women can be kind, loving, comitted to family and great potential life partners. You are helping no one, not even yourself.
southern white girl
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 13:42:08 (PST)
To Huonu and Curiousity:
Huonu: I've run into that--one Asian American guy I dated broke off the relationship because he was afraid I wouldn't fit into his culture even though I studied Asian culture and speak Chinese (he wasn't Chinese though, so maybe the language wasn't an asset). But he was the oldest male in the family, very conservative and seemed to do whatever his mother wanted, and she didn't want him to date an American girl. My husband didn't care that his mother expressed some concerns (even though she hadn't met me). From what I have seen, many men from China want to date and marry American women. I've had many of my husband's friends ask me to help them find an American girl. But be careful, even if your asian man doesn't care what his family thinks, you will have to deal with his family sooner or later and asian mothers-in-law can be difficult.
Curiousity: For starters, I'd suggest taking an interest in his culture. It will break the ice, show you are open-minded, and if you are interested in a long-term relationship rather than just a fling, help you develop a friendship. If he isn't Asian American and you don't already know, start off by asking him which part of Asia he is from. Then say something like you've always thought it would be interesting to travel there. I wouldn't be too aggressive, but I would be friendly and not afraid to take the first move because he may very well be intimidated by you. I actually sort-of approached my husband first, but I did it in a sweet, shy way which only made him pursue me like crazy once he thought I might be interested. And if you really might want a serious relationship don't sleep with him right away. It will only make him take you less seriously and give him nothing to pursue. That may sound conservative, but men are men and they may like loose women for a fun fling, but I've never seen them commit to them. It is just human nature--the harder he has to try to get you, the more he will appreciate you...of course give him subtle encouragement along the way.
I've dated a couple of asians, have been married for 7 years, and know many asian men so I think I have a good understanding of "the asian man." Feel free to email me if you have more personal questions: yinyang@cox.net
southern white girl
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 13:07:52 (PST)
"Social and family pressures of dating Asians. You tell me...I know of at least five white families who moved from California to get their daughters and sons away from an Asian environment..."My daughter had a crush on this Chinese guy," this white woman in her early forties told me, "now she will get over it.""
Wow, that is crazy. I grew up in a pretty conservative town in the not-so-south south, but I guess my parents and even my conservative Christian grandparents have always been pretty open-minded. My mother was always sort-of a nutty hippie and she was delighted with my Chinese boyfriend, now husband, except for the possibility of us moving to China. My husband is not even Chinese American, he was raised in China, but he gets along great with my family and my family really loves and respects him. My dad has had a few concerns, mostly about anyone taking his "only little girl" away, but I think he is more proud of my husband for his values of hard work and success than he is of his own sons, though he never says it. I think he could be a little jealous too, though, because my husband came to this country with nothing and is now making as much, if not more than my dad. So, there are some father/husband rivalry and some personality issues, but nothing that is cultural as far as I can tell.
"Some WF simply have an attraction to AM hardwired into their genetics but have to deal with the social and family pressures of dating asians. Of those, the rebels are more likely to follow their desires for a long term relationship."
I think this could be true, but it wasn't really the case for me. For me it was more about being raised with cultural awareness from the time I was young, was encouraged to educate myself, be independent, think for myself, and make my own life decisions. My parents may have tried to subconsciously encourage me to marry someone who was kind, educated, and moral but that was about it. My parents were pretty accepting and liked all the guys I dated, white, foreign, and asian, perhaps even more than I liked some of them. I think I am pretty stubborn though, so if they hadn't been so accepting I probably would have been rebellious.
southern white girl
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 12:03:59 (PST)
"BUT! don't ever go to that ASSUIE(austrailia) nearby! whites there are the most racist ppl on earth! i bet u all have heard about that."
I do not believe you. Have you been to Forsyth County in Northern Georgia, Jefferson County in Colorado or Greenville, South Carolina (where they want to protect all "their" women at Bob Jones University) or for that matter, Baton Rouge Louisiana where a Japanese teenager got shot ten years ago for looking different on a Halloween Night? Try chasing white women or girls in Forsyth County, Georgia, Jefferson County, Colorado or at the Bob Jones University or try going to a white church in Cumming, Georgia and sit near a bunch of white girls or women...no one will hear from you again, if you are not found hanging from a tree!
Of coruse, I was in South African during the apartheid years...I have seen non-white boys as young as 12 killed for supposedly making a pass at a white girl, and black girls murdered or literally "painted white" for looking at white boys. It happened in Ladybrand and Ficksburg in the Orange Free State!
I do not think the Aussies can match the White Americans from the US South or the Apartheid South Africa regarding racism. I do not think that even the Germans can, at least in recent years.
Asian American Male
Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 11:30:41 (PST)
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